What would you do if you had got the parents like Ashwin & Jhanvi? - Page 3

Originally posted by: _IHeartFriendz_

As a child- I don't know. May be nothing. 9 years doesnt have sense to take any major step like take help from cops or organisation.

But after growing up, I would never become another ashwin. Maya has turned into another ashwin. That I would never do.

Originally posted by: _IHeartFriendz_

As a child- I don't know. May be nothing. 9 years doesnt have sense to take any major step like take help from cops or organisation.

But after growing up, I would never become another ashwin. Maya has turned into another ashwin. That I would never do.

Originally posted by: manya_roy

@kavsy I really want to thank you for asking this question. And the reason would be my father.
My father is an abusive asshole ( pardon my language for this post). He used to beat my mom and demand money from her family although her family was in itself not in a very good financial state as compared to him. So yes very much like Ashwin but not even half of him.

I never thought i would ever say this (or write) but I really feel like telling my story coz I really relate to Maya as far as childhood trauma is concerned.

When I was about 5 years old my dad and Mom were fighting and he was thrashing her around. I swear it looked like he would kill her. I was really scared and ran to my mom saying "Papa pls mummy ko mat maro" and then he grabbed my neck and started choking me. Though he let go off me within a minute but that was it. Just this incident and i was done for.
I became a completely silent girl, and by silent I mean people could mistake me with mute TV.
A lot of people tell me that when I was really young i used to talk a lot like a chatter box. I wonder if that can really be true?? Coz I was so silent so self absorbed in my pain that I would not utter a single word no matter what!

Coming to my mom, I love her and I know that she loves me but there is a huge cliff between us. I suffered a traumatic childhood was unusually silent and scared, did not make a single friend until 9th standard, but my mom said that I had a perfect childhood and there was nothing wrong with it. She told me that she was the one who was suffering and not I. She said that I was a whining child who wants attention and nothing else. I had a perfect childhood.
My mothers' ignorance hurts like hell!!

So I think I might be just partial towards Maya.
Because I have to be honest, I did not got even 1% of what Maya suffered and this was my state.
So if I have to tell what would I have done if I was Maya, let me tell you no one can survive that torture which Ashwin and Jhanvi made her go through at such young age. And she did not survive. Maya'a soul and mind did not survived. It's merely the leftover Maya that we see.

I am posting a this coz I remember when Maya revealed to Arjun about her childhood a few posts pointed out that the possibility of this amount of trauma through only physical abuse can be inflicted is low. But I can tell by personal experiences that it was a form of physical, mental, emotional abuse and the fact that it came from her parents made it a soul abuse too.

Also a lot of people say that it is not Arjun's fault, and nothing can justify her behaviour. True, nothing can justify Maya's actions and no ones justifying it. All we are saying is that it is not out of the blue. Maya is a mental and psychological patient who needs 1)medicine 2)counselling 3)unconditional love 4)light in her life. But as of now noone and I repeat no one has ever given a single one of these to her!!!

PS: when i started writing i thought that it would be really painful to pen down but on the contrary I feel really nice. Guess in gave in all my frustration!

Originally posted by: manya_roy

@kavsy I really want to thank you for asking this question. And the reason would be my father.
My father is an abusive asshole ( pardon my language for this post). He used to beat my mom and demand money from her family although her family was in itself not in a very good financial state as compared to him. So yes very much like Ashwin but not even half of him.

I never thought i would ever say this (or write) but I really feel like telling my story coz I really relate to Maya as far as childhood trauma is concerned.

When I was about 5 years old my dad and Mom were fighting and he was thrashing her around. I swear it looked like he would kill her. I was really scared and ran to my mom saying "Papa pls mummy ko mat maro" and then he grabbed my neck and started choking me. Though he let go off me within a minute but that was it. Just this incident and i was done for.
I became a completely silent girl, and by silent I mean people could mistake me with mute TV.
A lot of people tell me that when I was really young i used to talk a lot like a chatter box. I wonder if that can really be true?? Coz I was so silent so self absorbed in my pain that I would not utter a single word no matter what!

Coming to my mom, I love her and I know that she loves me but there is a huge cliff between us. I suffered a traumatic childhood was unusually silent and scared, did not make a single friend until 9th standard, but my mom said that I had a perfect childhood and there was nothing wrong with it. She told me that she was the one who was suffering and not I. She said that I was a whining child who wants attention and nothing else. I had a perfect childhood.
My mothers' ignorance hurts like hell!!

So I think I might be just partial towards Maya.
Because I have to be honest, I did not got even 1% of what Maya suffered and this was my state.
So if I have to tell what would I have done if I was Maya, let me tell you no one can survive that torture which Ashwin and Jhanvi made her go through at such young age. And she did not survive. Maya'a soul and mind did not survived. It's merely the leftover Maya that we see.

I am posting a this coz I remember when Maya revealed to Arjun about her childhood a few posts pointed out that the possibility of this amount of trauma through only physical abuse can be inflicted is low. But I can tell by personal experiences that it was a form of physical, mental, emotional abuse and the fact that it came from her parents made it a soul abuse too.

Also a lot of people say that it is not Arjun's fault, and nothing can justify her behaviour. True, nothing can justify Maya's actions and no ones justifying it. All we are saying is that it is not out of the blue. Maya is a mental and psychological patient who needs 1)medicine 2)counselling 3)unconditional love 4)light in her life. But as of now noone and I repeat no one has ever given a single one of these to her!!!

PS: when i started writing i thought that it would be really painful to pen down but on the contrary I feel really nice. Guess in gave in all my frustration!