what appeals about a man - Page 12

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

^Ahhh ... its good to be back. :)

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Amongst all the chitchatting - just wanted to add to the original thread:

You know what does NOT appeal about a guy? When his facebook profile is public. It forces me to assume that he's an arrogant manwh**e seeking lots of attention.

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Amongst all the chitchatting - just wanted to add to the original thread:

You know what does NOT appeal about a guy? When his facebook profile is public. It forces me to assume that he's an arrogant manwh**e seeking lots of attention.

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Amongst all the chitchatting - just wanted to add to the original thread:

You know what does NOT appeal about a guy? When his facebook profile is public. It forces me to assume that he's an arrogant manwh**e seeking lots of attention.

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Amongst all the chitchatting - just wanted to add to the original thread:

You know what does NOT appeal about a guy? When his facebook profile is public. It forces me to assume that he's an arrogant manwh**e seeking lots of attention.

Originally posted by: crazy_sunny

how is that arrogant 😕 I would say that the guy is very open about himself

Cultural perceptions and approaches of social networking vary a lot. There is significant difference between how girls use social networking vs. guys, as well as a difference between the American approach and the Indian approach.

Female users tend to be a lot more sensitive to privacy. Gender socialization and upbringing makes females act differently. It is ingrained in us not to draw attention or share information with unknown people. Not just private information – but general information and pictures as well. Heck some cultures still have face veils, even in those who do not have face veils there are significant limitations on how openly and how freely women can interact socially.

The American approach to social networking is also very different to Indians. Facebook was the refuge for MySpace dissidents, for people who wanted to socialize with only college, work acquaintances and friend and keep their profiles away from the public. There was a time when registering on Facebook was very exclusive and limited to college and professional networks with validated college or professional email addresses.

USA has also faced more issues over Facebook usage like cyber bullying as well as employers/schools spying on people and their socialization. In USA people also tend to put up a lot of crazier pictures or pictures of more private occasions for close friends to see, plan a lot of social interaction who they will be with, when, where – which is why they tend to be much more discerning about their FB profiles and whom to add.

Also comparing Indian friends with US friends on FB, there are a lot more differences I cannot point my finger on. But there definitely is a different feel to profiles. Eastern Europeans also have a very different style of social Networking interaction.

So a person may put up pictures and have an open profile simply because he/she is nonchalant and no other ulterior reason. A female may assume the person is unconcerned with privacy or modesty. An American may assume the person is not discerning or likes to draw too much attention. In American social networking based on types of images and status messages in a profile we also have a lot of stereotypes.

These assumptions and stereotypes are not true and we are aware of that. But a lot of us females, especially American females I know tend to make quick first glimpse assessments of people based on FB profiles. Its not correct and yes its purely a mental frame – but it just happens – involuntarily. Usually they get cleared up or reinforced once you actually get to know someone.

But its a tip for anyone and everyone - not just male/female, Indian/American - when you are interacting with different genders, different countries online - it makes sense to know the norms of social networking and socialization of that different culture set. This is especially true if you are planning to study or work abroad. You don't want people misinterpreting your personality due to misunderstood social networking stereotypes. Try not to judge and also be aware on how you might be judged or perceived.