This week in Balika Vadhu *Spoiler* - Hindustan Times - Page 6

and i am hoping against hope that they avoid words like, 'ghar ki izzat' , 'parivaar ki izzat' , 'ab shaadi kesi hogi' and all those bullshit that soaps often show. And in this case, I seriously hope they don't start blaming Saanchi for her rape. It will be sick if they go that way. Its known that Shekhars are a bunch of clowns but atleast in this case, they should be shown sensible and be a rock of support for their wronged child. They should just fight for her justice in this case!

@dsupriya @theepe, thank you: finally someone said that rape is not to be treated as a stigma, certainly not as a lifetime burden.

And I hope that Anandi does not resort to "Aurat is devi ma" kind of shrill bullshite while trying to get justice. Keep it life-like and treat it with the sensitiveness it deserves.

This Date Rape Drug is very dangerous. As per pills record, it erases memory and makes the consumer infertile for life.

Originally posted by: adi2512

Agree with your point here, that many gullible girls are subjected to such heinous crimes and such an act needs to be condemned.

But in this case, particular to Sanchi, had she been little level headed and mature, she would have tried and avoided Saurabh, especially after the advances he made at her own home.

In spite of not being comfortable with his advances, she still blindly went ahead , based on HER perception of him, which is obviously foolish. She neither cared for Anandi's advise, nor Payal's words.

She started to drink at the party, and obviously, that would make her lose her bearings and sense as to what can happen with her.

How can we not condemn her actions here ?

She had a chance to recognise the danger, yet she overlooked that chance, because of her own ego and mind set.

In this case, she got this upon herself, mostly due to her own actions.

Originally posted by: rohini55

@dsupriya @theepe, thank you: finally someone said that rape is not to be treated as a stigma, certainly not as a lifetime burden.

Parents have a responsibility to the teach the girl that she played no part in her own rape and she must deal with it without feeling any sense of shame. And while the criminal ought to be tried and punished , she should move on to a better life, putting the past behind her.

In fact, post the December 16, 2012 gangrape of a paramedic in Delhi, a whole new awakening has started among victims, who incidentally are being advised not see themselves as victims

. A new term, rape-survivor has come into usage and more and more girls are coming out to register complaints without feeling guilt or fearing a loss of reputation.

Delhi has seen a flurry of poster competitions and seminars on rape, the point of all of which has been to say that rape ought to destroy the perpetrator not the victim. The coming out of rape from the closet has helped create awareness about how to deal with the crime and destigmatised it.

Over the past two years, so many women in Delhi have come out in the open and identified themselves as rape victims, and told the story of what happened to them and how they overcame the ordeal to lead full, happy lives today.

Rape happened to a child whose family I knew very well. The initial reaction of the girl was that she had lost her izzat. Her parents counselled her beautifully and she was back in school one week after the incident. At the same time, the parents ensured that the rapist was convicted. Rape trials are held in camera and the girl's evidence is given the highest weightage. So I hope BV does not make this into an open trial full of sensational drama.

Finally I hope the doctor counsels Saanchi and her family to give her the 'morning-after' pill to prevent pregnancy. This pill is meant to be used post coitus and prevents pregnancy. I do not know why TV soaps which adapt to technology and other innovations so eagerly, have never once highlighted that rape pregnancy is preventable.

But I suppose if this happened, there will be no drama, no wailing single mother etc.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Sanchi is stupid enough not to recognise the danger and her mother is gullible enough to believe that her daughter has changed but Sanchi's stupidity is not reason enough for her to end up in this situation.It is the man who took advantage of her and her is more responsible for this.

Originally posted by: Payali09

Uma, I agree that Sanchi should be held accountable for HER actions -> for having bad judgement regarding Saurabh, for disregarding others advice and for getting drunk at the party and not exercising common sense.

But I disagree that she she should be condemned for HIS actions -> he was the one who drugged her drink and potentially raped her.

The consequence of getting drunk is passing out/throwing up/having a hangover...not being raped.

Payal,

Originally posted by: adi2512

Payal,

I never said, she should be condemned for HIS actions.

She needs utmost understanding, lots of TLC and support from her family now.

BV 's sending out the relevant message, can never be complete, unless, they show Sanchi getting to rise above this situation, and live her life with her head held high, along with Saurabh getting the strictest punishment from the hands of justice.

Originally posted by: Payali09

Agree with your point here, that many gullible girls are subjected to such heinous crimes and such an act needs to be condemned.

But in this case, particular to Sanchi, had she been little level headed and mature, she would have tried and avoided Saurabh, especially after the advances he made at her own home.

In spite of not being comfortable with his advances, she still blindly went ahead , based on HER perception of him, which is obviously foolish. She neither cared for Anandi's advise, nor Payal's words.

She started to drink at the party, and obviously, that would make her lose her bearings and sense as to what can happen with her.

How can we not condemn her actions here ?

She had a chance to recognise the danger, yet she overlooked that chance, because of her own ego and mind set.

In this case, she got this upon herself, mostly due to her own actions.