Underage Relationships Justified ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Controling raging hormones and setting life's priorities can be done with the help of matured, able parents and loving friends.

..If they can develop birth control pills, why not hormone control pills.? 😉 for the young and the restless..

I think when teens or adults engage in social interaction elsewhere , it is usually indicative of lack of the same at home - love, being appreciated and feeling usefull.

Originally posted by: anon

👏 👏 Well said Sohn.

I guess it all depends on person's state of mind and their way of thinking. Also on how they priortise things in their life. How much Importance they give to certain things in their life and where thweir mind actually is. 😉

Sometimes no matter how focused you can be , some one just takes over ur mind and head, lolssss 😆

And hell yeah, the way ur parents have brought u up counts for a lot. This is what you base your actions on.

E.G if your parents have always told you Yes u have to study no matter what, then u know ur direction in life, however if ur parents are the type to not care wht u get up to, then it is these ppl tht are out late partying and off with 1958776 Girls/Boyz.

So upbringing counts for a lot too. U should know ur limits 😉

So end of day Upbringing, family values, Teenagers state of mind, maturity etc all count for these things.

Thankoo ☺️

Originally posted by: rutumodi915

I agree on most parts with you Subha Di! 😊

Ek question, I know you said that parents play a very important at this stage of child's life, then how come example was given only of mother choosing jewellery designs? You will be the last person to do so, but I am just thinking if we sub-conciously we actually expect the mother to play a bigger role in this up-bringing? It is just a simple query, I hope I am not taken negatively. 😊

excellent question & caught my gender-bias blooper 😡😳😭 ( why no emoticon for beating u up 👎🏼) 😆.

My monologue was based on my experience and as a girl, my mom has tremendous influence in imparting value system to me. I guess my mom was very friendly, very open, very vigilant and very active in helping me choose my role models. I remember her talking to me about how it was normal for me to have a crush on say XYZ, yet how important to prove who I am and then go after him after I became somebody! Dad always treated me like his son (still does) and is my best friend, but I did not share my underage crushes with him... Well, nobody was / is / will be good enough for me according to him anyway .. I knew it, you see! His role as a parent was more silent. I always looked up to him and knew that ACCOMPLISHMENT outside of house mattered. It mattered to focus on career and studies in order to get that high up the ladder.

Motherhood is a responsible job. Everybody rises up for accolade after delivering children, but few actually deserve it. If mother is wasted, chances of teens going wasted are higher. Mothers spend more time with girls (even working mothers) in comparison to fathers. Mothers are also more vigilant in terms of EMOTIONAL well-being of their children (both sons and daughters- personal observation), since DADS often need to be TOLD about any issue. they have no capacity to guess and grasp!! .. 😆😆

again, my post was based on my experience as a teen. My dad used to be a globe trotter back then- rarely at home. Recently, I have seen more & more fathers being involved while mothers doing their own things (not necessarily related to their career- let me clear b4 someone begins to bash career women). Perhaps times have changed 👍🏼. I am 33, so meri sweet friend, can you cut me itty bitty slack for thinking that mothers impart values to daughters more than fathers do?😆😆

Last funny short answer to your question underlined- about only mothers choosing jewellery designs
🤔 sorry dear, but never heard of dads choosing jewellery designs 😈 ..
😆😆

Originally posted by: lighthouse

..If they can develop birth control pills, why not hormone control pills.? 😉 for the young and the restless..

I think when teens or adults engage in social interaction elsewhere , it is usually indicative of lack of the same at home - love, being appreciated and feeling usefull.

precisely!! That's why Parents and good friend circle, excelent hobbies is the PILL for hormone control 😆😆..

LOL @ hormone control pills- do we really need hairy women and round chested men? j/k

Originally posted by: sohn

Thankoo ☺️

Oh yes, excellent post!

