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Originally posted by: Cheesedumplings

Most marriages, relationships fail nowadays, what's the reason? Is it because of not compromising enough like in previous generations, women did?

Will love stay forever?

(So many topics I am mixing. I don't know I am feeling so many emotions right now. )

Life is gamble. Sometimes a risk is worth taking ❤️

Originally posted by: mz.gigglez

You just need to have a career and marry a guy who prefers someone who is career oriented. Things balance out at home itself, but do not compromise on Respect which is why you need to get to know the guy well enough before u marry him.

Thankss ❤️ Yes, I should first finish my studies and then all whatever happens happens.

..sometimes I think no one would like me, I am weird. Even if they like, they would stop liking me. I would never be able to do love marriage and in arrange also don't know. Hmm..relationship is scary.

I should stop thinking about these things I know . Main priority is career now. And I am wasting time like this..

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

You need to be very careful and take your time before getting even engaged. Don't rush into things. Try to understand his value system as much as possible. Try to learn about the division of work in the house of his siblings friends etc..do it subtly. Don't give the feminism vibes, men hate it as it is a much maligned thing that turns their alarm bell on. Marriage is a relationship of equals so if a guy doesn't seem willing to share the workload of housework, reject him.. it will save you a lot of heartache later. Having said that, a lot of men of our generation are willing to do housework if asked nicely...if the wife demands it as a matter of right then they won't even lift a spoon.. diplomacy is the key

Thanksss ❤️ Hope everything turns out right.

Originally posted by: vardhinirosid

Hey i felt like im reading my own mind while reading this..i always feel like that, two different people who lived in different life have to live under one roof and parents wont agree if v say want to stay single for ever

Now im 24 n parents started searching matches im feeling more tensed while thinking about all these..so i decided lets go in flow, what it was written it vl happen

But im happy after reading ur post

Knowing about some one who is having mutual feelings feels good

Wowww ❤️❤️ So happy to hear that our thinking matched. ...

Hope everything happens for the best for you..

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Life is gamble. Sometimes a risk is worth taking ❤️

Hmm...yess

Don't think too much, u'll be fine🤗

I know what you mean. You're absolutely correct in your position to be afraid. 10 yrs back there wasn't even this much awareness, hence it was easier by this patriarch system to manipulate women into doing things in an unbalanced way. But now times have changed, and women are getting more and more aware of their rights and about what's right and what's wrong. It's easier to accept bad fate when one doesn't know there are better options to pursue. So now it's time for women to be fully aware and cautious about what they want and choose in life.

In my house, my husband in the primary cook. And there was this game in his office where he revealed this, and to his surprise, even North Americans (Whites) seemed to be doing a 'Wow' reaction. Only then my spouse had to point out that it's very unfortunate that even today it's such uncommon and out-of-the-box scenario. Ours is an arranged marriage and I made it very clear while dating itself that I cannot cook neither do I wish to take up this position at home at any point of time. So this worked out fine. However, even till today even after 7 yrs of marriage, I have to keep hearing this from everyone (not my spouse or family/in-laws) that I intentionally spoil my dishes so that I don't have to cook at home. 😊 Initially I used to be hurt, but now I've learnt to raise my woke voice selectively, so I nod along. So dear, for coming 100 yrs, this imbalance is going to be very much prevalent in some form or the other. So you've to be very careful in clearing these things out much earlier stage in your dating. Also, it's time we spread awareness at our homes to our cousin brothers who are having love marriages, that 50% household chores is their responsibility, no matter whether the girls love them even without that or not. Too many things to take care at home, one has to absolutely pitch in otherwise in a double income household, the one who does everything will eventually have a breaking point and that's not good.

Most important is just be aware and clear about what you want. It's choosing a life partner, not buying a toy. So you have 100% say in this matter, do not compromise on your 'Need' list. Only 'Nice to have' list can be adjusted. If to hold onto your principles and fear, you've to reject many guys in the process, no worries. The right one for you would understand your pov and not cross question you. 😊 Also, anyone can lie too lol. So better is to have a dating period of more than 1 yr at least, so that you can get to know if he has integrity or not. 😆

You're only 20, don't worry about all this and enjoy life, take each day as it comes!

😊

Originally posted by: Sailor-Moon

You're only 20, don't worry about all this and enjoy life, take each day as it comes!

how are you doing? I hope you remember me dear 😊