Sitcom Sitters Chat Club #4 ~ Happy New Year 2017 Wisu n kwerky~ (IO) - Page 75

Originally posted by: Wisian

@Supermarkets and museums: Gosh! I think, I've given the wrong impression to you... I almost NEVER strike up a conversation with anyone. I am also especially tongue-tied if the guy is super-cute. But - all the same, if someone begins a conversation with me, I read that as a sign of interest, and I can usually overcome my shyness within a few minutes.

The few times I have met guys with whom I spontaneously began chatting with - was when the guy in question was not particularly good looking (at first glance). An example of this was the Dabbeywala. 😛 And just so that I don't come across as being extremely vain, I did end up falling hard for the Dabbeywala after all... and I have come to believe that the really cute guys are often the biggest douches, and while the types of Dabbeywala may not turn heads, at a more fundamental level, they are more attractive.

Originally posted by: Wisian

C. Local singles group. I have no idea how to go about this... It doesn't help that I live in a very small country with a very parochial mindset (at times). And the local expats are also not a particularly happy bunch. I think - this is almost always a drawback for me. I am given to occasional bouts of sadness; but on the whole, I am an intrinsically happy person. None of the hardships of the past have made me jaded or unkind; and while I may not be bubbling with optimism and happiness all the time, but I cannot be happy with a miserable person.

Originally posted by: Wisian

D. Hobby clubs. Tried that. In fact, I have been trying this for a while now.

There is a website called "Meetups". When I was living in the US, I was rather active - I went out for so many meetups (from the website) - and almost never with the intention of finding a bf; but on each and every one of the Meetups that I attended, I was so disappointed by the kind of people that showed up. All - literally ALL - the people I met had an ulterior motive for being there. Perhaps this is the cultural hallmark of the US, but it seemed that nobody had any interest in knowing you. They were all there for "networking" - and in all fairness, I cannot imagine how anyone will professionally or financially benefit from knowing me - which is probably why they almost always ended up ignoring me...

I remember the last meetup dinner that I attended. There was a fat Pakistani girl there who wanted to become a Bollywood actress (yes, this was the kind of people that showed up for such meetings). This woman had some kind of attention deficit disorder - she could LITERALLY only just engage in small talk. She was so flighty, that she'd stop mid-sentence and pick up a conversation with someone else. And it seemed like I was the only one on the table who found this odd. But I soon put a finger on the reason for that - it was because everybody else was there for just the small talk. During the course of the dinner, the girl sent around a script for the movie that she had written herself. (She was the script-writer too; and in consideration of the people who can't speak Hindi/Urdu, she had translated the whole script for us.) At the end of the dinner, she also asked people to contribute some money for film endeavour. Nobody contributed anything. But I had an epiphany on this last one of my meetup meetings - that country and its culture don't agree with me. I could never have met someone I like on that soil. 😳

So, when I moved back to Europe, I looked around for a while - and then ended up joining a book group - The Only English language book group in a 100 km radius. The only problem with this was that all the regulars of this group are retirees (meri kismat!) and every time I joined them, it seemed like I couldn't even enjoy myself because a.) they didn't like to hear my criticism of the books they chose; and b.) they always tried to muzzle me. 🤔 So, mainey book-group meeting mein jaana bhi chhod diya.

But like I said before, I am not jaded yet. I believe that good things will happen to me... Sometimes, I just run out of patience, but that's natural, nahin?

That said, Kwerky - 🤗s for you. It must've taken quite a while to find all these emoticons. 😆😆😆

@bold: That's the spirit.Bilkul sahi. I have said this earlier too...it is a matter of time and I firmly believe that kismat / fate plays a role too. Before you know it and when you least anticipate it, you will find the right guy. And I say it from my experience.

Originally posted by: Wisian

THAT is quite a list of ideas, Kwerky. Someday, you'll have to tell us the story of how you met your husband...