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Actually, there is nothing wrong with anandi serving per se, as she is the Bhabhi of the household, and Jagya is the prospective daamaad.
and in north india, and rajasthan there is a tradition that even if the jamai puts his hand over the plate and says "enough", the home people are supposed to slide food into his plate by sliding food under his hand. 😆😆 (Wasteful of food I know 😆).
My beef is that she is not doing this as bhabhi -- somehow, any time she sees Jagya eating, she just goes into trance-mode of being his beendhni and starts serving him. 😆😆
But I do think that in front of outsiders anandi and jagya cant have this casual relationship with each other -- which outsiders will not understand -- he calling her anandi and she calling him Jagya. It is not appropriate. They should both have this understanding themselves. Their faces should not turn black and white when someone else points it out to them.
A very, very long time ago, I worked for my father in his business. At work I always called him "sir" or "Mr xyz"... my surname is a very common surname, so nobody even picked up on the fact immediately that we were father and daughter. At home, I called him papa. At work I called him sir. Same with him. At home he called me "beta". At work he referred to me by name or by "Miss xyz" That was that. A long time after that, because he and I went on a family vacation together, then at time, people realized that we were related. But otherwise our relationship in his office was very firm and cordial. I did not run around calling him "papa papa papa".
Similarly, my boss (a woman) is married to the now CEO of my company. They both worked in different divisions of the same organization for a long time, before he was promoted to CEO. In strict honesty, one or the other spouse would have to leave the organization if one is direct reportee of other. But since my boss has worked with the company for thirty years, they made an exception and let her stay.
But at no point does she make a point of being his wife. In the office, her identity is always that of the officer.
In fact, we had a company picnic. As the CEO, he has his own car and driver as an entitlement. She does not get that entitlement. For the staff, they chartered a big bus. She could easily have left her home with him in the car, and come to the picnic spot with him. But no, he went on his own to the picnic spot, and she came with us in the bus. The bus was standing at a central spot -- and she had to take a rickshaw to come to the bus.
Same thing in the evening. He went home in the car, and she could easily have gone home directly with him in his car. But she didn't. Instead, she got back with us on the bus as a staff member. The bus again dropped all of us back at the central place. And she got on a rickshaw and went home the remainder of the way by herself.
She is so careful to not use his entitlements if she is not entitled to the same in front of the other staff members.
Some things are just levels of propriety.
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