Reasons for falling out of love. - Page 5

if you fall out of it , it wasnt love in the first place.

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

There are many reasons why we fall in love with someone.............their humour, their personality, their looks etc etc. But what if after 10 years we sit there questioning ourselves as to whether or not we still really love that person. What could be some of the reasons for falling out of love?

Lets assume that there are no fights and no other man or woman who has enterd into your life ......why would you fall out of love with someone?

Also, why don't we ever fall out of love with our kids and parents no matter how much we fight with them?

So you are asking why do we fall out of love even if there is no other person involved. Below is my input:

I really think first we are in love with someone. After a while we are not in love but we love the person. Why do we feel we fell out of love? First everything is new. We love the way someone addresses us, we love his/her smile, the way the person projects him/herself, the way the person treats us etc. We are excited like we have a new car or dress or anything new we possess.

Slowly we start taking eachother for granted. Whereas we gave eachother a good morning kiss or smile, or have a good day wave, we sometimes forget to acknowledge him/her when they return home because we are too tired ourselves. If there are kids involved then it becomes even worse as we are running to feed them and take them to their soccer training etc.

This, and other things, build up lack of communication and frustration. Both parties feel the other person has changed. I also feel we tend to get bored with eachother. One of my Profs. told me once that if you see a couple in a restaurant chatting or holding hands, either they are not married or they have been married less than five years.

The other problem may be that we are too stubborn in our perception of things and our views and we donot feel the need to listen with our partner's views or we always find they contradict ours and unacceptable to us.

I feel looking good (of course we cannot do it all the time), keeping a little spark in our lives, caring for one another, lending a helping hand, escaping for dinner for two, just sitting holding hands, doing an activity together, even if its a walk.......... just takes a little effort to make it work😳

Why do we not fall out of love with our kids or parents no matter how much we fight???? Simple.......... blood is thicker. That bond is very hard to cut........ I have seen families who parted due to bitter fight, unite with lot of love..... on reality shows.

Cheers😳

Originally posted by: chatbuster

reasons for falling out of love? well, how about it's monday and it's a new week? 😉 😆

😆 As there are reasons or no reasons to fall in love, there can be reasons or no reasons to fall out of love.. Love is a 2 way street and we the people should respect the right and freedom to change our minds if the choice does not work out after sometime.. One must think with the heart and head when falling in love and do the same when falling out of love..but not to make it into a weekly introspection ok...😆

Originally posted by: moron

if you fall out of it , it wasnt love in the first place.

i disagree. you were in love at that time. but things change....circumstances, your personality etc that might cause you to drift apart. but that doesnt mean it wasn't love.

it doesnt mean that you weren't in love at that time.

Originally posted by: Kay Kay

The strange fact of life is that we do not live as we think, but think as we live.

And so does love. Love initself holds different meaning for different people. Love is love, you're in it or out of it but can never get enough of it.

😆 Especially if you are in it with one foot and out of it with the other, kinda like multitasking there..😛

Originally posted by: lighthouse

😆 Especially if you are in it with one foot and out of it with the other, kinda like multitasking there..😛

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that multitasked love in fact is the most selfless kind of love. where u are giving of yourself freely to all and needy😉😆

Originally posted by: chatbuster

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that multitasked love in fact is the most selfless kind of love. where u are giving of yourself freely to all and needy😉😆

😆 😆 Thus spake Saint Rahul...😛

The reason is simple we grow and we change. People change over time and become completely different. Soon enough it is not the person that you loved. That is why I think people should not get married too early. Not that marriage at an older age comes with guarantee but it gives us a chance to know ourselves better. I am sick of seeing all these college students engaged or married when they are still a year or 2 younger than me. I feel scared for them b/c most people don't realize that marriage is a great responsibilty. In order to not fall out of love, you need to know yourself and the person enough to love each other through differnt phases of life. Rarely do people achieve that, if any!

Originally posted by: *guesswho*

The reason is simple we grow and we change. People change over time and become completely different. Soon enough it is not the person that you loved. That is why I think people should not get married too early. Not that marriage at an older age comes with guarantee but it gives us a chance to know ourselves better. I am sick of seeing all these college students engaged or married when they are still a year or 2 younger than me. I feel scared for them b/c most people don't realize that marriage is a great responsibilty. In order to not fall out of love, you need to know yourself and the person enough to love each other through differnt phases of life. Rarely do people achieve that, if any!

completely agree with you..u stole my words

Originally posted by: sosweet

completely agree with you..u stole my words

me2.....😊