What if you had a life partner like Maya?

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kavita

@kavitha_r

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Posted: 8 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: luvurishbala

Agree... N u know what Arjun would have done the same thing if he had loved Maya truly... but no he doesnt thats why he isnt able to understand her

That is why he is a Duffer.

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Phosphorus

@Novarieaa

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Posted: 8 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: bugsbunny12
I would love her unconditionally too

naturally if u have someone as attentive and caring and possessive like maya in ur life, admit it u will be flattered and pampered

so in return, i would shower her with love
also i would try to cure her of her obsessive behaviour...love and time heals everything...

@ Bold, if someone loves me, showers me with wealth and money and is extremely caring - yes I will be flattered and sold for life. But will I be happy if that same person watches my every move like a hawk and tries to control every fibre of my body? Will I continue loving him if suffocates me so much that I forget that I am an individual? Will I be in peace if I know I don't even have basic privacy that every human deserves? Will I be pleased if I know my hubby is keeping a watch on me even when I am peeing? Will I be happy when my husband can be a potentially dangerous father to my future children?

Darling this is not love or care - this is just destructive and detrimental obsession which can lead to even more heinous crime.

As one member already said - if any of you have such a life partner - save yourself.

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Joy

@_Joy_

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Posted: 8 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: avyarima
A lot of people love Jennifer, so it's hard for them to accept the negative impact of this character. Yes, she is not evil because her past plays a big factor, but her obsession is enough kill and destroy.
And giving excuses for abuse offenders' base on their past is very dangerous. Many serial killers have bad childhood too, so should we also excuse them?

Many people said they will treat her with patience...lol
I believe at one point Arjun did, until he couldn't bear it anymore
you can only have patience when you have freedom to act and react...when Arjun whole life is invaded by Maya...she is even in his brain, how can he even think?

Others say take her to the Doctor. There are two ways he can do this. One if Maya understands and accepts that she has a problem, and wants to get help. Two, tie her down to the hospital. Maya doesn't even think there is a problem, and we really don't know the different things Arjun has done the past 3 years to help her understand.

If you are a man or a woman going through such relationship, please run for your life while you can...best thing to do.

I agree... but in this case Arjun was never serious abt this relationship as Maya was. He infact never loved her n thats why failed to understand. Imagine we r having a mother or fathr like that of Maya... then? We would not leave them just bcoz we love them. When u love a person u just tend to ignore all flaws. If we wants freedom he could have tried for it rather than drinking n shouting.

I know it isnt easy to stay with such a person but when u r bound to such a person then u shd tend to understand that person.

Maya is insecure n the main reason is Arjun bcoz he isnt trustworthy. Arjun knows that she can never harm him n he has nothing to loose but still isnt able to give Maya the attention n care she is longing for. I know he tolerated for 3 yrs but I would have agreed if he would be loving n caring towards Maya atleast during initial days of marriage.

Truth is if Arjun doesnt deserve Maya then even Maya doesnt deserve him.

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Nithunavi

@Nithunavi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#24

If I had maya like person in my life even generally as a friend. I wud have been very happy in guiding her & keeping her happy and wud have made her come out of her insecurities which she has gone through in childhood & also some medical care.

Who doesn't like to have such a lovely girl who loves u so much & all she asked in return from anyone is love & also all the pampering she does I wud have loved it.

And in arjun place if I have been being a much more sensible I wudnt have flirted around with girls, danced around with a bff of mine who's in love with me after my marriage & wudnt make maya insecure definitely bcoz I know from start(arjun) what she has gone through so I wud be careful & loyal unlike him & also not greedy.

I wud have kept my distance from a frnd like saanjh who is in love with me & decide on following some unspoken rules after marriage with a bff of mine & ask her to move on & not go on secret dates with a frnd liying to maya.

I wud definitely tell my mom who's like panda to think from maya side when she's making some good efforts to have one chance from that pandas side.

And most definitely I wud be patient with maya & get to know her inner side.

All in all.. I wud love to have someone who cares for me,pampers & loves me Beyhadhly but whatever shortcomings she has I wud tc of it.

See no person is born like maya. Everyone is like that bcoz of their experiences.

In a relationship u Shud love a person whole being & u Shud also understand his/her shortcomings & try to make it ur way and a line Wer u & him/her can manage makes the relationship work.

Here arjun & maya both are equally wrong .

Saanjh & Vandana are too much wrong.

Saanjh had started becoming a 3rd wheel in arYa life even though her mom warned it before.

Abt panda what can I say.. ! She's one self proclaimed Devi.. she doesn't see anything other than her perspective.

