Armaan is a decent guy - Page 2

Originally posted by: pavs

You completely fail to understand why he is getting so much of criticism and bashing. he didnt feel any qualms gatecrashing a married couple's honeymoon, seducing his friend's wife behind his back, backstabbing his friend's trust, stalking his friend's wife, emotionally pressurizing her and using physical and mental manipulation to make her confess her feelings, trying to interfere in husband-wife's conversations, going to sid's house to 'take' riddhiam from there, and offcourse feeling guilty 1 sec and next sec reverting back to the same action.....r these reasons enuff for u to understand y he is getting bashed???

Originally posted by: trina_one

For anyone who thinks Armaan is a backstabbing person, let us please remind ourselves he was the one who played cupid in the first place. It isn't his fault if things didn't work out. When he realized Riddhima still loved him, it was hard. He couldn't deny his own still-strong feelings and he couldn't just forget Riddhima like that. He didn't force Riddhima into loving him, they had a history together long before sid came into the picture. Noone can deny that. How about how Sid tried to ruin Tamanna's engagement with the Hindi professor? How about how he went to the restaurant where they were meeting? And how he tried to kidnap her with the help of his friends? Was that any more selfish than what Armaan has done? If anyone is going to point fingers, let's at least look at both sides of the story.

Both of them are imperfect in their own ways, but both have loved other people deeply and that is why so many people watch them.

Originally posted by: munks

Actually, I don't have a problem with what is being said about him as much as I have a problem with it being said ONLY about him. Yes, it could be said Armaan 'enticed' Ridhdhima, and I can see that. But given their history, she has refrained from kissing him when they were officially together. Clearly, she could have stopped him during that whole tent event. Ridhdhima is a lot of things, but promiscuous is absolutely not of them.

It is said, women use physical interaction as a means for intimacy, men use intimacy as a means for physical interaction.

The next thought process follows from there. A woman who refuses to kiss her boyfriend (as he was at the time), engages in intimacy with him now that he's her EX-boyfriend and she's married to someone else. For him, that was a clear indicator that her feelings for him are still as strong. Add to which he finds out that the husband and wife have not been intimate at all. That started the whole stalking situation and pressurizing tactics.

Ridhdhima has been portrayed as so weak-willed, everyone else seems to make decisions for her- except when it comes to sending Armaan into the ICU, of course. That decision, she can make easily enough. So, Armaan had to make the decision for Ridhdhima once again, that she would have to tell Sid what happened. So that Sid could figure out if he wanted to be with Ridhdhima. He couldn't very well go and tell Sid himself, now could he?

That said, there is no justification for not exiting a room when a wife is about to make a shocking confession, especially when you are involved. Just as there is no justification for going to your lover's house after the said confession.

I personally believe, Sid deserves better. Yes, Armaan's motives were towards personal gain as well, no doubt, but he did also say (consistently) why should Sid compromise? And why should Sid? In fact, I wish Sid had told Ridhdhima today that one of the reasons he wants to end the marriage is so he can find a love that is his and his alone. I doubt any of Sid's fans wanted him to end up with Ridhdhima in light of everything that's played out.

@trina

awesome post n thanks 4 the pm

U are absolutely correct n u said it all

but some ppl only like ARMAAN when he does sth in their favour

They judge him on their personal liking

Not thinking logically

Why blame ARMAAN , when RIddhima herself surrendered 2 him??

ARMAAN knows Riddhima loves him,

He had tried 2 move away 4m her life but like u said thing dint work out between Sid n Riddhima

n now when he knows the truth abt RIDDHIMA loving him why He'll back off???

It will be truely unfair if he moves out of Riddhima llife knowing that shge loves him only doing her farz as a patni.

ARMAAN knows if Riddhima stays in this one sided love marrriage, none will be happy ..

@munks u are awesome n so ur writings pls come up wid more of ur piece of mind

Originally posted by: pavs

i cnt believe you are comparing sth as heinous as making out with sum1 else's wife behind his back to sid going to the restaurant to spy on tamanna and aniket...i guess we r on complete diff tangents to actually even try to understand each other...each to his own...u think arman is decent. i think arman was decent till some events forced me to change my view on his character. peace out

Originally posted by: munks

Actually, I don't have a problem with what is being said about him as much as I have a problem with it being said ONLY about him. Yes, it could be said Armaan 'enticed' Ridhdhima, and I can see that. But given their history, she has refrained from kissing him when they were officially together. Clearly, she could have stopped him during that whole tent event. Ridhdhima is a lot of things, but promiscuous is absolutely not of them. See nobody has blamed only arman . Riddhima was dissed equally and now even more. Riddhima should have stopped arman no doubt about it but the problem wdnt have arisen if arman wudnt have gatecrashed their honeymoon and sneaked into the place decorated by sid. Her character is so messed up i cnt even speak 1 single thing in her favour. She comes to the tent, expresses love for her hubby, was enjoying arman's touch initially thinking him to be sid and then when she found its arman she got shocked for 2 secs and then continued enjoying. That clearly means that she cozied up with both hubby and ex. i wont call her promiscous but definitely a two timer goign by this instance

It is said, women use physical interaction as a means for intimacy, men use intimacy as a means for physical interaction.

The next thought process follows from there. A woman who refuses to kiss her boyfriend (as he was at the time), engages in intimacy with him now that he's her EX-boyfriend and she's married to someone else. For him, that was a clear indicator that her feelings for him are still as strong. Add to which he finds out that the husband and wife have not been intimate at all. That started the whole stalking situation and pressurizing tactics.even if this whole incident made arman think that she still cares for him what was the need of mentally harassing her, literally making fun of her marriage without even knowing half the truht abt siddhima bond. Judging a relation based on the establishment of physical intimacy is superflous. And isnt it ironical that just by spending some intimate moments he suddenly realized she still has feelings for him when all along he 'cdnt see the love in her eyes'??

Ridhdhima has been portrayed as so weak-willed, everyone else seems to make decisions for her- except when it comes to sending Armaan into the ICU, of course. That decision, she can make easily enough. So, Armaan had to make the decision for Ridhdhima once again, that she would have to tell Sid what happened. So that Sid could figure out if he wanted to be with Ridhdhima. He couldn't very well go and tell Sid himself, now could he?I agree riddhima is possibly the most daft , most indecisive female protagonist ever shown on tv . Arman asked riddhiam to tell sid vryhtign based on the premise that she still loves him. he didnt even think this way that riddhima may not even wanna tell her hubby abt tht tent sequence coz she wants to stay with her hubby and the truth abt 'kamzor pal' may break her marriage. Arman is not someone to make riddhiam tell the truth to sid//it ws ultimately her prerogative to let her husband know the truth. The ruthless character tht arman had become at tht moment he shud hv gone ahead n told sid rather than playing these kinda games behind his back.

That said, there is no justification for not exiting a room when a wife is about to make a shocking confession, especially when you are involved. Just as there is no justification for going to your lover's house after the said confession.

I personally believe, Sid deserves better. Yes, Armaan's motives were towards personal gain as well, no doubt, but he did also say (consistently) why should Sid compromise? And why should Sid? In fact, I wish Sid had told Ridhdhima today that one of the reasons he wants to end the marriage is so he can find a love that is his and his alone. I doubt any of Sid's fans wanted him to end up with Ridhdhima in light of everything that's played out. Again , all his thought processes abt y shud sid compromise was based on the premise tht she still loved him.yeah sid deserves better. We know tht now. But we also know tht concern for sid shown by arman ws just a murly garb coz as soon as sid said a word against their tent fiasco u cud see arman showing he hardly cares abt sid's well being.

Originally posted by: pavs