Santo's decision about Khemi-Hiten

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sg08

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Posted: 16 years ago

#121

Originally posted by: Opti

Oh, so all these indirect references are sufficient to accord Santu the place of DM's wife? The guy is still talking to the portrait of his dead wife and going around saying no one can take her place. Correcting her bindi and putting ointment shows he has accepted her as his wife? It was so pathetic to see that the poor girl is so starved for attention that she had to put her bindi crooked to get his attention. Hiten need not be privy to DM-Santu's relationship. Everyone in the house know what relationship he has with her. After all he still calls her chokri, like some indulgent elder. As of now DM-Santu do not share the relationship of a husband and wife. By that I am not referring to just a physical relationship. Even otherwise, do we see him involve her in family decisions unless he is forced to by her own actions? A simple case of giving jewellery to Khemi, he had involved Hiten and not his chokri and created so much confusion.

No, they are not enough but they are a step in the right direction - that is what the premise of this story is - how Santo win's over all the members of her husbands family as well as her husband, all the other characters and tracks are secondary and a means to move DM-Santo story forward. If DM had fully given her the place of his wife, the show would be long over. They are showing how Santo is winning over everyone in the family one-by-one. My point was that DM is no longer treating Santo as an outsider, almost like a servant which he used to at the beginning. He has slowly started warming up to her and accepting her as his wife and when he fully accepts her, the show will be over. DM-Santo story is not a flash-in-the-pan kind of love story.

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sg08

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Posted: 16 years ago

#122

Originally posted by: Opti

Nothing to my mind justifies the sacrifice of Hiten-Khemi relationsiop, unless the regressiveness is the only objective of this show.

well, nothing in my mind justifies their relationship.

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soap-critic

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Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 16 years ago

#123

@ Rasika

I did mean to stay with the original topic of the thread and that is discuss Santu's decision as a separate issue from whether Hiten-Khemi are right or wrong. Even if as a viewer one feels that Hiten and Khemi are wrong it does not necessarily mean that Santu is right. I agree that her heart is in the right place where she thinks about other people first but in critical situations that is not enough.

I disagree with the way she is going about the whole thing – stalking DM's adult kids and butting heads with them and getting insulted time and again. In Kaddu's case too, in the end she had to use DM's name to threaten Sandeep and Avinash and she just got lucky that they decided to turn back after hearing DM's name.

In the Hiten-Khemi situation she declared that she is making a decision in the role of maalkin but then she starts penduluming between being maalkin and sister. As a maalkin her decision should have been fair to Shambhu also which it was not. She kept on playing the 'choti jaati' and 'maanglik' card thinking only about Khemi and her future.

She should have gone straight to DM and informed him of the situation. What happened to the advice and sanskara Nanaji gave her – 'apne pati se kuch bhi chupana nahin chaahiye'? I like the way DM handles things. He is a straight shooter and goes right to the root of the issue, gets all the facts and deals with the problem/issue as a whole. Santu deals with them on a piece meal basis and keeps running from pillar to post trying to put out little fires here and there.

Chances are DM may take the same decision as hers. Or he would have some time to be able to explain to Shambhu and his parents to call off the wedding. If Santu would have involved him as soon as she found out the drama that followed would not have happened. The situation would haven been nipped in the bud before Khemi's haldi rasam instead of DM having to put out the big fire the night before the wedding.

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tvrasika

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Posted: 16 years ago

#124

Hema,

'Stalking' is a strong word to denote what Santo has been doing. Until very very recently Santo was treated like a servant. Servants are outsiders but with access to all inside info. In 'big' families, servants always pick up things because they are the ones ordered around, to bring this and that, to go here and there. Santo did not learn about Kadambari and Sandeep by stalking them!

Yes, she should have told DM and it was silly of her to think she could help him by not telling him and trying to solve it all herself.

But I don't understand the views expressed here about Santo. Is she mahaan or is she not? She makes mistakes. So she is not mahaan. But here people think she is. Which means she makes no mistakes?

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KaneBC

@KaneBC

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

#125

So, DM's only objection is to Khemi's horoscope and nothing else. So inspite of 17 pages of debate, it actually a non-issue in the show. 😕

Edited by --BC-- - 16 years ago

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Nupur

@Nupur9

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

#126

Originally posted by: --BC--
So, DM's only objection is to Khemi's horoscope and nothing else. So inspite of 17 pages of debate, it actually a non-issue in the show. 😕

Ejjectly!!! 😆 😆

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Faz

@maybe-just

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 16 years ago

#127

Originally posted by: --BC--
So, DM's only objection is to Khemi's horoscope and nothing else. So inspite of 17 pages of debate, it actually a non-issue in the show. 😕

I know I was thinking the same thing! 😆😆 😛 Khemi's horoscope is the problem - oh dear lord we could be here forever! 😆😛

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Aisha_86

@Aisha_86

Inactive

Posted: 16 years ago

#128

Originally posted by: --BC--
So, DM's only objection is to Khemi's horoscope and nothing else. So inspite of 17 pages of debate, it actually a non-issue in the show. 😕

Yes that's what i was thinking too 😆

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PROTOPLASM

@PROTOPLASM

Explorer

Posted: 16 years ago

#129

Originally posted by: --BC--
So, DM's only objection is to Khemi's horoscope and nothing else. So inspite of 17 pages of debate, it actually a non-issue in the show. 😕

😆😆😆

I think that's fair from DM, because he still doesn't accept Santo as his wife, so why would he think about all the maasi-bhanja thing which we are thinking ???😉😛😆

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Opti

@Opti

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

#130

Originally posted by: thornewood9

My parents are first cousins and Im happy to say that none of their children are handicapped🤔
Just because cousins marry doesnt mean that their children will have some genetic disorder. Of course if the families keep inbreeding THEN that is a possibility. And if there are no blood ties then how can that marriage be a taboo?
I think the whole issue of what marriages are taboo and which ones arent is a cultural thing. So thats why some of us watching Hiten/Khemi think its fine if they get married and some of us think its not.

And anyway this is all a drama. Its not based on real life so really debating the whole Should They/ Shouldnt They is kind of a moot point.

And Maybe-Just😃 I completely love you too! In a totally non-creepy friendly way that is😉

Aisha xxx😉

I agree with you not all children may be handicapped (have many cases of such marriages in my family too and have not had such instances) but the probality increases. So one can understand such realionships being prohibitive. As to the culture issue, yes different cultrues have different yardsticks but the cultures themselves are dynamic and evolving. Nothing is stationary. So I dont think such unreasonable customs cannot be broken. And fully agree with you. This is drama and anything can happen. So when DM-Santo can be accepted although in reality many of us would find it repulsive, why not Hiten-Khemi? Everything is fair in love, war and Ekta drama!

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