Edited by Nithunavi - 8 years ago

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kavita

@kavitha_r

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Posted: 8 years ago

#25

When I love my spouse unconditionally there won't be a question of my spouse keeping an eye on me 24/7. Maya would do what she is doing only if I give the scope for these things which she won't get from my side.

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Khushi_love

@Khushi_love

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Posted: 8 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: Lilac_N_Maple
Hmm if you think one can cure her with patience and care , then good on you! But I am sure Maya's issue is not insecurity - she needs long term treatment coz her issue is not regarding Arjun, it's a deep rooted cause and any man in the place of Arjun would have faced the wrath.
She can't stand anyone - not even,mother, father, brother anyone close to Arjun. That;'s not insecurity, that's downright a mental issue. She feels she needs to control Arjun and his life as if he's a doll at her hands - that's, again, far from insecurity.

I have always maintained that somewhere deep down, Maaya's ill mind tends to equate Arjun with Ashwin...N hence wants to punish Arjun for Ashwin's sins...

Ashwin worked in Jhanvi's office

Arjun worked in Maya's office

Ashwin was unfaithful to Jhanvi (he actually was)

Arjun appears to be unfaithful ( he actually isn't - Both Saanjh n office girls were friendship n harmless flirting respectively)

Ashwin WAS ACTUALLY a wife beater

Arjun is being shown as a wife beater by Maaya...

Jhanvi was totally unable to handle Ashwin, but Maya wants to totally "handle" Arjun...

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Nithunavi

@Nithunavi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: kavsy
When I love my spouse unconditionally there won't be a question of my spouse keeping an eye on me 24/7. Maya would do what she is doing only if I give the scope for these things which she won't get from my side.

Exactly !! She didn't do it after marriage when she was in arjun house. But only from the day this saanjh had started being around arjun & arjun lying to maya abt his whereabouts she started checking on arjun.

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Phosphorus

@Novarieaa

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Posted: 8 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: ---Khushi---

I have always maintained that somewhere deep down, Maaya's ill mind tends to equate Arjun with Ashwin...N hence wants to punish Arjun for Ashwin's sins...

Ashwin worked in Jhanvi's office
Arjun worked in Maya's office
Ashwin was unfaithful to Jhanvi (he actually was)
Arjun appears to be unfaithful ( he actually isn't - Both Saanjh n office girls were friendship n harmless flirting respectively)
Ashwin WAS ACTUALLY a wife beater
Arjun is being shown as a wife beater by Maaya...

Jhanvi was totally unable to handle Ashwin, but Maya wants to totally "handle" Arjun...

Very good points Khushi!
You could be so right! The amount of abuse she went through by Ashwin, it's only natural that he has had a deep & long-lasting effect on her. And I refuse to believe it's Arjun's fault totally. Any man who would come in Maya's life, she will somehow, at least sub-consciously, try to link him with Ashwin.
Daddy issues at its extreme.

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priyanka...

@priyanka...

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Posted: 8 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: Lilac_N_Maple
I know I would have run in the opposite direction as fast as i could. 😆 It's one of the worst kind of relationship one can think of. That's why I actually undertand where Arjun is coming from. A suffocating. overtly dominating relationship is just toxic.

No, I would never want a life partner who inserts a microphone in my locket 😆 and always keep an eye on me. I understand Arjun's situation very well, Maya must be hurting herself and that could be the reason for Arjun not leaving her.

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Khushi_love

@Khushi_love

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Posted: 8 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: Lilac_N_Maple

Very good points Khushi!
You could be so right! The amount of abuse she went through by Ashwin, it's only natural that he has had a deep & long-lasting effect on her. And I refuse to believe it's Arjun's fault totally. Any man who would come in Maya's life, she will somehow, at least sub-consciously, try to link him with Ashwin.
Daddy issues at its extreme.

Absolutely! Somehow, Ashwin's extreme torture has permanently killed a part of Maaya,'s mind, which renders her incapable of a a healthy long term relationship..

Infact, I don't think it's Arjun's fault at all...His first n last fault was to stand up for her against Ashwin..That was when she fell for him, as he was the first person to do so...

It was Arjun's sheer bad luck that he bumped into Maaya during his journey of life...His ego didn't let him see that Maaya was giving him "promotions" way beyond his potential...She then "emotionally" bought him, n when they got married, Arjun truly loved her...N Arjun being the total Duffer that he is, he helped her along.

This love has turned into hate over 3 years because of the sheer toxicity of Maaya's obsessive n manipulative "love"...I don't even know if it can be called love...

I m waiting to see how Maaya has managed to make Arjun hang on to her n continues to do so...

Jhanvi's recovery will unfold many untold truths, I presume...

& Arjun will run as fast as he can then...😆...Poor guy...

Edited by ---Khushi--- - 8 years ago