I don’t know where to start, first irfan then rishi and now Sushant. I didn’t know what to say then nor now, what can you say? They’re gone. This is more painful because of the nature of the way it happened.
I’ve gone through depression myself and that too for 15yrs. People who haven’t gone through it don’t get it or refuse to get it.
If you have family friends you’re lucky but many don’t even have that. The meds they give are SSRI and they have a lot of side effects imo it does more damage than good. Therapy might help if you can find a good therapist. I personally didn’t get any help from them and refused to take meds.
If your hippocampus has shrunk then maybe but for that contact an expert someone you trust.
This is all chemical so if you don’t take care of yourself then you might go deeper and deeper down that road until you can’t get out.
They say you’re not alone but really how many actually care? Don’t fool yourself, take care of yourselves, don’t expect anything from anyone because you’ll be disappointed.
If you take care of yourself day to day there’s less chances of you getting depressed. It’s all interconnected, from your hygiene to how clean your house is, to exercise to sleep well to eat well, to go out to have human contact to shower every small thing matters.
Take care of the basics. To guys who watch prn if possible please stop, you don’t know the harm you’re doing to yourself, desensitizing yourself, fucing up your brain. Read ‘your brain on prn
If you’re already depressed start with small things. Start with your thoughts. The stories you tell yourself are not real. You are not the voice in your head and more importantly that thought is not your own, if you notice you’ll see it’s someone else’s. Do you criticize yourself? Scold yourself? Now remember who scolded you in your childhood? You are still being scolded and carrying on old wounds. This is just one example. Our childhood traumas are very much there, some have it more than others. If you don’t release them they’ll haunt you forever. Those patterns will be alive in you, dictating your every decision albeit unconsciously.
Few months ago I wrote about this and I’ll say it again, people wanna be free and when the pain gets too much we wanna end it. Everyone loves life, everyone wants to live but no one wants to live in pain but the question we need to ask will it end? How do you know you’ll stop existing? How do you know your pain will be gone? As far I know it won’t end maybe you see it as a belief but you don’t know either. You can’t say for a fact that you know so you don’t know and you’re playing a gamble
It’s best to not get to that point that you need to ask all this where you actually have to contemplate. I know it’s not easy but we can try and start right here.
Also you’re enough. You don’t need more money more sex, a relationship a better house or a better career. It’s all made up to keep us a slave so we keep chasing something in the hopes that it’ll complete us which it never does then we get disappointed and look back, all that effort struggle for nothing.
We live in comparison. We keep looking at others for validation how they’re doing and how well I’m doing compared to them but again who’s deciding that? We see our friend in a relationship then miss it and think only if I had that. THAT can be anything, a guy, girl, sex, money, fame, family, friends you name it.
THAT is not the answer, trust me. This brings me to trust. We need to trust in something bigger than us. When you trust you surrender, when you surrender to a higher power or just surrender you let go when you let go you get out of your own way. You don’t need to believe in the stories that are running in your head 24/7.
You can do a small experiment, stop thinking about something for 3 seconds and see if it’s still there if it’s there it’s real if not then it’s made up. If you stop thinking about the floor it’s still there but if you stop thinking about yourself, you’re not there more accurately put your fuked up idea of you which is borrowed from others isn’t there. Which imo is the root of all evil, the root of all our troubles.
Someone had to explain to dalai lama the concept of self esteem for 2hrs as in his culture such thing doesn’t even exist, where we see ourselves worthy or non worthy.
Their entire economy is run by our insecurities. Buy this car then you’ll get the girl then and only then will you be worthy of her love. Same goes for women, it’s all made up to keep us a slave and then we end up unhappy and wonder why.
A lot of brainwashing is going on. When sometimes I argue here it’s to challenge your beliefs. It sounds sexist and I’m well aware of that but it’s done on purpose to challenge your beliefs. I do the same with red pill guys.
This is all a matter of perspective. What you can do is argue against your own beliefs your own stories and see things from that point of view and if you do that you’ll see it’s as valid.
I’d also start meditating. Meditating brings awareness and awareness is most needed when we lose our perspective on things. When we start believing in those thoughts in that moment if we’re aware we can actually zoom out and see it as a passing thought or feeling and not identify with it.
There’re many other tools too such as eft, bio energetics, undoing by hyatt. If you need any of it or any book let me know I’ll find it and upload it on google drive and share it with you but you’ve to do it and I’ll check on you. If you need any other kind of help pm me because talk is cheap.
Also people like rgv saying other actors are not successful but they don’t die of suicide, these people don’t really get it, that’s not how this works. I’ve a lot to be grateful for does that mean I can’t be sad or upset? Hey you know you’ve a lot someone’s wishing to have your life so therefore you have no right to be upset ever.
We all have self image the way we see ourselves and what’s acceptable to us what we’re willing to put up with. If you have lived a certain kind of life you won’t tolerate living a life of poverty or mediocrity your subconscious mind won’t allow it same way if you believe you deserve shit guess what? You’ll manifest just that and that’ll be your experience then you’ll look at the evidence and confirm to yourself that you were right and the cycle continues.
Focus on yourself and what you can do right now? Let go of all stories of how the world should be how you should be what you should do or have or be with. It’s all made up. Remember fight club? Brad pitt saying you’re not your khakis, your job etc and the things you own end up owning you.
If you really wanna set yourself free you can go even further and stop identifying with your thoughts, feelings, sensations, experiences, memories, gender, body, mind.
It’s all there in Indian culture in hinduism people come from west to India for spirituality and indians themselves are becoming more and more western not seeing the folly of it, all in an effort to fit in.
I’m not Indian but most of you are so I’m saying look into it. The answers have always been there. Hinduism, buddhism, taoism, kaballah, sufism, it’s everywhere.
But you don’t have to go that deep. I’m just giving an overview of what’s possible, planting a seed somewhere.
Help is available and you can get out of it, if I can so can you. Take care of yourself so you don’t have to depend on anyone be it financially or emotionally.
We’re not here to be slaves, prisoners of our own minds, ideas, beliefs which are not even our own. Also try to see our model of reality itself is made up. We see things as we’re not as they’re.
Further these bollywood people don’t deserve our time, energy or attention. Don’t wish them bad wish them consciousness.
If I’ve said something which has hurt you then I’m truly sorry. I’ll be more mindful not just here but everywhere.
Reach out to me if you need any material more info or anything else.
YOU MATTER and YOU ARE ENOUGH!
PS: also read my post on 2nd page. I think I have covered everything in these 2 posts.
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