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raj5000

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Posted: 18 years ago

Always a problem with society if two being of oppo sex involved in clean or friendly relationship.

Why cann't two individuals of almost the same age having friendly relationationship treat with neutral point of view by society?

No factual info but whatever read or known such relationships are subjected to suspicion.

Can individuals of opposite sex but similar age have a friendly relationship, without being questionable to society?

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raunaq

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Posted: 18 years ago

so many marriage related and relationship topics i feel i will become an expert as a family/marriage counselor 😆 😆 😆

yes a clean relationship can exist between a man and a woman provided that its platonic relationship meaning friendly. in todays generation you cant avoid encountering either. kids have to encounter it in school and adults have to encounter at other places like jobs. there is a fine line in handling this type of relationship and crossing this limit. when a man and woman joke or just share general opinion or talk that doesnt mean they are in love but there is a certain behaviour in them that can lead them to having people think that something is brewing between them such as excessively flirting all the time, hitting on one person all the time, caring a lot about each other, knowing each and everything about each other.

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souro

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Posted: 18 years ago

Is this an extension of the Platonic Love thread. Society simply refuses to buy into that Platonic love thing, wonder why.🤔

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Aanandaa

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Posted: 18 years ago

Hey another awesome topic..How come I can never come up with such titles 😔

Always a problem with society if two being of oppo sex involved in clean or friendly relationship.

Why cann't two individuals of almost the same age having friendly relationationship treat with neutral point of view by society?

I too wonder the same😭

No factual info but whatever read or known such relationships are subjected to suspicion.

True..

Can individuals of opposite sex but similar age have a friendly relationship, without being questionable to society?

Yes..Initially the society may question their relationship, but eventually the society will know the purity in the relationship and accept it without any further questioning..But no, it cannot just accept it without any scrutiny..That's the fact of the matter and we have to deal with it..Dont know why, but its been happening that way..It happened to me,it may have happened to you and will happen to many others..

Can it be changed? Slowly but surely😃

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Aanandaa

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: tania.ganguly
And why the same age stuff, i wonder.
Friendship transcends gender and age if its true friendship.
And if its not then it doesn't matter if you are closest in age and gender.

Tish, I guess that's not what his question is..He was asking why is the friendship between people of similar age of opposite sex is seen with a magnifying glass, right Anshuman?

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raj5000

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: raksha.l

Tish, I guess that's not what his question is..He was asking why is the friendship between people of similar age of opposite sex is seen with a magnifying glass, right Anshuman?

Right... age difference is less subjected to what am talking about.

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raunaq

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: tania.ganguly

Then why are we criticizing Nishabd so much if age doesn't matter.

nishabd is about a married man having a relationship with a girl who is his daughters friend. he broke the trust of his wife somehow giving himself to the girl. i would say age in this matter imo is secondary although it did matter a lot but he had a relationship with the girl who was his teenage daughters friend 🤢

imo clean friendship can exist among same age

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raj5000

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: tania.ganguly

Then why are we criticizing Nishabd so much if age doesn't matter.

Hold on, did I criticize Nishabd??

my statement was age difference, means 20 ka boy and 50 girl or vice versa is less subjected to what I am talking about as Raksha mentioned am saying almost same or 2-3 difference waley relationships.

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sudesh kumar

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: tania.ganguly

Who said you did Anshu? I am saying a friendship between two people of opposite genders will be more critically viewed if there was a considerable age difference between them.

The similar age kinds will not be put under scrutiny so much.

let us say you are friends( totally hypothetical, please no offence to be taken)with someone 15 years older than you of an opposite gender, wouldn't you be under more scrutiny then if you were with someone of your own age?

Thats not good.. Why would it matter if an older guy is dating a younger gal.. but if a older gal is dating a younger guy that becomes noticeable....

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raunaq

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Posted: 18 years ago

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Originally posted by: tania.ganguly

What about the flirting that will come in between?Won't that affect the friendship?

A hypothetical situation, say in Nishabd the guy was not romantically inclined to the girl and were friends( no uncle type relationship), would that be acceptable?Would the finger pointing be not done then?

there is a difference between flirting as friend or flirting as lovers. i don't know how to explain it. no it wont affect the relationship if done in moderation and actually better if flirting not done at all and if their friendship is open to everyone. excessive flirting yes it means something else. you can have a next door guy/gal flirting with you, next cabin mate flirting with you, that doesnt mean they share a serious relationship, they are friends, but too much flirting with one person yes it means something else especially when they are seen together most of the times etc.

yes lets say in nishabd if the old guy was just friends with the girl, no uncle type relationship then it would be acceptable and the wife would know about it too that they are just friends, why can't they be friends? if the daughter accepts it and wife accepts it then its fine. the girl has a weird family circumstance so its ok to be friends with her, if you can be friends with your daughter then the same way why not with daughters friend? but this is a hypothetical opinion its hard to accept in practical life becoz if the guy is accepting the girl as a friend then he is indirectly also accepting her as a daughter which means the uncle type relationship seems to be happening here. now take this example, in king of queen there is this helper of the girls father who is also like a friend to him, the helper is almost daughters age so does it mean some kind of relationship exist between them? no. they were friends and the daughter was ok with it.

nishabd topic is itself complicated, i am still trying to see this from different angle, might change my views later

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