Skep , i see it this way
I agree with u about the regressive mindset . The very 'Anandi saasra' thing is the regressive mindset . To please the sasuralwallahs go to ANY extent ...even selling your son off to become their damad when he is repeatedly telling i DON'T want to marry that girl .
They sold off girls like this to please sasuralwallahs . If a rishta was fixed and the girl's brother suggested marrying the groom's sister , it was immediately complied with ...to please the sasural of the girl getting married . Often , the groom's mother cleverly used this as a leverage to get the maximum for her son .
Well , whether its a girl being sold off or a man like Jagya it is a social evil and this jabardasti MUST be protested against .
The regressive mindset in BV implies as u said OBEDIENCE is being GOOD . IMPLICIT OBEDIENCE . Not protesting against any decision of atrocious 'ELDERS' is goodness .
Why is Anandi good ? Coz she does NOT personally protest against any atrocity meted out to her . She was ok being Jagya's wife forever ...she was respecting the choices made by ELDERS . That gratified their ego . She is doing it even now . Bearing the nonsense of Shiv's family and accepting trashy treatment by making various excuses for them
its NATURAL for them to get angry
Shiv is being just a BIG BROTHER
yada yada .
Why is Jagya BAD ? Coz he shows the guts to protest and question . Rightly or wrongly he PROTESTS . Whether its Gauri or Ganga , he makes his own choices which is unacceptable to them .
What r the punishments for this rebellion from the flock and not accepting herd mentality ?
Family ostracization and cutting off from property .
Then he should 'WIN' them over . He should bend backwards and forward to please those dominant tyrants and when they thaw , he just might be graciously accepted .
This is the nonsense BV consistently shows .
When in reality
the social evil is the fear of the 'saasra' . The Haveli lot was feared when they were the 'saasra' . Their position changed when the Shekhars became the 'saasra' . They wore sophisticated masks but the mentality was exactly same ...regressive .
So i see regression THERE .
But i don't see regression in Jagya's dialogue coz I see it in the context shown . The girl may run away bcoz of the massive guilt complex laid on her by both the families ...they were VICIOUS . He hastens to stop her each time . Its in language she understands ...either devimaa , or niyati , or patni dharma . The bottom line is he does not want to lose her . Its both ...his passion surfacing like a volcano and the haste to lessen her guilt and somehow keep her by his side .
He gave her an education , a vocation and stressed on the need to become financially independent . He took her away from regression to progression by each act . He could easily have employed her as a maid servant for life in his house ...but he did not . He was not satisfied with that and searched and searched for a way to give her life a better meaning .
If u notice , its Jagya who begs her to not leave him . Coz he knows , she CAN . She has capacity to be financially independent today . So the progressive man falls back on the mentality she has been reared with since childhood . And it works . Forget being really able to FORBID her from doing anything ...he showed her ways of breaking free ...DIVORCE.
It is emotional talk , bas .
The social evil then is the fear of miffing the girl's saasra .
The effect is Torture of the girl , that has started with Anandi .
What BV should show is not these elders being placated or won over but THEM realising their own mistake .
Dialogues like 'We cannot put the life of our son on line for Anandi's saasra'[ Bhairo to full family]
'' Marraige to u was NOT my upliftment but simply a decision and i think now that the decision was wrong .' [ Anandi to Shiv]
MUST be put in to show the other side of the coin .
Regarding Lal Singh .
I think his pleasant , neutral , not getting overtly involved with the Singhs is a perfect stand . Like Vidura in Mahabharat who had connection with the Pandavas and Kauravas both .
There is no reason for all like Basant Gehna , Lal Singh to take stands . It is very much necessary to have characters that observe by sitting on the fence munching an apple . They will jump down from the fence when necessary . Taking an emotional hard and fast stand sometimes denotes immaturity . While it was imperative for Anandi not to sit on fences , it is necessary for these characters and again ... i say so by seeing the context .😊
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