They don't understand the context: Homi Adajania to 'My Choice' critic - Page 4

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

Open marriages are a whole other debate though. I doubt open marriage was what they were talking about here. I think they wanted to present women as sexually strong independent beings which is a very factual thing, but they executed it very poorly with their choice of words.

Hope I made sense.

I really think people should not have kids then if they want such freedom of choices.

I feel even more repelled when I think from a son or daughter's POV. Mom or dad can return or not return home at any time, they can have their own BFs or GFs, they can care about own pleasure even if it means pain for others...

They can harp #MyChoice every moment. Where does that leave the ward? The ward can also shout My Choice then and do as she or he pleases or be packed off to boarding school and spend all life at hostel because parents are too busy with own choices. Hope either of them makes choice to pay for fees and doesn't throw the ward in front of a temple to beg or rely on charity...

I would not at all like to be part of such a family in which men and women make such choices. I would hope not to exist then.

Open marriages are consensual by mutual parties, this video shows a woman claiming that it's HER 'choice' to have sex outside of marriage; thereby committing adultery. There is no acknowledgment by her of her partner.

And I'm not particularly sure why glorifying open marriages would empower women (if that's the context Homi is alluding to).

Originally posted by: Mighty-Zeus

In that case , i am in minority 😕.. it seems everybody thinks that those lines were about a women's right to commit adultery .. so then there must be something to it after-all .. may be they wanted to show that women can cheat just as much as men ..to me that is such an absurd 'empowerment' , in fact i doubt if its 'empowerment' at all.. 😆

Tame the men , dont spoil the women . 😆

Except that stupid, sex outside marriage line, video did the cause.

I know it's gonna sound very cruel.. but they could have have inserted the convicted rapists dialog too "My choice".

It's really idiotic to think this is a PR move.

Originally posted by: atominis

I really think people should not have kids then if they want such freedom of choices.

I feel even more repelled when I think from a son or daughter's POV. Mom or dad can return or not return home at any time, they can have their own BFs or GFs, they can care about own pleasure even if it means pain for others...

They can harp #MyChoice every moment. Where does that leave the ward? The ward can also shout My Choice then and do as she or he pleases or be packed off to boarding school and spend all life at hostel because parents are too busy with own choices. Hope either of them makes choice to pay for fees and doesn't throw the ward in front of a temple to beg or rely on charity...

I would not at all like to be part of such a family in which men and women make such choices. I would hope not to exist then.

i'm not sure why everyone is so against this video. this is the context that comes to my mind - where the majority of our society/culture has a tendency to justify rape of a woman or even blame her because she dressed a certain way or if she had (consensual) sex - premarital or otherwise, if she chose to go out late at night. in the end, these are my choices, but none of my choice gives you the right to my body or makes it permissible to violate me without my consent.

Originally posted by: Mighty-Zeus

In that case , i am in minority 😕.. it seems everybody thinks that those lines were about a women's right to commit adultery .. so then there must be something to it after-all .. may be they wanted to show that women can cheat just as much as men ..to me that is such an absurd 'empowerment' , in fact i doubt if its 'empowerment' at all.. 😆

Tame the men , dont spoil the women . 😆

You are not the only one. Go through some of the FB posts on the ScoopWhoop and other articles.

There are quite a few people who interpreted it as women have the right to be in open or polyamorous relationships.

Quite a few others interpreted it as giving women the freedom to make mistakes. Adultery/Cheating should be a matter between the two people committed, not for society to judge.

Majority though interpreted it as giving women license to cheat.

More food for thought - what is cheating though?

If you no longer love your significant other but still say "I love you". Is that cheating?
If you have fallen in love with someone else, but don't act on it. Is that cheating?
Your relationship is only physical. You have emotionally checked out. Is that cheating?
You are deeply emotionally attached and invested in someone, but seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Is that cheating?
Is cyber sex or phone sex cheating?
Is masturbating to po*nography cheating?
Is imagining someone else during sex cheating?

Not having sex with others doesn't indicate faithfulness. Having sex with others doesn't indicate infidelity. It is tricky. It varies. When you are in a relationship and in those situations it becomes touch and go, extremely relative.

That is why I initially viewed it as an endorsement of cheating, but later interpreted it as "hey society, don't define boundaries for me, let me learn on my own"