Santo's decision about Khemi-Hiten

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Opti

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Posted: 16 years ago

#131

Originally posted by: --BC--
So, DM's only objection is to Khemi's horoscope and nothing else. So inspite of 17 pages of debate, it actually a non-issue in the show. 😕

That was what I was thinking. In fact no one has brought up the 'maasi-bhanja' relationship so far. Even Nanaji was telling Khemi that she cannot marry Hiten because of her kundali.

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Opti

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Posted: 16 years ago

#132

Originally posted by: sg08

No, they are not enough but they are a step in the right direction - that is what the premise of this story is - how Santo win's over all the members of her husbands family as well as her husband, all the other characters and tracks are secondary and a means to move DM-Santo story forward. If DM had fully given her the place of his wife, the show would be long over. They are showing how Santo is winning over everyone in the family one-by-one. My point was that DM is no longer treating Santo as an outsider, almost like a servant which he used to at the beginning. He has slowly started warming up to her and accepting her as his wife and when he fully accepts her, the show will be over. DM-Santo story is not a flash-in-the-pan kind of love story.

Neither is H-K love story flash in the pan. Their love too developed over a period of time. Yes, they did not take as long as DM-Santo because DM-Santo have a lot more hurdles than them but theirs was certainly not love at first sight or puppy love from what we have seen of it. so why should their love story suffer because of a love-story which is yet to bloom, especially when the main objection to the marriage as we have just been told is Khemi's Kundali and not the 'maasi-bhanja' relationship which everyone hear is harping but none in the show have raised so far.

Maanglik issue can be sorted out quiet easily by speed posting to dharampur of the newsreport of Ash-Abhi wedding. they can learn a thing or two how to ward of the illuck by getting the girl married to a pepal tree or banana tree first before marrying her off to Hiten.

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Aisha_86

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Posted: 16 years ago

#133

The maasi bhanja thing doesn't bother me as much as the selfishness and the immature behaviour

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PROTOPLASM

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Posted: 16 years ago

#134

In today's episode (Friday) one of the village woman for the first time pointed out the maasi-bhanja thing 😆😆

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Nupur

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Posted: 16 years ago

#135

Originally posted by: PROTOPLASM
In today's episode (Friday) one of the village woman for the first time pointed out the maasi-bhanja thing 😆😆

Ahhh Not everybody has selective memory loss then??? 😆 😆

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BoredNCynical

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Posted: 16 years ago

#136

Originally posted by: Aisha_86
The maasi bhanja thing doesn't bother me as much as the selfishness and the immature behaviour

Amen to that!!😆😆😆

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roneeta

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Posted: 16 years ago

#137

For everyone who was pointing out that the bhaanja-maasi angle was not mentioned, it WAS in friday's episode..

So what if DM-Santo are not yet husband-wife in the truest relationship?
Do you mean to say that for Hit-mi to have their way .. DM-Santo should break their marriage..

There is an unwritten rule that there are some relationships that are
just not allowed in society .. and it's always better it remains that way ..

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tvrasika

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Posted: 16 years ago

#138

Good point... Do people expect DM and Santo to get divorced so that Hiten and Khemi can marry?

The maasi-bhaanja relationship has been raised twice now, once by Santo and once by Indu Kaki. But why should anyone even raise it? Khemi herself told Santo she knows her relationship with Hiten. She knows it herself.

There is no use trying to skirt the maasi-bhaanja issue. Hiten is nephew to Khemi, among Hindu Gujaratis, from what I have heard from Gujaratis on this forum. That is all that matters. DM and Santo are being shown as Hindu Gujaratis, so the least the creatives can do is depict that community properly or address the challenges that particular community faces.

My problem with the Hiten-Khemi angle, and the earlier Shashank-Santo angle, is that the directors and writers in Bandini do not seem to have the ability to address the issue properly. I am not talking about whether it is right or wrong. My point is, Hiten-Khemi type of stories do happen in real life. So, as a viewer, I am interested in knowing how the Bandini team will address it.

