anger ?... - Page 4

well......we often hear that what one says when angry should be taken lightly thereafter cos it was just said in the heat of the moment

Like every other emotions in this world, the anger emotion is also a very natural emotion and normally their is a reason for the person to explode..if their words have some meaning and are not just random huffs and puffs for this and that then it should be taken into consideration.

Anger could be compared to when people are drunk, often people speak the truth when drunk (well ive never experienced that myself, i dont drink but from reading, watching and experience with hanging around with drunk bunches)...and most often the truth hurts. An angry person would therefore say somethings that their conscious mind wont say in calm and collected atmosphere cos they know such things would hurt the loved ones..however once angry their conscious mind is switched off and they let whatever they have hidden in their chest burst open and break all bubbles. Unders such circumstances it is best not to argue with the angry person since it would only to add more fuel to the fire. But if they have said something that has really hurt them then they should consider speaking to them later to justify their actions and so that any misunderstanding or such actions in the future can be prevented and cleared.

Being angry is something that is not a pleasant experience for any of the parties, best bet is to stay silence until their anger is silenced. once the anger is silenced then confront them in a positive manner...nothing in life should be taken too lightly or too seriously, everything looks good if in balance..try to find the cause and the root of the anger and if that justifies the person's action

also consideration should be taken on how often a person gets angry..if the person is very prone to anger than his words could be taken lightly however if a person does not get angry easily then their words should not be taken easily..

basically to sum it up, depends on how often a person gets angry, circumstances and how badly the words have hurt the other person

okay dont know if this all makes sense..but is what i believe and doesnt necessarily have to be correct.

Great topic!

Xoxo

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Why get angry when one can say pretty much any darn thing with a smile and still get away with it! All they gotta do is remember to throw in "just kidding 😃" right after the verbal diarrhea 😛

chalo.....you are not getting away any time soon.....😆

Seriously, when angry I do say stuff that I mean but I wouldn't have said it if I wasn't angry. Hence, it's lot more easier to pretend later, when things calm down, that I didn't mean it so that I can get away with it😊 but then I have an excuse for being this way - I am an arian. I can't be unstraightforward....no matter how hard I try😆

aaj aapke saare raaz khul gaye hain......ab bachna mushkil hai😛😆

Originally posted by: mahikhan

Originally posted by: Rage-Of-Angels

Like every other emotions in this world, the anger emotion is also a very natural emotion and normally their is a reason for the person to explode..if their words have some meaning and are not just random huffs and puffs for this and that then it should be taken into consideration.

Anger could be compared to when people are drunk, often people speak the truth when drunk (well ive never experienced that myself, i dont drink but from reading, watching and experience with hanging around with drunk bunches)...and most often the truth hurts. An angry person would therefore say somethings that their conscious mind wont say in calm and collected atmosphere cos they know such things would hurt the loved ones..however once angry their conscious mind is switched off and they let whatever they have hidden in their chest burst open and break all bubbles. Unders such circumstances it is best not to argue with the angry person since it would only to add more fuel to the fire. But if they have said something that has really hurt them then they should consider speaking to them later to justify their actions and so that any misunderstanding or such actions in the future can be prevented and cleared.

hmm.....well actually i also had thought about comparing anger with drunk kinda behaviour......but there is a difference.....you don't find yourself lying in a gutter when you wake up after you are angry😆

Being angry is something that is not a pleasant experience for any of the parties, best bet is to stay silence until their anger is silenced. once the anger is silenced then confront them in a positive manner...nothing in life should be taken too lightly or too seriously, everything looks good if in balance..try to find the cause and the root of the anger and if that justifies the person's action

also consideration should be taken on how often a person gets angry..if the person is very prone to anger than his words could be taken lightly however if a person does not get angry easily then their words should not be taken easily..

basically to sum it up, depends on how often a person gets angry, circumstances and how badly the words have hurt the other person

okay dont know if this all makes sense..but is what i believe and doesnt necessarily have to be correct.

Great topic!

Originally posted by: angie.4u

yes for eg scolding a child U can act angry without actually being angry 😆while dealing with some subordinates a show of anger may help to achieve objectives quicker & also discourage any possible arguments 😉

Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody's power, that is not easy.

its difficult to follow one right path.....aapne to itne saare rights daal diye....thats not right !😆

ye mere bas ki baat nahin hai😆😆

Originally posted by: clodpolish

Originally posted by: crazy_sunny

first thing we notice when a person is angry that he begins shouting. wonder why?

Let me narrate the foll story

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?' Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.'

'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...' The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.