what appeals about a man - Page 13

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Amongst all the chitchatting - just wanted to add to the original thread:

You know what does NOT appeal about a guy? When his facebook profile is public. It forces me to assume that he's an arrogant manwh**e seeking lots of attention.

And your assumption is very arrogant and hasty if you ask me. 😆 Some people are just very open and outgoing about their lives. Some are more reserved. Personally what annoys me to death is when people keeps on sending you friend requests after requests even after you have ignored them as much as possible.

"These assumptions and stereotypes are not true and we are aware of that. But a lot of us females, especially American females I know tend to make quick first glimpse assessments of people based on FB profiles. Its not correct and yes its purely a mental frame – but it just happens – involuntarily. Usually they get cleared up or reinforced once you actually get to know someone."


Why just women?! Even many guys I know like to make irrational and sometimes incredibly foolish assumptions. And this doesn't apply only to Indian guys, it applies to ppl of all nationalities.
The assumption could be based on one single previous experience, or even the mindset of the person. For example, me and my mom like to predict the names of ppl just by looking at that person's face. I might call some man chandru if he has block teeth, a wide mouth and a mustache. Or if I see a fat lady with slightly brown skin and a double chin, wearing a gaudy salwar, I might call her dimpy. So basically it just depends on the person, but usually you see the mindsets being quite similar in a particular country. But it isn't good to generalise. And the people shouldn't bother what other people think of them. You can't please everyone.

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

And your assumption is very arrogant and hasty if you ask me. 😆 Some people are just very open and outgoing about their lives. Some are more reserved. Personally what annoys me to death is when people keeps on sending you friend requests after requests even after you have ignored them as much as possible.

"salim khan" has sent me friend requests umpteen times 🤢

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

@ OBJ since the initial discussion was about a female statement on a male behavior, most of my post is explaining how that behavior stems from. But in the last paragraph I do acknowledge that everyone could benefit from being aware of perceptions. Perhaps it should not be limited to social networking, such stereotypes occur anywhere and everywhere.

yep. Human psychology is really amazing.

Humans are fascinating creatures. So perfectly imperfect and so explicably confounding. I guess the enigma of being human is whats appealing about everyone.

@ Soumya, Sunny, POH, and OBJ:

First of all, let me clarify that my statement was not only meant towards guys and also towards girls who do that. Second, I do understand that some people unintentionally leave their profiles public and don't even realize that all their information is visible.

Having said that, some [young] boys and girls do leave their profiles public in hopes of attracting the opposite sex. At my university, a lot of time this is done with the intention that other students will "stalk" you and perhaps increase your popularity and/or make you part of the "cool" crowd. I will also add that a lot of time it works since people do start stalking each other's facebook profiles and end up being attracted or "falling in love". Which I've seen happen a lot around me.

That intention really bothers me - hence that statement. However, my intention was not at all to say that everyone who's profile is public behaves the same way. However, the concept of maintaining a public facebook profile for the world somehow indicating that someone is comfortable or "open" also does not make sense to me. Why would you want everyone to see what you're saying/thinking? Or see your photos? What kind of statement is one trying to make by doing that? A public profile may mean that someone does not care enough to make their profile private, but to say that it indicates that somehow that person is comfortable or confident is giving them a bit too much credit in my opinion.

Editing to add that I'm sorry if any of you took my statement to heart. I did not intend to make a generalized statement, but I guess I did. Also, since none of you attend my university, it was not meant for you anyways. 😆 Jokes apart, I guess this is just another one of my pet peeves.

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

And your assumption is very arrogant and hasty if you ask me. 😆 Some people are just very open and outgoing about their lives. Some are more reserved. Personally what annoys me to death is when people keeps on sending you friend requests after requests even after you have ignored them as much as possible.

Arrogant AND hasty? Nice. 😆

I don't think that a public profile indicates that somehow someone is "outgoing". Maybe you can argue that a lot of facebook friends may indicate how outgoing someone is, but mere privacy settings do not indicate how extroverted someone is! Same way a private profile does not indicate that someone is necessarily introverted.

Also, why take it all the way to facebook? What about here on the forum? Most of us here do not openly share our real names, identities, or pictures. Why? Does that somehow indicate that we are all very introverted and not comfortable of ourselves?

On the flip side, you can make that argument about my generalization as well. Take Vinu for example - his picture is easily found in his AV. Does that make him more extroverted and "open" about himself? Or does it make him a manwh**e? (Sorry Believe, just trying to prove a point! 😆)

Well that one will be a rhetorical question that you can answer in your own head. 😆

^^ Read your reply. Well that still doesn't mean that they're "wh**es". Oh sure, posting scantily clad or nude pics all over your profile and making it public, yeah that can be classified as wh**e like behaviour. But many just do it to make themselves look cool, make friends, even find someone to be intimate with. Whatever the reason may be, none of those reasons can really make them a "wh**e". May silly, idiotic, naive, but not "wh**es".