Both Maya and Saanjh need to give Arjun some space - Page 8

Originally posted by: Lilac_N_Maple

People have arranged marriages and statistically they are more successful than love marriages. So yeah nothing more to say on that front. I still believe Arjun would have happier with Sanjh. She understand him like no other.

I feel bad for what Maya had to go through as a kid. No living specimen deserves such horrible childhood. But I will definitely feel for Arjun who's being severely tortured for no fault of his own.

Yes Maya needs medical help pronto, befoire she hurts anyone or herself anymore.

Originally posted by: sammy17

Although i agree love isn't needed to make a marriage work and it is better off than a relationship like maya and arjun's, i really dislike when people advocate arranged marriages as more longstanding and permanent than love marriages on the basis of statistics, when those statistics merely record the low level of divorce rates among arranged marriages, and not the structural causes for these low levels.

The truth about arranged marriages and why divorce rates are low is because the arranged marriage practise stems from traditional views of marriage in the first place where it is believed parents know better who is good for their children, so the parent chooses the partner for their child believing their decision is better than any decision their child could make, and that marriages shouldn't be broken, so divorce is frowned upon.

In arranged marriages, the couple barely know each other before they marry, unlike in love marriages, and they have to get to know one another after marriage. In an arranged marriage once you get to know your partner, if you realise the person isn't right for you for some reason, you are stuck with them, as you have to compromise, as both families would be against them divorcing and divorce would be discouraged by both families, so the couple would be pressured by family into staying together, because in arranged marriages, the marriage is more about two families rather than the couple.

Originally posted by: _Darling_

So true. The reason arrange marriages' divorce rate is low is because like you said. It's a marriage between two families or where the couple involoved has to follow the tradition/ religion to stick with the marriage no matter how bad it's. They don't have a choice especially the woman as most of the times it's the woman. Someone close to me who had arranged marriage. She and actually both tried to divorce so many times, but because of the families and what will people think of her she stops every time and has to compromise. It doesn't matter how controlling the marriage can be, if there's emotional/physical/mental abuse or anything, but yeah can't get divorce. I used to think arrange marriages were okay but not anymore.