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Will you accept if, by some chance, Anandi remarries Anant?

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anshurg5

@anshurg5

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Posted: 10 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: The_Alchemist.

Yes when Ansh marriage happened emotionally both were not on equal footing. Shiv was a clean slat while Anandi's soul was deeply bruised. Shiv did everything to heal her wounds and made her soul as good as new whether it was giving time to overcome her past or understanding her concern for BH ppl . No doubt Shiv's has to give more initially but he was successful in bringing Anandi later at same level on emotional front where she too could give him emotional support when required like Rasika's case or his own parentage case. Both of them could depend on each other in time of their necessity.

My complain is about carrier front. They were almost on same level when they met and what attracted Shiv most towards Anandi was her determination towards her goal and her ability to handle difficult issues with simplicity , honesty . When they married it was expected that with an exceptionally understanding and supporting husband like Shiv Anandi would touch new heights where she could have achieved more power to fulfill her wish to bring a change in society reeling under orthodox customs but it did not happen . Though Shiv always supported in whatever Anandi wished to do but he did not take initiatives to make Anandi push her limits to expend her horizon.

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SPuja

@SPuja

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Posted: 10 years ago

#42

I don't think career wise - Anandi and Shiv were on same level when they married. Anandi was elected representative of a village, while Shiv was selected candidate of country's top Administrative job. While elected representatives may not be elected for next tenure (it is another matter that in BV - once a sarpanch - always a sarpanch - like the person who was sarpanch when Anandi was 8 years old remained sarpanch till the last we saw during Gahna's remarriage; once MLA, always MLA etc.) but the permanent officer like an IAS is expected to serve till his retirement and will also get regular promotions.

Since creatives cannot show professional tracks (they do not do any research) so they made Anandi not pursuing her career or even her social service post marriage with Shiv. And I think, they did not show an IAS officer anywhere near the real life - they just don't know what an IAS officer does.

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

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Posted: 10 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: anshurg5

Sorry but i don't think Shiv and Anandi are anywhere equal when in comes to career.
Shiv was an Economics Graduate, MBA Post-Graduate and an IAS officer (not to mention a very good and respectable one among his batch).
Anandi was a Graduate, a school teacher of village and a sarpanch of village.
I'm not saying all this makes Anandi lesser than Shiv but if we talk about being equal in career, its a bit unfair to say that an IAS officer (with two degrees) is equal to a social worker (that to a beginner).
Shiv had more practical and experienced approach in administrative matter than Anandi. Shiv was definitely a senior in age, experience, qualification and job.

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Vidya

@Shinya

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Posted: 10 years ago

#44

I was never in favor of Shiv-Anandi marriage because to me they never looked equals... At that time, anandi was nowhere near to shiv in anything.

They were poles apart in education, social status, marital status, and profession. He might have liked her because being a woman she was trying hard to develop the village.

He started respecting her when he came to know from Hethsingh that she was dumped by her husband, and slowly he fell in love with her.

Anant and Anandi can be said to be equals.

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anshurg5

@anshurg5

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Posted: 10 years ago

#45

Originally posted by: SPuja
I don't think career wise - Anandi and Shiv were on same level when they married. Anandi was elected representative of a village, while Shiv was selected candidate of country's top Administrative job. While elected representatives may not be elected for next tenure (it is another matter that in BV - once a sarpanch - always a sarpanch - like the person who was sarpanch when Anandi was 8 years old remained sarpanch till the last we saw during Gahna's remarriage; once MLA, always MLA etc.) but the permanent officer like an IAS is expected to serve till his retirement and will also get regular promotions.
Since creatives cannot show professional tracks (they do not do any research) so they made Anandi not pursuing her career or even her social service post marriage with Shiv. And I think, they did not show an IAS officer anywhere near the real life - they just don't know what an IAS officer does.

In our system elected representatives are not considered lower that selected candidates. In fact these are elected candidates who make laws sitting in parliaments or assemblies . Job of selected candidates is to see that those laws are followed.

Elected candidates may loose power after a tenure but till the time they complete their tenure they are not considered less . As for re electing if a person is doing her/his job sincerely it can be expected that she can be selected for another tenure though it is not strictly true. Various other factors can also play a role there.

As CVs have shown that Anandi was a brilliant student , she could have also cleared IAS if she had attempted with proper preparation. I wished that Shiv would have chosen to inspire her to appear in that exam . It could have empowered her to do good for society.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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+ 4

Posted: 10 years ago

#46

In democracy elected representatives of people hold the highest position. Higher than that of employees selected by the government.

Laws are made by the elected representatives be it MLAs MPs or at village level the elected representatives to panchayat are responsible for the decisions taken in the interest of the people they represent.

District collector is an employee of the government he is incharge of the administration and incharge of ensuring all the decisions taken by the governement are implemented in a proper manner.

