is Shiv a perfect husband\fren? :( - Page 3

Originally posted by: monamie111

i know some people in this forum does not need much reasons to start on bashing anandi and today is their party time may be!..but i have not created this topic to bash anyone or to do any personal attack!! if anyone is offended pls feel free to click on the report button..

everyone who is saying that anandi does not know what marriage means..anandi is mean to do this with shiv..whys he married shiv..etc etc i just want to ask them is shiv a perfect husband and fren???...i don think so..why?...

1. Shiv has said that he wants to do it..but has he ever tried to ask anandi if she is ready??? if he can speak it so clearly that what is there in his mind then surely he could have asked this simple thing to anandi too..but he didn't!!! 👎🏼 i found it's very unfair and very unlike shiv, who were more sensible before AnSh marriage!!

2. Shiv who can read anandi's mind so nicely..suddenly has stopped reading her mind!! but no body find him weird here! why guys? is it bcoz he is a guy? 🤢 okay i know guys can not read gurl's mind...but our Shiv can!...do u guys "remember", who r defining anandi has forgotten everything??? then why can't now shiv read her scared eyes!!

for me, not only anandi, but Shiv too failed to be a best fren\[perfect husband!!!...may be he has lost his memory too...or may be he just pretended to understand anandi & stand by her all the time before their marriage...as in real he is not doing the same! 🥱

P.S. - this thread is not to bash shivraj sekhar, but to defend anandi & a try to show where shiv is wrong too! sry for the long post!

Originally posted by: Missesha

Shiv is a normal human being who has very carefully and gradually taken steps in his relationship. He has given Anandi support, time and space at every stage. And he has always given her options to make choices.

Anandi is confused in her expressions. Sometimes she is all happy blushing, and sharing intimate eye-locks. During her wedding she was all happy so why would Shiv think she is being forced.

As far as understanding goes, he still understands her. He is not forcing her onto bed. The guy has only expressed his feelings. Is he not even supposed to do that? In fact by sharing these feelings he gave Anandi a CHOICE to make indirectly. She got all horrified instead of opening up.

It's absolutely Anandi's fault here. Not because she fails to go close to him, but because she has not spared any single thought for her MARRIED life. She doesn't have dreams, desires or interest in this marriage. And she is taking no efforts either. When did she last spare a second thinking about her new life, new dreams before or after marriage?

If she is not interested in this marriage, beyond fulfilling her mother's last wish and being a dutiful bahu, she will never be able to move on with Shiv, even if he gives her eternity. It is Anandi's choice to remain in sorrow and self-pity. If she can't take efforts to move on, she cannot be helped.

Shiv is a perfect example of an understanding and mature guy. He cannot be any better. It is time for Anandi to value that.

Originally posted by: shumna

Its amazing that everyone seems to think shiv should ask and make queries on Anandi';s state of mind regarding getting intimate...I can't seem to comprehend this mindset...I am sure a normal man will not marry a women in anticipation that in an unknown date he would be getting intimate with his wife...its ludicrous...she is a divorcee...big deal...its a given that getting intimate with your chosen partner is a part of being married...I would have found it weird if shiv had thoughts of cajoling his reluctant wife to get intimate ... comeon! was he seeking a glorified servant to look after his family's needs of a life partner? 😕

Originally posted by: nandita.jana

Neiter shiv is wrong nor anandi is wrong...both of them are absolutely correct in their POV...i am very glad to see that in this case Bv is not following the the track of the other serials...Ansh relation is very much different from others...SHiv is very good and caring husband and friend of anandi...he exactly know that how to handle anandi to get out from her past...anandi is cold not due to jagya but due to her excessive mental pain which she have get in her unsuccessful previous marriage... so now in her new relation it is very important that someone should break her ice...someone need to learn her what is the actual meaning of the husband wife relation...neither bhairavi nor sumitra can do this ...only one person can do this and he is shiv...if shiv will become equally cold to their relation only to see the fear of anandi then who should will break the ice???????Do not forget that shiv himself is a very unconventional character.The most strong point of his character is that he is always very clear, strong and unconventional to his own point of view...his way to handle any situation is always very unique...the most important thing is that picture abhi baki hai...Bv have only show the problem of ansh relation till now they have not show the solution...so i think that it is not the right time todraw any kind of conclusion .

Originally posted by: monamie111

BUT, i find anandi normal too!

i do not agree with the part that anandi has not done any effort! for me her only fault is she faked that she is sleepy and did not tell it to shiv that she is scared! but if u have noticed when shiv pulled her near to him she did not pushed him back or insulted him in anyway, instead she tried to accept that "kiss"..and i found it is as her EFFORT!!

i don think it is so wrong in being scared for physical intimacy, in real life too people sometimes felt the same! but for this reason calling anandi a mental case is wrong and sry i couldn't accept it..so i opened this post!! 😡

even in yesterday's episode at the kitchen she was scared, yet she was ready to accept what shiv was trying to do with her...she did not stop him! and i think it is her effort!! it's not like that she is not trying..she is...but she has her fear too..then what is her fault? do we want her to jump on shiv right now? 😕

Originally posted by: monamie111

@ bold..yes of course! when u r married just don care if ur partner is scared..don bother if ur partner has gone through any abuses in his\her past life..just jump on ur partner and start!! bcoz it is ur partner's duty to fulfill all u expect..after all u r married right now..so u can do whatever u want to do with ur partner..right! and marriage means only and only physicall intimacy may be..not to understand each other, each other's pain, sorrows, fear..

I can't comprehend this mindset too and i am not at all sorry for this! 🤢

Originally posted by: monamie111

@ bold..yes of course! when u r married just don care if ur partner is scared..don bother if ur partner has gone through any abuses in his\her past life..just jump on ur partner and start!! bcoz it is ur partner's duty to fulfill all u expect..after all u r married right now..so u can do whatever u want to do with ur partner..right! and marriage means only and only physicall intimacy may be..not to understand each other, each other's pain, sorrows, fear..

I can't comprehend this mindset too and i am not at all sorry for this! 🤢

Originally posted by: shumna

Its amazing that everyone seems to think shiv should ask and make queries on Anandi';s state of mind regarding getting intimate...I can't seem to comprehend this mindset...I am sure a normal man will not marry a women in anticipation that in an unknown date he would be getting intimate with his wife...its ludicrous...she is a divorcee...big deal...its a given that getting intimate with your chosen partner is a part of being married...I would have found it weird if shiv had thoughts of cajoling his reluctant wife to get intimate ... comeon! was he seeking a glorified servant to look after his family's needs of a life partner? 😕