Our marriage was not of love but that of need - Page 4

Originally posted by: kavyanjali08

@SaurabhKiRadha you don't get Arjun's mind-set, it's not easy to accept step-mom no matter how close the lady was and I've seen this up-close... I've seen two different families handling the situation differently, a very close family friend I had seen them, Uncle had 02 kids, one boy and one girl from his 1st wife and after his wife's death who were between 06-10 when he re-married his wife's younger sister and they had a son from that... his 1st wife's kids are grown-up and married themselves but still haven't been able to accept their Maasi as their new Mom...in fact I had heard them literally say that the day their Mother died, their father died for them too. They had married because of the kids and they only couldn't accept their step-mom who was their Maasi only because no one had asked them what they felt. Another is my friend, his mom died in car accident and he was the only son...his father didn't remarry no matter how much relatives said until about 02 yrs later he himself had asked his father to...then the lady his father had remarried kept specific conditions that to love his 1st wife's son only will he married and they would not have another child...anyways the point is his father had taken his son's opinion, so he never had hard time accepting his step-mom. So you get the thing what Arjun's father and Vandhana had done, they may have taken the decision for Arjun's betterment but they hadn't included him which led for him to develop such prejudice and the gossip he had heard only strengthen those prejudice he still has...it's not that easy to let them go, maybe if they had talked to him elaborating the situation and including him rather then deciding him on his be-half than things would've been different. They should've sat with Arjun when he was little more grown-up and talked to him about the relationship with Vandhana more clearly, maybe that would'e helped but they didn't do anything that sort which led to what is happening now...so more than Arjun, it is Vandhana and Arjun's father's fault that he thinks so bad about Vandhana..

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Saurabh we never told fault doesnt lie with Arjun. We only told to correct him someone has to understand that 6 year old without dismissing it as 6 year old's perception.

It needs somebody's acceptance that what he felt as a 6 year old was right based on the circumstances. Does he feel the same when circumstance has changed. To unlatch that hook some listening capability without judgmental is necessary.

Arjun respects Vandana right. Only thing he doesnt like is she taking decisions for him. If a child doesnt like vegetable what do you do as a parent. Keep the food on the table, tell this is what I have made, if you need have it for your health and push it down the child's throat even if the child screams or will make an effort to prepare a veggie in a way the child likes it. I would do the latter and I do know about people who does the first and then blame the child.

For me Mr Sharma and Vandana did the former while a bit of wait could have ensured the latter happens.

Originally posted by: SaurabhKiRadha

I agree at bold and also agree that V shouldn't be taking descion for arjun . Even i said it in other posts . MY problem is not Y V n Arjun had fight that day My issue is Y still h hates her so Much ( because earlier episodes b4 maya came into picture i never saw her forcing anything on arjun ) he had cold vibes for her for every simple statements .i never approve pushing down the throat . That is why i said u can consider child opinion n try to make it more suitable for him/her. And We have not seen any flashback scenes or any hint that they tried to force down upon him , he still doesn't call her mom , and if they were forcing upon him than how he accepted Ayan . That isArjun's reaction is still look out of proportion no strong evidence. We have to Explain ourself ok his parents were wrong to handle him that is y he is doing this . I will wait for future track for better explanation for my questions.