EXTENT OF shankys SELFISHNESS! - Page 6

Originally posted by: BlueSoul

The TM says, that now when shanky needs helps...he's going back to Armaan...thats his selfish act.

Not that he is asking his daughter to stay in the marriage...is his selfish step.

lol...i just went back to read the topic again....and guess what.... its edited...

Originally posted by: mystic_dunes

a point here....very few men or women in actual life can be termed bad...so what was shashanks criteria ..sid is good ..so might be a dozen men around..why sid..coz he did something that forced this decision on this family...

i wouldn't exactly call this kind of father selfish..but he sure doesnt put his daughter's happiness before society's censure thats for sure

and lack of passions is not happiness..white is not absence of color similary happiness is not absence of problems...adaptation and adjustments and believing that this is ur fate is fatalism..telling ur mind and heart this is the man with whom i have to spend the rest of my life and conditioning urself to do that....i wont call it happiness...

Originally posted by: JulieArmaan

Never once did Riddhima go and tell Dr. Shashank that she wanted to go back to Armaan. When he first met her, after he came back from his vacation, she said "Kya aap Armaan ko wapas bhej deinge? Kya aap Sid ko mujhe thalak deine se rokenge?" (sry for the bad spelling 😊 )

Shashank is trying to do exactly like that. Shashank never forced Riddhima to do anything. She agreed to marry Sid. When the whole marriage with Sid issue came up, Sid and Riddhima were friends remember. She didn't hate him then. Shashank was thinking about the long run. His daughter was suffering, Armaan wasn't going to come back and he saw that Sid was the only one who could teach her to live again and give her back her respect and all that stuff.

Of course, I'm just 18 so what do i know right? But wait, Riddhima was starting to enjoy her life and marriage with Sid just before Armaan showed up. So I guess Dr. Shashank did make the right decision.

The whole, let your kids make their own mistakes, is fine for smaller things, but something like this which has the potential to ruin your child's life is not a situation where this philosophy can be applied. I keep telling my dad to let me make my own decisions and to let me make my own mistakes and most of the time he lets me but if it was something big like this, he would never let me ruin my life.

Last point, as has been mentioned earlier, 2.5 years of love between Armaan and Riddhima does not measure up to the years and years of love between Shashank and Riddhima. Shashank has all the right to guide and advise Riddhima. If Riddhima decides to take that advice then you can't say that she is being forced to follow a certain decision. She trusts her dad to do the right thing.

Originally posted by: rahmona_pakswe

I can understand that he wanted to give Riddhima a respectful life but I'm still wondering is society everything? He could have stood by his daughter. I know going against the society is not easy, believe me I have a long experience in that, but sometimes taking the hard way can in the be better for you. I have many times taken the hard and sometimes very painful way but in the end it was worth it.

Originally posted by: JulieArmaan

To the mystic.. Ridhimas parents forced her to try commit suicide.. On one side she cudnt say no to her parents and in the other was her love for Armaan and a guy she did not want to marry! She saw only one way out because her parents were nt supporting her! Yea it was a wrng step but her parents shud have triedto undestand her and give her heart time to heal!

And with regards to sid.. She started to accept the truth not fall for him! Like she always says that sid is her sachai! Dnt u remember the fireescape scene when she almost kissed Armaan but sids mother had to ruin it! And her tears and running away from sid when he asked if she still loves Armaan!

gawd...how many times do you want me to repeat same facts again and again???

anyhow...i think...read...bookworm,abhi's comment....will answer all your questions

and yeah will say it again...once more....plz read carefully....

i never said she loved sid....she would have eventually fallen for him too(now dnt tell me she wouldnt have...she had already started to harbour feelings for him...remember the phone conversation and all the anticipation to meet him.....but her past just came and distturbed evrythg

i am very much sure if Armaan wouldnt have turned up she would have led a very happy life

i hope ab samjh aagaya ho...aur shud i write in arabic or urdu...coz those are the only languagese i know bside hindi, and english

Originally posted by: eveline

@bookworm.abhi...and what makes u soo sure that divorce with sid is a wrong decision that will destroy and ruin her life ???

And one more thing...shashank, more than anyone has been a witness to the kind of love, devotion and committment AR share..he has seen it all up close...armaan and ridhima's happiness is a surity for him and he knows that...so if its his daughter's happiness in the long run then why gamble it with a man like Sid who already has done plenty like clicking those pictures and what not and why not let her be with the man ..whose love and loyalty he is assured of.....

the point here...he and his daughter will have to face the society ...and he is not ready to do that...

clicking pictures...??

he just did that to make her realize how it really feels when yor reputation is at stake(though im not condoning his actions)...cmon she was hurling false accusations at him

aur waise bhi didnt Armaan try to do the same...when riddhima played the rape prank .,...he went to her house toactually to teach her a lesson

you know i have nothin against Armaan or sid,,,

but you ppl just need a thing to criticise sid...why cant you guys for once see from other POV too

Originally posted by: eveline

@bookworm.abhi...and what makes u soo sure that divorce with sid is a wrong decision that will destroy and ruin her life ???