Thank-you QT, I also liked your response and agree..😊 However controlling hormones, hmm tough one there😆

Hey and just read ur other post, and very true with mothers, they are the foundation and dad's very frequently have No idea whts goin on and have to be alerted to situations...same goes in my house😉

Originally posted by: Charming*Angel

Hi...🤗

1. I have seen a lot of young teenagers hanging out late after school with their boyfriends/girlfriends. Being young, do you think that young kids have the rights to have these relationships?

2. Many youngsters these days, spend late nights chatting on the net, using mobile phones to chat, etc... Do you think that is right?

3. Don't you think that this is the time to study and become something? Is it right to have an underage relationship with someone? What age do you think is suitable for all this?

Please share your views.

-Misha😉

Hi and Welcome to DM Misha!

To begin, when one talks about relationship, the word has a whole lot of meaning... when the real meaning of the word is understood, i.e relationships are divine irrespective of name/location/age/caste/creed etc... doesn't matter, but my response strictly based on original post.

1. Why not? it's a good learning experience to understand real value of the word relationship.

2. Thats merely a timepass, to explore and to satisfy young minds curiosities.

3. It's a just a way of entertainment and satisfying natural outbust of unknown feelings. All individuals with time have the sense to make the judgement, God gifted and enforced by society, know whats best fo them (selfish devil in play, involuntarily). Again age is no bar, even in vice a vesa scenario.

As an youth all are well educated and informed to make right decision, if the decision is wrong, we know the consequences too. Way of life. Without failures no one succeeds, toh go ahead with prime focus on making efforts to meet parental expectation careerwise, never let them down.😊

There is really no right or wrong age for relationships. It depends when both individuals are read. Some twelve years olds can be wise beyond their years and some thirty somethings can be immature jerks.

If two kids want to be in a relationship so be it. It is indeed a good social interaction. A stepping stone into the world of relationships and through time they slowly learn the meaning of relationships. I think a few innocent crushes, a few heartbreaks are all part of growing up. If kids want to chat, send SMS thats fine. Its a form of interaction.

That all being said education and responsibilities are a priority. Old or young, people should be able to fulfill their responsibilities while being in a relationship. If the relationship is affecting their performance and making them shirk responsibilities. Then it is time to take a break and restart when there is a better ability to balance life. Even grown ups have massive challenges balancing work and their family, it will be a challenge for kids as part of growing up.

While kids are underage I don't think parents should be harsh and discourage children, but guide them towards balancing life, being mature and making the right choices while being in a relationship.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

There is really no right or wrong age for relationships.

If two kids want to be in a relationship so be it. It is indeed a good social interaction. A stepping stone into the world of relationships and through time they slowly learn the meaning of relationships. I think a few innocent crushes, a few heartbreaks are all part of growing up. If kids want to chat, send SMS thats fine. Its a form of interaction.

That all being said education and responsibilities are a priority. Old or young, people should be able to fulfill their responsibilities while being in a relationship. If the relationship is affecting their performance and making them shirk responsibilities. Then it is time to take a break and restart when there is a better ability to balance life. Even grown ups have massive challenges balancing work and their family, it will be a challenge for kids as part of growing up.

While kids are underage I don't think parents should be harsh and discourage children, but guide them towards balancing life, being mature and making the right choices while being in a relationship.

Excellent points!!👏 👏 👏....

Sincere relationships,I approve,age notwithstanding...Frivolous flirting, obscene groping and lascivious kissing..vehemently disapprove!!🤢

It's natural for people to harbour crushes,to be very taken with someone of the oppoite sex...I see no fault if they decide to take it a bit further,if the attraction is mutual!!..Sometimes,one might be attracted to someone for reasons more profound..!! Which explains why friends start harbouring amorous feelings which transcend the friendship!!...What is the crime if someone can make one feel happy and cheerful,what's wrong in going out with that person??...

