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Originally posted by: qwertyesque

typically everybody has these couple of identities.. when you work you use the work identity and when you are at home you are not the same person... do you dance with a beer bottle at work or maintain business casual attitude when you are with friends .. no!!.. thats exactly how a forum works..a person can have different personalities when they say are on DM then when they are weeping with teh rest of the person on pavitra rishta...😆 now since a forum doesnt allow you to see a person... the person comes wth different id's to reflect a different personality.......can a person use the same id. he can i mean we dont vacillate extremely......i dont know what teh case with Gulshan gobar.. but most normal cases people should be allowed to have multiple id's.if they want..... not if that creates space issue...or admin issue.. then that can be disallowed.. but spedning so much time on sweating out on this issue is pointless....if they wnt to take another id because they were banned then thats another issue.,

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

That's a totally different issue you are talking about. What you call 'different identities' is what I'd call 'different personalities', and having different sets of personalities (which everyone does) does not mean that you have to change your basic identities (i.e. your name, age, location, etc). One can have their identity fixed and show different sides of their character at different times, different places. In RL, you can be all professional at office and all friendly at home, but that doesn't mean you have to change your name or age and cover yourself with different masks to hide yourself or make yourself a totally different person. In VL, you can have one ID, and be a weepy, cranky housewife in the serial's section, a crazy teenager in the Dil Mil Gaye section, a bookworm in the book talk section, an argumentative person in this section, and so on. If everyone were to create a different ID for their different personalities / characteristics, then each member here would be having over a thousand IDs to say the least. Human beings are not robots. We think and feel differently at different times in our lives; we go through phases, countless changes throughout the course of our lives. This is absolutely normal and natural. We should let others know about our different sides rather than hiding it. We should let others know about our changes and transformations rather than trying to be a different person.

In everyday life we assume many roles. We have different personalities at work, with friends, with family. A person can be a quiet and determined hard worker in the work place, but really let their hair down and party with friends. They maybe a prankster at school, but very serious and quiet at home. However, no one ever changes who they are or takes on different names and identities. All these roles are extensions of our core personalities.

Similarly even online we do not need different identities to express different aspects of ourselves. We can be flirty or playful as ourselves. We can be serious and introverted as ourselves. We can take controversial stands and express ourselves. If we don't want people to associate a certain behavior or certain viewpoint with us, or if we feel ashamed of something – then we ought not to do it or grow the courage to be ourselves.

I think people who have even a little bit of self respect for who they are and their self identity will refrain from multiple identities whether for fun or malicious purposes. Be yourself, you don't need another name or identity for who you are.

And especially with an MID for malicious reasons, just because it is a different name bashing or causing trouble – does not mean it's not you. It is very much you and you are just lying and pretending to everyone. Most importantly you are lying and fooling yourself.

Maybe a prank here or there, maybe just once to rebel and break a rule. That's that. In all honesty to me if someone thinks they have to, have to, have to be someone else for whatever reason and they just can't do it as their own person – then they need some help to learn to respect themselves and their identity and be secure about it. But I guess some people live in some cyber lalaland where no one suffers insanity, but enjoys every moment of it.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

In everyday life we assume many roles. We have different personalities at work, with friends, with family. A person can be a quiet and determined hard worker in the work place, but really let their hair down and party with friends. They maybe a prankster at school, but very serious and quiet at home. However, no one ever changes who they are or takes on different names and identities. All these roles are extensions of our core personalities.

Well, in extreme scenarios, people actually do, and I am talking about the real world here. Like in the case with criminals, or with people who are not stable with their identity and individuality, or with absolutely serious psychological issues. Since it is a difficult process to hide yourself in the real world, and a super easy one in the virtual one, everyone who has problems expressing themselves fully in RL go right ahead and make up few extra accounts to use in the VL, lest they need it to express what they can't do with their actual ID.

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

Well, in extreme scenarios, people actually do, and I am talking about the real world here. Like in the case with criminals, or with people who are not stable with their identity and individuality, or with absolutely serious psychological issues. Since it is a difficult process to hide yourself in the real world, and a super easy one in the virtual one, everyone who has problems expressing themselves fully in RL go right ahead and make up few extra accounts to use in the VL, lest they need it to express what they can't do with their actual ID.

I was talking about normal circumstances. As I mentioned before extreme cases are usually the criminal or the insane.

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I think shyness is one of the major reasons behind people's need to hide under a different identity. For instance, in the VL, a rather goofy and intellectual manly-man may feel positively shy admitting that he actually loves reading Meyer's version of love, or a rather serious and stern person may feel shy acknowledging that he actually loves jokes and fun stuffs, a moderately religious and conservative person may find it embarrassing to confess that he is into songs and dances and Bollywood, a science-nerd may find it uncomfortable disclosing that he is into magic and HP, and so on. This shyness prevents them from expressing themselves fully and in its entirety, and that instigates them all to create multiple IDs to post into multiple sections in the forum, and/or post as a completely different person with a completely different personality, and so no one would recognize. There's also this ego problem. Many people don't want to show others about a different side to their character, a side that they may consider inferior, or a change that they went through in the course of their lives, a change that they consider poorer than what it was before. As a result, they end up creating a (or more) accounts to write the thoughts that they don't want to share with others. Either way, this all ends up with ones incapability to stand by himself, and have enough faith and respect in himself as a person to go on.

Oh darn, there I start it again!

My point exactly - all these things mean a person has a problem and is unable to accept/respect their complete identity. We came back to square one POH POH!😆

Originally posted by: cuckoocutter

we're all wired differently. for me, it depends on nature of MID.

i think pranks people play using MIDs can be fun (not that i do lol). and before we get holier-than-thou, who here hasn't played pranks in rl? in fact, some pranks in rl can hurt folks, which they seldom do in vl. crank calls to chicks/ guys when they were teens- ring a bell? playing a prank on someone asking for directions? someone who hasn't played pranks needs to get a life. lol

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

My point exactly - all these things mean a person has a problem and is unable to accept/respect their complete identity.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

We came back to square one POH POH!😆

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

That's because we are the same person with MIDs. 😛

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Yeah, from what I hear or used to hear, so are Gauri Di and I. 😆

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Yeah, from what I hear or used to hear, so are Gauri Di and I. 😆