And how do they address it? By not talking about it at all (except 3 times)! This is laughable! If they do not have the guts to go thru the whole thing, why develop this angle in the first place? Why not show Hiten in love with an educated girl with attitude who will cause some commotion in the Mahiyavanshi house? Or with Khemi's neighbour or something? Why Khemi?

If you want to question society's rules and regulations, be bold. Say it loud. Let us see Hiten scream at the top of his voice, 'I don't care if Khemi is my maasi. I love her and will marry her'. let us hear Khemi say it too, 'I don't care if Hiten is my banevilal's son and my bhaanja. I will marry him only'. Why get scared now and not talk about it all? The world does not become dark because one closes one's eyes!

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Opti

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Posted: 16 years ago

#139

Originally posted by: tvrasika
Good point... Do people expect DM and Santo to get divorced so that Hiten and Khemi can marry?

The maasi-bhaanja relationship has been raised twice now, once by Santo and once by Indu Kaki. But why should anyone even raise it? Khemi herself told Santo she knows her relationship with Hiten. She knows it herself.

There is no use trying to skirt the maasi-bhaanja issue. Hiten is nephew to Khemi, among Hindu Gujaratis, from what I have heard from Gujaratis on this forum. That is all that matters. DM and Santo are being shown as Hindu Gujaratis, so the least the creatives can do is depict that community properly or address the challenges that particular community faces.

My problem with the Hiten-Khemi angle, and the earlier Shashank-Santo angle, is that the directors and writers in Bandini do not seem to have the ability to address the issue properly. I am not talking about whether it is right or wrong. My point is, Hiten-Khemi type of stories do happen in real life. So, as a viewer, I am interested in knowing how the Bandini team will address it.

And how do they address it? By not talking about it at all (except 3 times)! This is laughable! If they do not have the guts to go thru the whole thing, why develop this angle in the first place? Why not show Hiten in love with an educated girl with attitude who will cause some commotion in the Mahiyavanshi house? Or with Khemi's neighbour or something? Why Khemi?

If you want to question society's rules and regulations, be bold. Say it loud. Let us see Hiten scream at the top of his voice, 'I don't care if Khemi is my maasi. I love her and will marry her'. let us hear Khemi say it too, 'I don't care if Hiten is my banevilal's son and my bhaanja. I will marry him only'. Why get scared now and not talk about it all? The world does not become dark because one closes one's eyes!

I want to hear that too but since both their families did not cite that as a reason why they cannot marry but instead brought in the kundali issue, why would they go about explaining why they want to marry even with this issue?

I want them to bring it out in the open and show how ridiculous the social customs are. The society is perfectly comfortable with a 18-50 relationship but not a relationship that is perfectly valid in legal and medical terms but is being objected to because of the quirky relationship brought on by the age-mismatched couple. None of DM's children address Santo as mother, including the younger ones (even after Baa has supposedly accepted her as her daughter) and yet society now wants Hiten to respect that relationship and keep away from Khemi because she turns out to be his 'maasi'. What a joke!

I guess children will have to pay for the decisions of their parents. DM decides to marry Santo for his own selfish reasons and his son pays for it. No wonder Hiten was furious with him.

Talking of relationships isn't it weird to have Shashank consider the woman he formerly loved as his mother-in-law ? It is perfectly insensitive of Santo to emotionally blackmail him into marrying Kaddu after knowing how he feels for her. I am not surprised by her actions. The girl does not know the first thing about love and is going about trampling everyone's feelings in the name of upholding the family honour.

I want them to dichotomise the relationships here because it is ridiculous of Santo having to play mother to children older than her which is the direct result of her marriage to DM. Let her be DM's wife if DM wants her as one. But she has no right or obligation to play the mother of his children when they cannot see her in that way. Society will just have to live with it. I know of real instances where couple have got into 'prohibitive' marriages.Society talks about it for some time but then, it forgets about it. The couple got acceptability with time and the children born to them too found matches within the community (they did not marry within the family though).

Edited by Opti - 16 years ago