what defines 'modernity' for you? - Page 9

Originally posted by: CZ..

maybe her wrong choice made her realize her mistake and consequently made her strong? people evolve all the time. I may not be as sensitive (or insensitive 😆) as I was 3 years ago. I may have the strength to deal with difficult situations now, that I might not have had 3 years back. our experience in life shapes our personality too.

a 'loveless marriage' is not worth it; but since it's still a relationship, it deserves to be broken off with respect too.

yeah..we are different that way... call me insensitive, but I dont take 6 months to figure out whats wrong.. I'd still prepare him mentally for 2-3 days may be a week max..and would let him know my decision.. Its like ripping a band-aid (or wax strip😆) off.. sooner the better😃

Originally posted by: sajni786

Well I am seeing some interesting convo on working moms and moms that choose to stay home......

In my opinion..............every woman has a right to choose wat best fits her capability and her line of thinking and thats wat she needs to be given respect about.........respect for being able to make a decision of her own and do wat she believes in........so if she chooses to stay home coz she feels she will not be able to give her 100% to her kids with the type of profession she has, it is justifiable and deserves full respects and if she feels she can manage both her work and her kids........then thats equally fine as well.......

It really will depend on the individual woman herself.........she shud be able to depict her strengths and her weakness and her ability to choose the right from the wrong on the given situation.....and make decisions based on that..........BUT yes..........the decision shud be made by her and not be forced upon by anyone....

I personally feel that being a working married woman myself, if tomorrow I have a child, I may wanna stay home for the first few years coz I believe that a child needs its best nuturing in its early stages of life and needs the utmost care at this stage as well........I believe it is this stage that the child can be instilled with the needed values from its root......I maybe wrong but this is my thinking........but knowing the type of work I do, if my work cannot provide for a work from home facility, then I's rather stay home for the first few years and maybe once they start going back to school, I will get back to my work.........I really dont think this is wasting of education..........I think I am making use of education by being able to make a good decision based upon wat I think is best and suits my lifestyle........

Also........I see that an issue is being brought up regarding why a father cannot be held equally responsible..........well I guess......again I will give my scenario..........If tomorrow I choose to stay home for the initial nursing years, I expect my husband to provide for all of us and no I cant expect him to be home and take care of the kid while I go to work knowing that he is not the person who can even properly make tea for himself.........

So ya..........all in all.......it really depends on each woman individually on wat she thinks.....believes in......knows herself......her lifestyle.......and can balance out accordingly........

The important thing is........that the woman shud be able to make the decision on her own and go full thru with it without any obligation or hestitation.......

Basically saying.........believe in urself........believe in wat u do.....and stand up for wat u believe in.....with complete dignity!!!!!!!!

This is modern woman to me...........😳

PS. Neetzzzzz............i am thoroughly enjoying reading everyone's takes😆😆😆

Modernity of women or men

Originally posted by: Nishitarao

yeah..we are different that way... call me insensitive, but I dont take 6 months to figure out whats wrong.. I'd still prepare him mentally for 2-3 days may be a week max..and would let him know my decision.. Its like ripping a band-aid (or wax strip😆) off.. sooner the better😃

Originally posted by: CZ..

a failing relationship is not a nuisance in life that needs to be ripped apart and thrown into the trash can. maybe it's not 'wrong' ultimately? maybe what you've been thinking to be 'wrong' turns out to be 'right' in the end?

But what if it turns out to be a nuisance Neetz? I tried to answer all your scenarios na.. now try to answer mine..

What if when X tells Y that she still loves Z, he lets her go? what if Z takes her back with open arms and even decides to rise her child like his own? what if Y realizes that his life is much better without X, what if he finds an amazing girl , marries her and have his own family? what if X n Y can still be friends?
If there is a slightest possibility of that happening, Isn't it worth fighting for?

Originally posted by: Nishitarao

Originally posted by: Nishitarao

But what if it turns out to be a nuisance Neetz? I tried to answer all your scenarios na.. now try to answer mine..

What if when X tells Y that she still loves Z, he lets her go? what if Z takes her back with open arms and even decides to rise her child like his own? what if Y realizes that his life is much better without X, what if he finds an amazing girl , marries her and have his own family? what if X n Y can still be friends?

If there is a slightest possibility of that happening, Isn't it worth fighting for?

Neetz.. I think we have reached a dead end in this discussion.. you say she must stick to it and give her best shot n I say she is only wasting both of their time by doing that.. So lets agree to disagree and leave it at that..😆

Is the discussion about working women still on?

^okay. yep the discussion is still on, you can read the last few pages to catch up if you want.

Originally posted by: -ASTHA-

Exactly

Thats the real defination of mordernity.

Riddhima never took decision of her life by her own wish and mordern woman dont like others decision in her life.

She fall for armaan was only her decision.

And rest of the decision was taken by either parents and husband or society.

She tied a knot with sid because of society pressure and family reputation,

She decide to move on because of Sid.

Even living with sid was not her decision it was sid's decision.

So where is mordernity in DMG?

According to me right now she is showing mordernity and maturity both.

Only a mordrn woman can take such tough decision and only mature woman have enough guts to solve life of all people which was muddle becoz of her one wrong action.

Are you a regular viewer of DMG? I am confused now. The highlighted part is not true. To live with sid is not sid's decision. It was completely Rid's decision. SID was in fact act as a very modern husband who gave her wife a total option to go to her ex. How can you say that SID force her to stay? When , which episode sid forced her?

Second thing you told that RID except loving Arman no decision has been taken herself and everything was forced. Really??? The remarriage was forced??? Who forced Rid to remarry??? We also seen sometimes RID was very much careful to SID like whether SID had eaten anything or not etc. Was it force???

Sorry to say but you totally misinterpreted SID to defend RID.