anger ?... - Page 3

well, that brings us to another qn-

are the real colours the bad ones ? why can't we say that their true nature is their calm one?

Originally posted by: prat9

anger is just the other bad side of you talking....if your goodaspect overweighs your bad one then you will definitely not mean any of the words you blurted out in anger....my take!😉

well.......i think if your good aspect overweighs your bad one, then you will mean exactly the words you say during anger, cos you won't be blurting out but saying only what you felt truly !

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Anger is an emotional outburst. This outburst occurs for a reason. The person has something to say or express. So definitely you have to pay attention to what they say. They are expressing a need that is important to them. However, pay attention to intent not content. You have to learn to filter out the word vomits. People do say things they do not mean when angry. They may make personal remarks or accusations, or use abuses that they do not intend. A lot of time outbursts escalate into huge arguments between two people because people take content personally and ignore intent.

For example if a roommate is loud or unclean, You yell at them in anger one day. The intent is to get them to be clean and considerate. However, you may end up making personal character statements and bring in other non issues that you do not intend.. The roommate will take your words personally an miss the intent. They may yell back and attach you. Their intent is to say, your words hurt and upset me. But the content that carries over is, their personal attack back at you.

Intent not content. Thats the moral.

Originally posted by: sonur15

Anger is a normal human reaction . But it depends on person to person. It could b caused by a person,event ( tensions of xams, traffic jam) or by brooding about your personal problem.If any person get angry bythese reasons then he/shefeel guity afterwards and tries to not to repeat it again then that means he/she didnt mean those words it came because of these reasons.But whenpeople get angry say horrible things to other and ifthey dont even feel guilty afterwrd about thatrepeat the same mistake over and over again theneven ifthey seems calm and collected all the time it means its always their in their subconscious mind.

nice👏

not saying anything against your post, but still i'd like to add that we can't give exams or jams as excuses for anger😊

Originally posted by: angie.4u

lovely explanation RTH 😊 How I wish it was easier to follow the moral as stated by U 😆

ya , angie ji , but focus on the intent of that post and not the content😆

Originally posted by: RUSmart

I believe in controlling your anger. The theory of getting angry is that either you get angry with anyone very close to you or an outsider. And if you really come to see there is no sense losing control of you temper on an outsider. After all this outsider will go away or ignore you but in the bargain you have lost your temper and maybe in the process you have increased your blood pressure which may affect YOUR HEALTH. Same thing applies to your close ones. If you get angry with your family members you have to realise that you are getting angry with someone who is your own. You have to be together with this person throughout and the next day or next moment after your anger is over you will be in an awkward position to face this person. And again in the bargain you increase your own Blood Pressure which again is not good for your health. So the best thing is to control your anger by trying to avoid unnecassary arguments and learn to pardon any wrong doing. This is the best way to keep control of your anger.

It is human nature to get angry but if you can control this little moment you will notice that you are the happist person.

Well said😊

(sorry but can you also please respond to the qn i asked in the topic. Thanks😊)

Originally posted by: prat9

well not exactly!.....you can't be all that good or all that bad!.....every human has two facets....so all the flaws are parts of the bad side of the coin....otherwise how would you define a good nature then?..(no allusion to gray areas here!).....

well.......ok ! but i'll think again over this😆

Originally posted by: clodpolish

ya , angie ji , but focus on the intent of that post and not the content😆

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

Anger is a good thing -- but only when kept under proper control

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

Anger is a good thing -- but only when kept under proper control. Without anger, you would become a stupid, completely personalityless person.

Originally posted by: clodpolish

well......we often hear that what one says when angry should be taken lightly thereafter cos it was just said in the heat of the moment

true but ATTACKS from your tongue hurts more than any weapon btw yeh main nahi kahi BADE khty thy😛

on a serious note i think it shudnt be taken tht lightly since world is full of hypocrites as a matter of fact,if you really wanna know how does a person think of you try to make him angry he would show his TRUE COLORS😳

But should we take it lightly. Doesn't the words that come out during the time we are angry also come from our mouth only........so they must be there somewhere in our subconscious no?

@underlined:no it shudnt be taken lightly😳

@bolded:i firmly belive that if a person says something to you he thinks the same way in real too so there is no chance of giving it a second thought

So , what exactly do we conclude after a heated argument wherein many disturbing words are spoken by an otherwise kind person?

The only thing i conclude after a heated arguement with a person who speak harsh words to me is tht he thinks the same way in real TOO thts why he/she said so, otherwise there are better ways to show your dissatisfaction or to let others know abt their mistakes atleast i cannt go goody goody with a person who says nasty things to me n then ask for oplogy since he was angry so he shud be forgiven because he was angry sorry i cann't do this it seems a LAME EXCUSE TO ME🤢