Clean relationship - Page 3

opposite sex platonic relationships are rare...
is it because of the society vieweing them sceptically or is it the fact that emotional attraction naturally leads to intimacy...Now that is a question that I wish someone could answer!

Originally posted by: TallyHo

opposite sex platonic relationships are rare...
is it because of the society vieweing them sceptically or is it the fact that emotional attraction naturally leads to intimacy...Now that is a question that I wish someone could answer!

after reading this, i think either i dont know the meaning of platonic relationship or flirting, and when emotion attraction leads them to intimacy then it is not platonic any more, or may be i am confusing myself with the meaning of flirting and picking on someone😭 😭 😭 so i would just like to sit on the fence this relationship seems to be so confusing

Originally posted by: tania.ganguly

I think it is mainly becuase of the emotional attraction involved. I am talking from a global point of view here not just the Indian.In the indian context society still plays a major factor, but overall when you are being friends with someone of the other gender, where does one draw the line.With guys( really not seen much male bonding),they would share their issues over a glass of beer and girlfriends over a bowl of ice cream.But when you share issues with a guy your issues you have the tendency to get pretty emotional about it which can be interpreted as intimacy.And the whole nurtuing nature in women makes us reach out for the man in the same emotional way and console him.So that would lead to mental intimacy and ultimately to a physical one.

Me thinks that way.Its up to you how you want to interpret it.

wait, howcome it doesn't stay at emotional level only? Intimacy doesn't have to be "physical". Is there something wrong with emotional intimacy or platonic relationship to begin with?

Originally posted by: reeps

wait, howcome it doesn't stay at emotional level only? Intimacy doesn't have to be "physical". Is there something wrong with emotional intimacy or platonic relationship to begin with?

thats what i am confused about now after reading few posts, i thought platonic relationship can stay at that level without giving way to emotional intimacy, depends on how you handle as i mentioned in first post, but this is confusing

Originally posted by: raunaq

thats what i am confused about now after reading few posts, i thought platonic relationship can stay at that level without giving way to emotional intimacy, depends on how you handle as i mentioned in first post, but this is confusing

Hmm, I don't think there is anything wrong with emotional intimacy. I know the dictionary says platonic = spirtual, but I link the emotional quotient in it...as long as NO sexual connotation is involved, it's platonic for me.... Ex. if I share my feelings, thoughts with a girl and care for her..... other shades like jealousy, etc. do crop up with it.....it's a friend. If I share feelings, thoughts, and care for him .... same 'negative' shades pop up .... the definition is radically changed to something more than friendship. I find it ridiculous.... it's the same emotions!! If the 'physical' level ain't there ... what's wrong with it? ... I guess the situation is trickier for married people ... I wouldn't know what consititutes ''cheating'' when there is emotional dependence on friend of opposite gender. I am sure society will grill these people more.🤢 🤢

I think there is another problem with English .. words, and definition in general.... words like 'intimacy' and 'flirting' have such a broad meaning... ranging from playful, friendly meaning to downright ''sexual'' connotation. So, it is another problem. 🤢

@reeps, my previous opinion was based not on married people. anyhow flirting to me can also mean picking on someone in a playful manner, to me that is a type of flirting and it happens most of the times between two people but that doesnt indicate something is happening between them. when married people share emotional intimacy which to them might be platonic but i think its similar to cheating on your spouse

Originally posted by: raunaq

@reeps, my previous opinion was based not on married people. anyhow when i say flirting it means in playful manner like picking on someone, to me that is a type of flirting and it happens most of the times between two people but that doesnt indicate something is happening between them. when married people share emotional intimacy which to them might be platonic but i think its more of a cheating

okay! Last I was told I am flirting, I had to go google what flirting meant😆 to see if I was doing it. Some websites even count 'teasing' as flirting.😕 I REFUSE to believe flirting is flirting unless there is some underlying 'sexual' intention or something. English language doens't lack words to define 'picking on people, teasing, etc.' then they have to be clumped under flirting.😆😆 I tell you .... something is wrong with society, and our mindsets .... even if I give a compliment to a guy, it will be seen as 'flirting' .... when all I will mean is what I say. 😡 😳 😆😆

Originally posted by: reeps

okay! Last I was told I am flirting, I had to go google what flirting meant😆to see if I was doing it. Some websites even count 'teasing' as flirting.😕I REFUSE to believe flirting is flirting unless there is some underlying 'sexual' intention or something. English language doens't lack words to define 'picking on people, teasing, etc.' then they have to be clumped under flirting.😆😆I tell you .... something is wrong with society, and our mindsets .... even if I give a compliment to a guy, it will be seen as 'flirting' .... when all I will mean iswhat I say. 😆

yes i used to think like you used to think but i realized most people see it as a kind of flirting. giving a compliment is a type of flirting seen by some people and there is nothing wrong with it. thats why i said there is nothing wrong in platonic type of flirting and thats why i said there is nothing wrong in being friends but i guess i will have to see what others have to chip in, may be i am just not getting the picture of platonic relationship correctly

this topic is more complicated than the non veggie and animal activists being hypocrite topic 😭 😭 😭

Originally posted by: raunaq

yes i used to think like you used to think but i realized most people see it as a kind of flirting. giving a compliment is a type of flirting seen by some people and there is nothing wrong with it. thats why i said there is nothing wrong in platonic type of flirting and thats why i said there is nothing wrong in being friends but i guess i will have to see what others have to chip in, may be i am just not getting the picture of platonic relationship correctly

First there was this Platonic love which was discussed in length and still couldn't be solved and now you want to add to the confusion with 'Platonic type of flirting'.😕😆