Time management is essential,one needs to allot sufficient time to all of the responsibilities...Responsibilities include academics and other obligations and the dalliance itself..I know it's a bit unreasonable to expect 15-16 year olds to view the relationship as a responsibility,as the word "responsibility" usually connotes "burden" of varying degrees,but well,isn't life about shouldering responsibilities with sincerity,with integrity..Atleast that's how I see it!!!...When one invests so much of passion,emotion and feelings in a relationship,the relationship is to a great extent responsible to the two people who constitute it....If one feels that by embarking on the relationship,one would have to shirk ANY of the aforementioned responsibilities,then it'd be prudent not to plunge into the liaison...PERIOD!

But shying away from a possible, promissing relationship due to fear is truly pitiable..Fear that the relationship wouldn't work out,or fear that the parents would disapprove...Considering both these cases..If the worst comes to the worst,the relationship would fail.....One would realise that one made a mistake....I simply fail to understand why people are frightened of making mistakes😕...I feel its our prerogative to make mistakes,we should be ALLOWED to make mistakes....A mistake is an experience,a learning experience,a highly effective lesson,an experience which helps people to understand better,to realise the flaws in their priorities....Relationships are indeed a stepping stone to maturity,an instrument of prioritisation and growing up......

Secondly,the fear of parents...Sometimes,parents can be outrageously opinionated and irrational...I'm glad my parents aren't of that ilk,and REALLY pity those who have unreasonable,unyielding and rigid parents, especially mothers....Such attitude of parents isn't the least helpful and is positively perilous,for the kids end up dating in the sly and look up to friends for advice,and mess up their lives on basis of bad/ill advice...The more forceful the parent is,the more rebellious the child feels....Extremely domineering and persuasive behaviour of the parent(s) mostly backfires and drives the kid into doing something illogical and foolish.....Parents need to give their kids enough space,should NOT breath down the kids' necks ,should NOT spy on the kids...

Most importantly,should NOT tell the kid "You're just a kid.You don't know what is good for you.Leave that to us" or "When we were young,we were such great kids,we never did anything this shameful" ....There's nothing more off-putting than that!!😆..No kid wants to hear that or believe that he/she is immature and foolish..parents can be much more tactful, considerate and judicious than spouting on about how the child cannot make the proper decision.....Finally,I'd like to quote QT,who summed it up beautifully...

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Controling raging hormones and setting life's priorities can be done with the help of matured, able parents and loving friends.

And more importantly,UNDERSTANDING parents...

Originally posted by: raj5000

Hi and Welcome to DM Misha!

To begin, when one talks about relationship, the word has a whole lot of meaning... when the real meaning of the word is understood, i.e relationships are divine irrespective of name/location/age/caste/creed etc... doesn't matter, but my response strictly based on original post.

1. Why not? it's a good learning experience to understand real value of the word relationship.

2. Thats merely a timepass, to explore and to satisfy young minds curiosities.

3. It's a just a way of entertainment and satisfying natural outbust of unknown feelings. All individuals with time have the sense to make the judgement, God gifted and enforced by society, know whats best fo them (selfish devil in play, involuntarily). Again age is no bar, even in vice a vesa scenario.

As an youth all are well educated and informed to make right decision, if the decision is wrong, we know the consequences too. Way of life. Without failures no one succeeds, toh go ahead with prime focus on making efforts to meet parental expectation careerwise, never let them down.😊

Brilliant post Raj...

It sums up what I would have said...

an individual only learns from their mistakes...

And as people say curiosity kills the cat...at that age curiosity is at its peak in every way possible...and everyone wants to try something or the other...not just having a boyfriend/girlfriend...but trying out alcohol, smoking, maybe drugs to a certain extent as well and sex.

Hormones definitely play a huge part in this and so does the need to be "cool"...

which brings me to society which plays a huge part...I have seen in a lot of schools and colleges nowadays if u dont have a partner ur termed a geek or something similar...so a lot of people just to be in the in crowd will start having a relationship...but this is all a part and process of growing up, and its fun as well for a youngster...

you cant alway sit around studying at home...young days are the best days to go and enjoy yourself...as they never come back.