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kate-nic

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Posted: 9 years ago

#41

And Anandi is also doing whats she wants to do where she is following BH wasis instructions ? This present hiding the truth from her kids BH wasis did not advice her In fact Dadisaa has plenty of times asked her to tell the truth so why blame BH wasis ?

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CosmoCoCo

@CosmoCoCo

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Posted: 9 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: aparnauma
Anandi is capable of earning her own money if required.
CVs made sure that she is educated and capable of earning.

but so far she has not earned anything so how can we say she is capable of ? So far cvs have never shown her doing anything without Singhs and Shekhars finances. All her social service in Jaitsar , her own survival , her education in Jaitsar have been on Singhs finances Her Bhaili was financed by shiv SN is financed by Singhs and may be by Shekhars too so which earning is of Anandi here ? She is lucky to have been related to such rich people

Edited by _Hannah_ - 9 years ago

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leavesandwaves

@leavesandwaves

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Posted: 9 years ago

#43

The argument is becoming like working woman versus housewife. I am a housewife and I contribute a lot as a home maker giving both quality time and quantity time to my folks and earn my roji roti. Without me, the house will become an orphan. I dont have a maid most of the time and I cook even if I am sick just like other housewives. And I am not even a social worker like anandi spending time away from home. Am I capable of working if that becomes necessary? I think I can. I may give tuitions for which there is no age bar and I can eke out my living by doing tailoring work. I can baby sit and I can take care of elderly for some monthly salary. I can do computer work like excel and can draft for people who need that kind of work to be done. Can do share market work and also day trading.

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves
The argument is becoming like working woman versus housewife. I am a housewife and I contribute a lot as a home maker giving both quality time and quantity time to my folks and earn my roji roti. Without me, the house will become an orphan. I dont have a maid most of the time and I cook even if I am sick just like other housewives. And I am not even a social worker like anandi spending time away from home. Am I capable of working if that becomes necessary? I think I can. I may give tuitions for which there is no age bar and I can eke out my living by doing tailoring work. I can baby sit and I can take care of elderly for some monthly salary. I can do computer work like excel and can draft for people who need that kind of work to be done. Can do share market work and also day trading.

I think you should not compare this with your own personal example here, because your situation and your priorities may not be the same as Anandi's.

It is not about housewife vs working women.

It is about, seeing a bigger picture in life and setting priorities accordingly.

You may have chosen to be a housewife because it gives you and your family bigger gains. (i.e. better health, better welfare, better quality time, support through thick and thin and lot more).Your support would be the fundamental reason for your husband and children's progress. And so your contribution is probably the highest of all. This is why I respect all the housewives because even if their work goes unnoticed, it is fact that they are the backbone of their family.

But what if a woman had all the time on earth to go out and work, and unfortunately she was the only parent left to her kids. Would that woman not start worrying about securing her finances, especially if she was left with a legacy and had all the means to multiply that income?

Why would that woman end up using all or most of the money as charity without thinking how will she secure her child(ren)'s education? Especially if one as educated as Anandi and belonged to a highly educated family like Shekhars?

Should it not be natural for her to think that atleast she should have some income generating work under her belt? Should she not aim to give a life to her children that Shekhar heir would have got, both in terms of virtues as well as materialistically.

Shiv, Mahi, Saanchi were all brought up with so much of financial liberty and yet everyone valued money (minus Sa ofcourse). So should Shivam and Nandini not deserve that kind of life, especially when their father and grandfathers left enough behind for them?

It is not about fending for luxuries either. It is only about thinking through your priorities and maintaining a Standard of Life, when you have all the required means to attain it.

Edited by Missesha - 9 years ago

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Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

#45

Not giving Anandi a financial independence as a single woman is the biggest mistake CVs made.

They just kept on rotating her from rich family to another.

Anandi personally is not a spend thrift person, but always being in high end rich families has never made her feel the need to go out and make that extra inch for herself.

Real life is not like that. Not everybody is blessed with rich maikas and sasurals. Especially if you are a single mother of two, financial security becomes your primary concern and focus too.

I have no problem that she does social work, but it looks to fake and plastic that while Anandi cares to uplift financial status of other women, she doesn't have one of her own.

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Stephi

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Posted: 9 years ago

#46

When she was sarpanch no child marriages took place in Jaitser or in nearby villages.

That one child marriage which happend where Shiv burst in like Arnold Schwarzneger in Terminator was happening in a far away village because they thought Jaitser Sarpanch won't be able to find out about it😛

At that time when Shiv burst in like Arnold Schwarzneger I wonder why he was so angry at Anandi . I mean, if the prevention of child marriage is child's play. I wonder even more what he would say to her knowing that she went in such a dangerous mission with their child in her arms.

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dsupriya

@dsupriya

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Posted: 9 years ago

#47

Esha I completely resonate with you. As you said not about homemaker versus social worker. But as social worker also people are worried about funds and how to take it long term. I am working with a lady and she is fighting for her organization existence. And she is doing it when her child is into college.

Agreed a single parent worries a lot for secure future. Not the luxuries but decent education and works or invests wisely to be able to give one.

