Personally, I feel that Ira's stand is the correct one from where she stands.
I don't think Ira should have shouted at anandi because nobody could really have predicted the turn that a simple handicrafts and food bazaar would take. If Ira had so much foresight herself, then she should have said no right up front in the beginning. Ofcourse, once someone throws a rock at saanchi, then anyone can say that it is hindsight.
That being said, I have a more global sense of what happens after social work like anandi's in the real world. People have a sense of revenge, vendetta, vindictiveness and their pride and livelihood when hurt always leads to some form of hitting back.
When you hurt someone, he doesn't think "Oh I'm the bad guy, I deserved to have my bar shut down".
No, human nature is to hit back. The person (whether rattan or the bar owner) always will think "me? me? oh know, I wont be shown up by that chit of a girl. does she know who I am?" and the revenge they take will not be a simple tit for tat type of revenge either. The vindictiveness will be disproportionate and can go off on a tangent completely unexpected.
Someone might throw acid on anandi one day, or kidnap saanchi when coming home from college and gangrape her etc... it is not necessary that the target of the revenge will only be anandi only -- it can be choti maa, it can be daddu etc.
So, I think from that standpoint, anandi would be better off doing social work of a different type of nature -- opening schools, adult education classes etc. rather than challenging alcoholics et. al.
And from that standpoint, ira is also correct. They cannot allow open access to their home by having the fair in the front yard.
It would be best if shiv had found a proper plot or community pandal to host this, which he can easily do.
However, if anandi continues to court danger by way of her social work, then she cannot do it at the expense of the safety of other family members who do not wish to be involved in the negative repercussions.
If everyone agrees to the dangers and is solidly behind anandi, only then should she go forward with the more dangerous brand of activism. it is not enough that only shiv is behind her.