Local body representatives do liase with the collectors to ensure that state government run programmes are reaching the people.

Sarapnchs are not under collectors.

Politicians/people may or may not get elected.But as elected represenatives they are only answerable to the people and not to collectors and other government officers.

Anandi was in no way inferior to Shiv at any level Shiv Vs Anandi is a case of opportunities they had as children and the families they grew up in.

Anandi didn't have the opportunities that Shiv had. She resumed her education very late but she chose a branch which would help her do what she liked to do best..

She started off with a school then went on to get involved in welfare projects in village became sarpanch and later after she moved to Udaipur she realised the importance of econmic importance so she worked through Bhaili

When she came back to Jaitser she realised along with education girls need to have confidences in them and martial arts is a result of that thought.Or may be her inability when Akheraj used his brute force to snatch her baby taught her the importance of using physical methods as self defence. Which she may have learnt it earlier but it took shape after her own experience.

She just expanded her areas of work and acquired the relevant expertise for that while trying to meet the needs of people around her.

Her focus never changed. It has always been one goal help women /girls help themselves. She used her school later Bhaili and now SN to do the kind of work that she wanted to do.

She doesn't hold a political position but her work did take off well whether she was in Udaipur or Jaitser.

Except for the fact that she did not spread her wongs in political arena she did a lot to carve an identity for herself either through Bhaili which we didn't see much but the products produced by her Bhaili were traveling all over the world.

SN till now we have not seen much but she is known by her work.

One can't say that she has not done much.

Only thing that she didn't do was get into politics.

Ira was not really in favour of her social work she may not have opposed as much as Dsa did but family support or opposition really did not come in her way of doing what she wanted either in Jaitser or Udaipur.The most important thing is that she was livinf life on her own terms.

Shiv did become the most important person but he did come with a massive useless family which is getting into one trouble after another.Shiv did care very much for his family and she was doing her bit to help him because she cared for him and he did appreciate what she did to make his life smoother.

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Missesha

@Missesha

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+ 2

Posted: 10 years ago

#47

Post her marriage if Anandi chose to pursue her career in a specific and definite direction, Anandi had many opportunities. Bhaili was mostly a hobby based profession not exactly a career

Anandi need not have got totally involved in lives of Shekhars and get unnecessarily busy.

She could have kept out if Saanchi's matters, avoided digging on Shiv's identity or even kept out DB problems which also included Hardik and Gulli. All these were not problems where she had to completely remain engrossed.

She could have focused on other things related to her career / studies if she really wanted.

She had worked very hard to carve an identity for herself in career and instead of taking that to the next height with a supporting husband like Shiv, she dropped the ball.

Anandi's unsteady career progress was highly disappointing story line given to us by CVs.

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

Rocker

Posted: 10 years ago

#48

Honestly not every intelligent person can becomes an IAS officer. For me, Anandi lacked few qualities needed to become a good IAS officer! Besides she herself never thought of civil services. She always seemed to be more inclined towards teaching area. Even politics did not interest her. She merely stood in elections for others' sake and did not have any regrets to leave it later on. Anandi could have never become a MLA because politics was never her field of interest. Surely there would have been few elections held in Jaitsar after Shiv's demise and her shift to Jaitsar! She could have used that oppurtunity to stand in elections, win them and become powerful enough to find her daughter through police force.

Whenever she got some chance to do something she choose social work, NGO or teaching! That clearly shows that being a govt. officer or politician did not hold her interest at all.

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

Rocker

Posted: 10 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: Shinya
I was never in favor of Shiv-Anandi marriage because to me they never looked equals... At that time, anandi was nowhere near to shiv in anything.

They were poles apart in education, social status, marital status, and profession. He might have liked her because being a woman she was trying hard to develop the village.

He started respecting her when he came to know from Hethsingh that she was dumped by her husband, and slowly he fell in love with her.

Anant and Anandi can be said to be equals.

Being equal is not always important. Both Gauri and Jagya were equal in pretty much every aspect and yet their marriage failed drastically. Whereas both Jagya-Ganga and Shiv-Anandi's marriage survived the social differences. Compatibility or understanding matters a lot and can bridge great differences. One can become equal to their partner even after marriage but before that they need establish relationship of respect and trust which AnSh clearly had for each other.

Shiv-Anandi's marriage had its own merits and demerits but in the end Anandi got to be with a partner like Shiv. She got to learn much more about life and even got the taste of what true love and relationship of marriage is about. No marriage is perfect so AnSh's marriage cannot be called unfavourable for Anandi or Shiv simply because of difference between social status or other aspects.

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1013962

Suspended

Posted: 10 years ago

#50

I do not know how many of us have a flourishing career and married too here
Do you think Woman who are IAS officer do not have to manage family problems
The beauty of being a woman is she can be at the top of her career and manage home family and in laws
I have seen loads of corporate leaders white collar officers nicely managing every aspect of their life you need the ability

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