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Stephi

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Posted: 9 years ago

#48

Originally posted by: kate-nic
Lols which BH wasis wants to keep the great Anandi in golden cage ?Its madam so called caged bird herself does not want go if she really wants to move out of SN then she should bring in a logical reason Each time coming with a pathetic excuse burdening BH wasis with her great sacrifices Obviously if a guest in my house will say i cannot stay because your family members will have problems , you get double work to do , i dont want to burden you with my problems I will ask the person out of basic courtesy no its nothing like this you stay here as long as you can i have no problem i will help you in your problems and same the BH wasis are doing How did this become they are caging her in golden cage ?🤪 What she gives to BH wasis that they will want to cage her ? in fact its they who give her everything
Anandi with the excuses she brings more looks like wanting to be coaxed and cajoled by BH wasis and fix herself in BH She is never serious about moving out of BH otherwise she would make Dadisaa understand with a point Not this stupid drama she does

Exactly. She always gives some lame excuses like she doesn't want to be a burden , like she doesn't want to cause any problem in JaGan marital life but then very neatly she interferes in their life and their decisions. In fact she made some decisions on their behalf, then she put the blame on Ganga and leave but eager to come back every day that to very often without invitation... she lectures them how to behave with their kids but pathetically states that she doesn't want to bother them with her own problems etc.

Is it really that hard to give a real argument and say it loud and clear : thank you for all your support. I know I can always rely on you but I need my own space and take my life into my own hands. But Anandi's never saying that because she wants just the opposite. It is she who wants voluntarily to be in that golden cage . Otherwise, we had so many times the opportunity to see if Anandi wants to do something , no one can stop her.

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leavesandwaves

@leavesandwaves

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Posted: 9 years ago

#49

Why a spouse should not enjoy the fortune left by her husband?

Anandi could have joined as a teacher or as some office assistant and got some salary. But then she could not have devoted full time to an institution like SN or go on for field trips for women's causes as getting leave of absence sanctioned is not easy once you become a regular employee.

And she is staying at SN because she is not able to say a firm No. And she also helps in household work at BH. And she is the only daughter of Khajan and whatever little he has is also hers.
Just like Ganga cannot say a firm No to dadisa(when she felt anandi's presence is giving problems), Anandi(the weaker one while taking a firm decision) also cannot say a firm No. It is all about relationships more than freeloading and saving money. Only when she felt clearly her presence is causing problems and when dadisa also saw those problems, anandi was able to shift to SN.

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

#50

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves
Why a spouse should not enjoy the fortune left by her husband?

Anandi could have joined as a teacher or as some office assistant and got some salary. But then she could not have devoted full time to an institution like SN or go on for field trips for women's causes as getting leave of absence sanctioned is not easy once you become a regular employee.

And she is staying at SN because she is not able to say a firm No. And she also helps in household work at BH. And she is the only daughter of Khajan and whatever little he has is also hers.
Just like Ganga cannot say a firm No to dadisa(when she felt anandi's presence is giving problems), Anandi(the weaker one while taking a firm decision) also cannot say a firm No. It is all about relationships more than freeloading and saving money. Only when she felt clearly her presence is causing problems and when dadisa also saw those problems, anandi was able to shift to SN.

@ bold: That's not the point.

The point is about maintaining the pool of wealth or increase it. Life in 2004 was rather cheaper than it is 2016. So if I rely on the money I got from 2004 and not add any penny to it, the economy will wipe me out.

The point is also about taking advantage of the legacy you got and leveraging it for everyone's safe secure future, especially if you have children.

It is not about "I don't need money or luxuries" or "What is wrong if led a mediocre life?" It is wrong if one doesn't grow. Or it is wrong, if one uses up all the pool of funds and ends up living a mediocre life, when they were in full position to leverage it.

I will take three examples from BV only. Sarita, Ganga and Anandi.

Both Sarita and Ganga started as 'nobody' with tiny toddlers to look after.

Sarita picked up on the help provided by Anandi and now she is earning enough for her survival and some luxuries. She leveraged on all her capacities, education and help that came along her way. She did the best with what was available and has progressed. Pooja is expected to better than Sarita, because Sarita provided Pooja a much better life than Sarita herself had.

Ganga was rather lucky to be married in a rich household. therefore the legacy she got was better than Sarita's. Using that legacy she, she managed to work hard and become a doctor as well as Chief Admin of the hospital. The support Ganga got was far better than what Sarita got, but at the same time, Ganga made a far richer career then Sarita could. Ganga maximised on her potential and available resources.

Now Anandi - she never started as a Nobody and she had all the opportunities to leverage on all the legacies but she barely made any living. Therefore if we look at the financial progress, Ganga will outshine Anandi, and Anandi might not be much better than Sarita and Mangala in terms of wealth.

The only difference is that Anandi may get continuous flow of income from her rich relatives (Shekhars and Singhs) but Anandi's own pool of wealth (comprising of Shiv's earnings and properties) is far reduced and it will not last forever.

The problem is: Anandi is reducing on family legacy, leaving very little for her children which is not correct

Edited by Missesha - 9 years ago