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sajni786

@sajni786

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Posted: 14 years ago

#71

Well I am seeing some interesting convo on working moms and moms that choose to stay home......

In my opinion..............every woman has a right to choose wat best fits her capability and her line of thinking and thats wat she needs to be given respect about.........respect for being able to make a decision of her own and do wat she believes in........so if she chooses to stay home coz she feels she will not be able to give her 100% to her kids with the type of profession she has, it is justifiable and deserves full respects and if she feels she can manage both her work and her kids........then thats equally fine as well.......

It really will depend on the individual woman herself.........she shud be able to depict her strengths and her weakness and her ability to choose the right from the wrong on the given situation.....and make decisions based on that..........BUT yes..........the decision shud be made by her and not be forced upon by anyone....

I personally feel that being a working married woman myself, if tomorrow I have a child, I may wanna stay home for the first few years coz I believe that a child needs its best nuturing in its early stages of life and needs the utmost care at this stage as well........I believe it is this stage that the child can be instilled with the needed values from its root......I maybe wrong but this is my thinking........but knowing the type of work I do, if my work cannot provide for a work from home facility, then I's rather stay home for the first few years and maybe once they start going back to school, I will get back to my work.........I really dont think this is wasting of education..........I think I am making use of education by being able to make a good decision based upon wat I think is best and suits my lifestyle........

Also........I see that an issue is being brought up regarding why a father cannot be held equally responsible..........well I guess......again I will give my scenario..........If tomorrow I choose to stay home for the initial nursing years, I expect my husband to provide for all of us and no I cant expect him to be home and take care of the kid while I go to work knowing that he is not the person who can even properly make tea for himself.........

So ya..........all in all.......it really depends on each woman individually on wat she thinks.....believes in......knows herself......her lifestyle.......and can balance out accordingly........

The important thing is........that the woman shud be able to make the decision on her own and go full thru with it without any obligation or hestitation.......

Basically saying.........believe in urself........believe in wat u do.....and stand up for wat u believe in.....with complete dignity!!!!!!!!

This is modern woman to me...........😳

PS. Neetzzzzz............i am thoroughly enjoying reading everyone's takes😆😆😆

Edited by sajni786 - 14 years ago

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Nishita Rao

@Nishitarao

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Posted: 14 years ago

#72

@ Neetz.. We were talking about modern women...so Ridz doesn't come into picture remember😆

Here is a hypothetical situation for you.. (god! this is getting deeper😆)
Lets say X has a heart-to-heart with Y.. Y says.. yeah lets give this marriage 6 months, if nothing works out we will break it.. now in these 6 months, both will try their best to make things work.. Since they are consciously trying, they might actually feel good about it.. for sometime...Y may start feeling like everything is gonna be alright now.. then suddenly one day X will realize that this is not working for her at all.. but at the same time she is not even sure if she has tried hard enough.. (Its like preparing for a competitive exam, no matter how much you study, you'll feel like you haven't done enough 😆) what do you think she must do? coz.. clearly they are back to square one..😕

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Nishita Rao

@Nishitarao

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Posted: 14 years ago

#73

@working/non working women.. wow! This is a very interesting topic..

I have to go now..but I'll post my views soon..
I'm somewhere b/w Neetz and Sangeetha..

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Neeta

@U-No-Poo

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Posted: 14 years ago

#74

Originally posted by: Nishitarao
@ Neetz.. We were talking about modern women...so Ridz doesn't come into picture remember😆

Here is a hypothetical situation for you.. (god! this is getting deeper😆)
Lets say X has a heart-to-heart with Y.. Y says.. yeah lets give this marriage 6 months, if nothing works out we will break it.. now in these 6 months, both will try their best to make things work.. Since they are consciously trying, they might actually feel good about it.. for sometime...Y may start feeling like everything is gonna be alright now.. then suddenly one day X will realize that this is not working for her at all.. but at the same time she is not even sure if she has tried hard enough.. (Its like preparing for a competitive exam, no matter how much you study, you'll feel like you haven't done enough 😆) what do you think she must do? coz.. clearly they are back to square one..😕

I'd say she's having PMS 😆

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Nishita Rao

@Nishitarao

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Posted: 14 years ago

#75

Originally posted by: CZ..

I'd say she's having PMS 😆

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I'd say she must choose option 3 and tell him on his face😆

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Neeta

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Posted: 14 years ago

#76

^see the point is that if that '6 months time' is given to the relationship with enough clarity in mind, about their current situation, and how those 6 months might shape their relationship in future, it wouldn't bring about the 'PMS situation' in the first place. no woman with enough clarity in her mind will ever feel, 'I'm not trying enough...' - that's a form of self pity. a strong woman would tell herself, 'I tried my best, and I failed. I should step away before it's too late'.

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Nishita Rao

@Nishitarao

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Posted: 14 years ago

#77

Originally posted by: CZ..
^see the point is that if that '6 months time' is given to the relationship with enough clarity in mind, about their current situation, and how those 6 months might shape their relationship in future, it wouldn't bring about the 'PMS situation' in the first place. no woman with enough clarity in her mind will ever feel, 'I'm not trying enough...' - that's a form of self pity. a strong woman would tell herself, 'I tried my best, and I failed. I should step away before it's too late'.

Neetz I think a strong woman would have never married the wrong guy in the first place.. If she did for whatever reasons, the reason itself will be enough to encourage her to keep going till the end.. 😊

I don't believe in loveless marriage, if two people are not in love, then living in that relationship is like living a 'big boss' life..😊

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Neeta

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Posted: 14 years ago

#78

Originally posted by: Nishitarao

Neetz I think a strong woman would have never married the wrong guy in the first place.. If she did for whatever reasons, the reason itself will be enough to encourage her to keep going till the end.. 😊

I don't believe in loveless marriage, if two people are not in love, then living in that relationship is like living a 'big boss' life..😊

maybe her wrong choice made her realize her mistake and consequently made her strong? people evolve all the time. I may not be as sensitive (or insensitive 😆) as I was 3 years ago. I may have the strength to deal with difficult situations now, that I might not have had 3 years back. our experience in life shapes our personality too.

a 'loveless marriage' is not worth it; but since it's still a relationship, it deserves to be broken off with respect too.

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munks

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Posted: 14 years ago

#79

Originally posted by: CZ..

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Star

@starasdf

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Posted: 14 years ago

#80

Originally posted by: Nishitarao

Neetz I think a strong woman would have never married the wrong guy in the first place.. If she did for whatever reasons, the reason itself will be enough to encourage her to keep going till the end.. 😊

I don't believe in loveless marriage, if two people are not in love, then living in that relationship is like living a 'big boss' life..😊

I agree a strong woman would not do that and Ridhhima is not a strong woman she married Sid in pressure..she was not able to speak her own mind which shows that shes not strong.

When she did marry him..after Armaan came back she stopped trying. She did not take her marriage as her responsibility instead went became obsessive over something that a woman shouldn't be after marriage.

If this was to be broken off it should have been long before she Sid develop feelings for her and she responded to them

Edited by starasdf - 14 years ago