is Shiv a perfect husband\fren? :(

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Posted: 12 years ago
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i know some people in this forum does not need much reasons to start on bashing anandi and today is their party time may be!..but i have not created this topic to bash anyone or to do any personal attack!! if anyone is offended pls feel free to click on the report button..


everyone who is saying that anandi does not know what marriage means..anandi is mean to do this with shiv..whys he married shiv..etc etc i just want to ask them is shiv a perfect husband and fren???...i don think so..why?...

1. Shiv has said that he wants to do it..but has he ever tried to ask anandi if she is ready??? if he can speak it so clearly that what is there in his mind then surely he could have asked this simple thing to anandi too..but he didn't!!! 👎🏼 i found it's very unfair and very unlike shiv, who were more sensible before AnSh marriage!!


2. Shiv who can read anandi's mind so nicely..suddenly has stopped reading her mind!! but no body find him weird here! why guys? is it bcoz he is a guy? 🤢 okay i know guys can not read gurl's mind...but our Shiv can!...do u guys "remember", who r defining anandi has forgotten everything??? then why can't now shiv read her scared eyes!!


for me, not only anandi, but Shiv too failed to be a best fren\[perfect husband!!!...may be he has lost his memory too...or may be he just pretended to understand anandi & stand by her all the time before their marriage...as in real he is not doing the same! 🥱

P.S. - this thread is not to bash shivraj sekhar, but to defend anandi & a try to show where shiv is wrong too! sry for the long post!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Mona
First of all it's good to see you posted in this forum after a lond time 😊
Well some where you are right on some shortcoming in Shiv's character nowdays 😭
I am very much upset with CVs nowdays for this reason 😡
Actually we all anticipated that Shiv will tell Anandi for taking time by himself but in the show CVs made us totally shocked showing this track 🤢
But yeah one thing is also very true that afterall Shiv is also a normal man who somehow fails to understand a females state of mind 😭
But I am thinking in positive way and I believe our Shiv and ansh will be back sure very soon 😃
And abt Anandi basher...well ignor them 😆
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: tistaa

Mona

First of all it's good to see you posted in this forum after a lond time 😊
Well some where you are right on some shortcoming in Shiv's character nowdays 😭
I am very much upset with CVs nowdays for this reason 😡
Actually we all anticipated that Shiv will tell Anandi for taking time by himself but in the show CVs made us totally shocked showing this track 🤢
But yeah one thing is also very true that afterall Shiv is also a normal man who somehow fails to understand a females state of mind 😭
But I am thinking in positive way and I believe our Shiv and ansh will be back sure very soon 😃
And abt Anandi basher...well ignor them 😆


thank u tista for replying! 🤗

i was all fine..but after reading some post i just couldn't stop myself from posting this one!..i know CVs r ruining shiv & anandi's character 😒...i hope this problem will be solved soon..but to blame only anandi for this mess is not right!

i have a real life scenario regarding this same thing..but as it is a very personal thing😳..i decided not to share it here...all i can say that, i felt that anandi is not so lucky like me...

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Of course Mona...Shiv is not the ultimate Bechara here in fact i have no iota of sympathy for him here why? because he is straying from his own words 😳Can understand his feelings, what he wants , his love for Anandi all i can understand but why i don't feel for him here is isn't this the same man who was saying in front of his family , Singhs and Jagaya even assured Anandi that untill she don't accept his love he will proceed his relation with her in friendship .he will take the relation from friendship to love so is this sudden jump on SR his friendship ?Is he sure she loves him that he jumped to SR.? He is well aware of her mental condition I always thought nothing is needed to said to him in this case he has understood himself already even before marriage thats why he was slow and steadily proceeding He will give her time and space without her asking ,will start a good conversation with her on his own in this matter that will win over Anandi but no.Cvs are very inconsistent with Shiv .Honestly speaking from such mature , understanding and a person well aware of everything about his wife such eagerness for SR then showing disappointment is itself very disappointing
Whats Disappointment from Anandi is only this ..she has developed a lot of guts in her , has taken this step of marrying Shiv with her own free will involved because she trusted him , saw in him holding his hand i can move on in my life ...he can be my life partner thats why she married him so instead of this crying shrying ,nervousness all this ..have a conversation with him how you feel , you need some time .He will surely won't mind will give her time so far whatever Anandi said to him in whatever way he supported she knows it so this time too he will do it ...instead of playing hide and seek with him talk to him .How long she will delay this talk ?go on girl say it ..its your right ...what you are doing is hurting both of you so get your courage back and say it clear your mind and heart with him The more you will delay the more pain to both of you
Cvs have surely lost the grip on track for AnSh ..the current track is nothing but highly inconsistent of what they were showing before for AnSh ..Disappointing track nothing but only a dragfest for now .hope they get back to senses soon for AnSh .
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: monamie111


thank u tista for replying! 🤗

i was all fine..but after reading some post i just couldn't stop myself from posting this one!..i know CVs r ruining shiv & anandi's character 😒...i hope this problem will be solved soon..but to blame only anandi for this mess is not right!

i have a real life scenario regarding this same thing..but as it is a very personal thing😳..i decided not to share it here...all i can say that, i felt that anandi is not so lucky like me...

