W/U 26/03/13 (J's lost love for Anandi) - Page 6

Originally posted by: shankythebest

Thanks so much for the update.

It was good but a little irritating episode.Everyone is after Jagya.Pathetic lectures from each and every person of the family.

Dadisa will never change.She showed the same desperation even more when she thought of anandi's marriage.She used to send anandi to meet shiv every now and then.She didn't even bother to ask anandi whether she wants to marry or not.She directly asked shiv whether he wants to marry anandi.Thank God in jagya's case she is not applying those tricks.It seems the only thing she has learn from anandi's marriage that you should ask the person whether he/she wants to get married or not.If yes,then ok but if the person say no then uske piche paar jao.By hook or by crook convince him.She is doing it with jagya.The most interesting thing in DS character is whenever she takes a mission in her hand she thinks she will die very soon and get desperate to complete the mission.For some weird reason despite of having so much flaws I am not able to hate her.She loves anandi so much,their relationship is so beautiful.For sake of Anandi she ignored Jagya and Gauri.She always remained with anandi.Now when jagya is trying to be a good person then he surely deserves the love and care that DS is showering on him.But she should understand he needs time but looking at DS character I don't think she will ever understand that.

Why everybody is in shock that Jagya loves anandi!!!Anandi had the reason of not bothering about jagya because he gave her immense pain.But in case of Jagya he realized that because of his foolishness he lost a gem like a person.She is now someone else's.He is regretting his decisions.Its good for him.He was so scared that everyone is trying to snatch his beautiful memories.It shows that he has understood the importance of anandi.He always cared for her until the miscarriage happened.He don't want to forget those memories then its fine.

Its not at all wrong for him to think that he is not worth being a husband.It will be his third marriage.Everyone has blamed him for the failure of his first marriage including him and his second marriage was also a mistake.How can he be positive about getting married again!How could he think of moving on with the third wife.Abhi abhi to do rishte tute hai.Inferiority complex is working in this case.Its very natural that he will not be ready to do the third one.

He blurted out that his memory is filled with anandi not to destroy shiv and anandi's marriage but it was due to anandi's constant speech that you should forget your bad past.He got offended because she stated his past as bad so unintentionally he said those words.The person who could be with him for the entire life is not with him because of his own mistake then its natural to regret.Its a human nature.When you are repenting then very small mistake gives you huge pain.Here he is regreting that he has destroyed two lives and gave so much pain to his family.The pain will be intolerable.But he is tolerating.He is admitting each and every mistake he has done.He is blaming himself that he is not a husband material.He is watching shiv and anandi happy together in front of his eyes for months.What more one should do!!!

Why was anandi crying?Because she knows if you love someone then its impossible to move on.She is a good person at heart (though I hate her long speeches) so she is thinking that she is the reason why jagya is not ready for marriage.If Jagya never gets married then she will be the only reason for that.Jagya wants to live alone and will live alone all his life because of her.If it would be some other person then he/she would've never cared.But as its anandi its natural that she was crying.But shiv came and make her understand that its good that they are getting transferred to udaipur.

The members who hate Jagya has the right to hate him but in my opinion he is facing almost the same pain that anandi has faced.The difference is she never deserved the pain and he always deserved it.Anandi had a person to blame,to get angry at but Jagya has no one to blame.He is angry with himself.The regret and repent is the most difficult punishment in my opinion.You can't spent a micro second in peace.Jagya is facing that punishment.

Originally posted by: andv

From what has been shown so far, I think J has changed for the better. He has realized his mistake and is leading a respectable life. What he told A in my opinion was only a reflex reaction to what she said since she termed the memories as bitter. So it came across to me as a impulsive reaction. I don't think he meant any harm from it. He was just not thinking. This is how it appeared to me...

Originally posted by: aparnauma

She also got married for the love of her family.She did not lose out anything by giving into her family wishes.That's what she is trying to tell him.

She also told him that elders know better and they are right.Elders proved to be right in her case too.They found a man who was so right for her. That's what she was trying to tell him.

She did not know at that time that he was not ready to move on like she was when she decided to give in to the family wishes.

Once he told her the reason she backed off did n't she?