Reasons for falling out of love. - Page 2

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

There are many reasons why we fall in love with someone.............their humour, their personality, their looks etc etc. But what if after 10 years we sit there questioning ourselves as to whether or not we still really love that person. What could be some of the reasons for falling out of love?

Lets assume that there are no fights and no other man or woman who has enterd into your life ......why would you fall out of love with someone?

Also, why don't we ever fall out of love with our kids and parents no matter how much we fight with them?

By nature man (and woman ) are not supposed to be monogamous.. Except for round intenstinal worm, no animal is. Falling in and out of love and adultery happens too often . Man has learnt to control this instinct just as we control violent instincts. Although a person may be in love once, without proper incentive it is easy to fall out of love..

Love for our blood relatives is different and besides who wants to have a second set of parents or sibblings to deal with in one life anyway.. 😉

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

so if you love your spouse but not in love with them then its okay? is this normal?

Why not? What is the alternative anyway? why does it have to be love me to death or nothing? In our daily lives , don't we settle for everything even if it is not THE thing we want like in job, clothes, house, kids, relatives etc.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

Why not? What is the alternative anyway? why does it have to be love me to death or nothing? In our daily lives , don't we settle for everything even if it is not THE thing we want like in job, clothes, house, kids, relatives etc.

your right, we do settle for a lot of things in life. but should your spouse be one of those things?

is it possible to love someone to death for the rest of your life? or do we all fall out of love with our spouses after living with them for so long and just love them? do you understand what i'm trying to ask? should you always be IN love with your spouse or is it okay if you just love them? 😕

is it fair to your spouse that your not in love with them but they do not know?

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

thanks maya!

is there such a thing as loving your spouse but not being IN love with them? if this is the case should you still stay with your spouse....if kids are involved and you have no other problems with the spouse?

Jalebi (I love calling you that😆), I can't answer this question well because I am in love with my chunni ke bapu. 😳

So let me take an hypothetical situation. If there is infidelity involved then there is no point in staying in the relationship. Still I have heard people making compromises even in such situations when kids are involved. Then there are ego issues, parental interference, jealousy etc. which can be tackled but many times lack of communication worsens sitautions and couple grow apart. They simply live together for sake of everything. This is very common and I have seen many families back home who love/like each other and live under one roof but they aren't really in love.

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

is it fair to your spouse that your not in love with them but they do not know?

That's tough to answer but I guess it is very common. Life is all about compromises and adjustments. True love is not just exchanging greetings, diamonds and flowers it is also about adjusting to many situations.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

That's tough to answer but I guess it is very common. Life is all about compromises and adjustments. True love is not just exchanging greetings, diamonds and flowers it is also about adjusting to many situations.

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

bingo! there is nothing as intimate, and hence as complicated though beautiful as M-W relation imo.

M-W relation.... whats then for thursday and friday and saturday in yho?

😆

Originally posted by: Maya_M

That's tough to answer but I guess it is very common. Life is all about compromises and adjustments. True love is not just exchanging greetings, diamonds and flowers it is also about adjusting to many situations.

You mean asjusting like in a mumbai local train.. yeah there is lot of adjusting..the lovers of misery.....😆

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

M-W relation.... whats then for thursday and friday and saturday in yho

😆

m-w = man-woman .. not monday to wed.. thu thru sun is the most imp part of week.

u shud be glad enough i did not mention other holkar-bai-approved spousal relations.. just mentioned man-woman . haha