Thappadddd

( Disclaimer: Just my personal feelings.+ may include spoiler.. You can ignore it) I wrote all glibberish, I wanted to write only movie related but after starting, it became this and now confused to post or not. )

Watched Thappad. Beautifully made movie. It talks about just one thappad but this movie is beyond that. I liked how it covers so many other people's lives too than just Taapsi. The man was making me so frustrated, not thinking about wives' feelings at all. Only him and him.

he film just triggered me. I don't know why. I am thinking of my mom dad. Dad is not totally like the person in Thappad. My mom is a working woman but also all works (totally) of house are done by her. I and dad help, but not much.

I just feel my dad doesn't respect her much. He is a sensible person, always reads and listens these motivational videos, god related videos, always teaches us good messages, he is calm, is not angry much.

But, coincidence or not, the day I watched Thappad, just after watching it, I was emotional, totally invested in the movie, mom had gone out for sometime, she came back, we ate snacks. Dad came. She asked 'Are you hungry?' He replied little harshly 'Ofcourse I am. Why wouldn't I be? Why did you go out instead of being here?'

He knows cooking, but he doesn't do it much.

I don't know.

I am scared. Will I have to be like mom? Do job and also do all house chores + job when I marry? Will my partner also do the chores or not? I won't be able to manage what my mom is managing I know. (I am 20 now.) I actually am scared of relationship, but I think I would have to marry anyhow, will my parents let me be unmarried for life?

How will the society be in my generation? How do people manage relationship? It just seems so complicated? One small thing and boom it is changed. We have to compromise, I felt. But own self respect and happiness is important too right..How can two people who lived their whole life differently can be with each other without compromising their own lives and own happiness?

Most marriages, relationships fail nowadays, what's the reason? Is it because of not compromising enough like in previous generations, women did?

Will love stay forever?

(So many topics I am mixing. I don't know I am feeling so many emotions right now. )

Edit:

I didn't think so many people would reply to this topic, and share different advices and experiences. I was scared and wanted to remove it too as soon as I post it. I am so so happy, thanks to each and everyone who read my post, thought about it and gave so valuable advices and shared their own experiences and viewpoints. I started feeling lot better after hearing from you all.

Thank you so much everyone ❣️💗😊 Take care all of you. Hope you all are doing well. Have a good life. ❤️💕

Trust me, real life isn't that bad what portrayed in movies.

do you live in India?

cheesedumplings, you don't have to do anything if you don't want to.. be independent and self assured and don't let anyone walk over you... we all love our parents but they are not perfect, you have to learn from their mistakes and not perpetuate it...

Originally posted by: Bulbbul_Pandey

do you live in India?

I live in Nepal. But I feel it's quite similar to India

Ps: Had just read somewhere on IF today about quiet and quite, still I did mistake 😅😂😂

Originally posted by: Tezaa

Trust me, real life isn't that bad what portrayed in movies.

Hmm ... sometimes I feel real life can be even tougher than movies

Originally posted by: kyapa

You will be fine.

Thanks. Hope so.

Originally posted by: Bulbbul_Pandey

cheesedumplings, you don't have to do anything if you don't want to.. be independent and self assured and don't let anyone walk over you... we all love our parents but they are not perfect, you have to learn from their mistakes and not perpetuate it...

Thank you so much for these...yeahh

Thanks for replying everyone🤗🤗...I was just scared to open IF after writing this ..

Some men just grow up with that behaviour. They are forever accustomed to the idea people doing everything for them. So the thought that maybe sometimes they should do it on their own never occurs. Its a habit that is very difficult to change. But then there are also men who have been raised differently and they do all their work on their own. I see men who have lived in hostels for some time do behave differently than the ones who have forever lived with their family. So if u want a partner who might share the load with you rather than expect u to do everything, u need to find that person. As long as you know what u want it won't be difficult. Nothing to worry or be afraid of.