Neetu: Ranbir is not Joru Ke Ghulam - Page 4

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

That is what I am saying...she was asked about Ranbir because he got married recently...why would she talk about her daughter when they are asking about the son??...

Yes the children can move out of their parent's home if that is their wish....what if the parents are not controlling and the kids don't want to move....what if the parent is old and sick....you want the kid to move out??leave the parent's at whose mercy?? Oh wait...old age homes are there....and what if they are very sick...hospices are there too....

I don't know why you are stuck on the controlling parents....I am talking about the normal ones.....who don't have any expectations from their kids.....but no one has control over age.....age spares no one.....so isn't the responsibility of a child to take care of their parents atleast when they need it.....I don't know.....it is just me maybe.....I am just not able to wrap my head around the idea of not taking care of ones parents.....

OK I am done with this debate.....it is actually giving me anxiety...I am not kidding...

All right, BI. I will also quit. 🤗Some distant celebs' lives are not worth arguing over.

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

I disagree.

Being from a different era is a lousy excuse for being toxic and misogynistic. And yes, believing in the concept of Joru Ke Ghulam is misogynistic.

She doesn’t directly say Ranbir is or is not a JKG. But she is answering questions about MIL and DIL relationships, then goes into her talk about balance and not being JKG. Neetu loves Alia. Neetu thinks a JKG husband will cause problems with MIL/DIL. Neetu doesn’t have a problem with Alia. Ergo Neetu doesn’t think Ranbir is a JKG. Not that complicated.

It may be a lousy but it still is a valid reason...people from different generations have different belief systems...they are raised different....People call Ranbir mama;s boy...how is that acceptable......JKG and Mama's boy are the two sides of the same coin....but anyways.....I am done with this debate...I can't fight with the idea of kids taking care of parent's is some kind of transaction....or that parents are on there own in their old age also......because the kid is married....

Same one in the daughter in law role would have prayed and hoped hasibandhkarnewala was a joru ka ghulam. Toxicity goes in circles through generations.

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

First of all ...I am not talking about FREAKING son...if you notice I used kid and spouse in my post...so my post is for both....and of course if Neetu is asked about Ranbir ...her answer is going to be in reference to a son...Why are these celebrities even asked personal questions??..Like I said I am not talking about controlling parents...I am talking about that emotional need of the parents to see their kids or grandkids....and its not cool if the kid is not able to do that because the spouse is too controlling......and to the dude who is giving gyaan about how it becomes transaction...no dude you are a 100% wrong...there is a difference between a financial transaction and being there for your old parents when they need you....to be emotionally supportive of them......there is no one who is ever going to love u like your parents do ...no one...not even your spouse...not your kids...not your grand kids.....no one...so stop giving ur illogical gyaan...

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

I don't see anything wrong in what she said....First of all she did not say that Ranbir is not or is a Joru ka gulaam...she was talking in general....unless there is something more...I am basing off what you have posted.

I agree JKG is not a nice thing to say but then you have to remember she is from a different generation which is not as savvy or smart spoken as our current batch of actresses...or our feminists of today....when it comes to older actors and actresses....u will have to excuse their language.....😆Every generation has their own lingo to describe things....u might cringe at theirs's but trust me they might cringe at yours's

Hypothetically ...even if she was speaking about Ranbir because he is newly married these questions are asked....her answer was correct to the T.....a balance is necessary....whether its being Mama's boy or JKG😆

See what Neetu said is not wrong but we know how typical thinking Neetu has, via her previous interviews. So seeing what she said in positive way is bit hard.

A son can be joru ka gulaam and love his parents equally. It is just how mature the Saas is to accept that point and how mature the Bahu is to accept her in-laws is what makes the balance. It is not entirely in the hands of son like everyone thinks.

Originally posted by: pg411

first of all , you need to chill. We are all having civilized conversations and if you can’t talk without being frazzled then may be you shouldn’t be here.

As for my comment on transactions, I am off a view that parents do anything and everything for their kids out of love. They want kids to succeed and be happy, they give up a lot for their kids better future. It’s a hard job and not everyone can do it. But it doesn’t mean all parents are same. Whenever parents expect something back from their kids, it does become a transaction. Of course kids should be there for their parents and help them in old age but it should NOT be an obligation because they raised them or have them education. All those things are responsibility of being a parent and if one can’t handle them, may be they shouldn’t be a parent.

I would rather use the term responsibility instead of obligation.Part and parcel of being an adult is taking care of responsibilities - all of them. It doesn't matter if you are male or female. And you wouldn't be human if you don't feel a tiny pang of disappointment if your kids are not taking care of you in your old age -no matter whether you vocalize it or not.

I think what Neetu said is not so uncommon among punjabi women. The phrasing might not sound nice to the feminists, but let's turn that around- what kind of woman would want a joru ka ghulam or want to make her husband into one?😉 It implies a relationship that's skewed and where he's more like her puppy, where instead of to hold and to respect, it's more to command and to keep on a tight leash. Not nice😆

Whether it is a henpecked husband or a subservient wife , it’s their life and their choice …

I wish Aunties and mummys and daddies should keep their nose out of their kids relationship dynamics

They are not teenagers who got married …he’s 40 and she’s almost 30 ..they can decide what works for them and what dosent

I don’t think a 3rd person should ever interfere in a relationship of others unless there is serious abuse involved and medical/ police help is needed

99% mummy dears think like this, nothing new.😆

Ohh Neetuji Joru ka gulam is not okay but Mama’s boy is okay???? Such a double standard right?????? Only reason you didn’t accept DP and Kat as your bahurani… But I am glad both these lady have got such great husband and in-laws.. Thank god both u and your ugly son are out of my kattys life ….and poor Alia🥲🥲🥲😭