Mona
We both know that Anandi is going through a very difficult situation and many people are really fail to undrestand the depth so they bash her
It is their POV and I really dont consider those
But really I agree with you and I know Anandi is not guilty atall
Afterall she is also in deep pain
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Posted: 12 years ago
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exactly..
the guy who asked permission to touch her to find the cotton balls... is outright telling her.. I wanna do it with you.

I mean yeah he has the right yada yada.. but honestly.. why is it always about the men?

Shiv is very understanding so as much as A is at fault ... he is fault too..
They just need some time together thast all
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: mahi12

Of course Mona...Shiv is not the ulimate Bechara here in fact i have no iota of sympathy for him here why? because he is straying from his own words 😳Can understand his feelings, what he wants , his love for Anandi all i can understand but why i don't feel for him here is isn't this the same man who was saying in front of his family , Singhs and Jagaya even assured Anandi that untill she don't accept his love he will proceed his relation with her in friendship .he will take the relation from friendship to love so is this sudden jump on SR his friendship ?Is he sure she loves him that he jumped to SR.? He is well aware of her mental condition I always thought nothing is needed to said to him in this case he has understood himself already even before marriage thats why he was slow and steadily proceeding He will give her time and space without her asking ,will start a good conversation with her on his own in this matter that will win over Anandi but no.Cvs are very inconsistent with Shiv .Honestly speaking from such mature , understanding and a person well aware of everything about his wife such eagerness for SR then showing disappointment is itself very disappointing

Whats Disappointment from Anandi is only this ..she has developed a lot of guts in her , has taken this step of marrying Shiv with her own free will involved because she trusted him , saw in him holding his hand i can move on in my life ...he can be my life partner thats why she married him so instead of this crying shrying ,nervousness all this have conversation with him how you feel , you need some time .He will surely won't mind will give her time so far whatever Anandi said to him in whatever way he supported she knows it so this time too he will do it ...instead of playing hide and seek with him talk to him .How long she will delay this talk ?go on girl say it its your right ...what you are doing is hurting both of you so get courage back and say it clear you mind and heart with him The more you will delay the more pain to both of you
Cvs have surely lost the grip on track for AnSh ..the current track is nothing but highly inconsistent of what they were showing before for AnSh ..Disappointing track nothing but only a dragfest for now .hope they get back senses soon for AnSh .


i completely agree with u!!......here anandi is bechari too..
and @ bold...exactly my thought...anandi should tell him..
thank u for this wonderful analysis 😳
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Shiv told Anandi 'Our dreams'. He didn't say 'My dreams' and looked at Anandi's face and she slightly nodded her head. Isn't it? I watched their conversation couple of times. And this is what I understood. May be I'm wrong and my Hindi is not good. So the only mistake he did is not looking at her eyes when he tried to get closer. It happens. After all it is just the beginning and he didn't do anything at all. He missed to see her body language. But if he really hugs her, then he will understand her stiffness. Otherwise, I did not find any problem with Shiv. He got excited, but thats normal. He had lifted and carried Anandi before. They held hands in so many occassions. Anandi had slept on his shoulders. She sounded jovial and happy when he told about the long wait for marriage and his disappointment in not being in the same room.
Shiv failed to read A's mind on the morning after wedding night. That happened because Anandi changed her mind. She was nervous (in haveli)before marriage, but she was very happy during marriage. Shiv has not seen her nervousness. But he had seen her excitement to see KB, her happiness of their marriage, admiration for him during Rasams, enjoying his touch and willingness to get closer. If she was nervous through out the wedding, Shiv would have read her mind. But that is not the case. Untill the wedding night, Anandi was ok.
I don't think Shiv failed as best friend/perfect husband(with whatever shown till now). A best friend is not somebody who always nods his head in agreement, best friend is somebody who shows you the mirror and helps you to grow. One day or the other Anandi has to confront her fear. Shiv will fail as best friend, if he refuse to help Anandi in her battle against her complexes.
Though it is a week for us, it is only second day for Anandi and Shiv. May be it is just too early to judge them.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Not to mention that A has been brought with the mindset that the men can do what ever they want and they have the right to do so. So she is feeling guilty to even say anything.
She does not think its her right to so do. She thinks if she says then she is betraying him...but she is sooo not ready. Her body physically and mentally is just not prepared to have sex. I do not understand why people blame her!?

as a village girl... she does not know how to say no. But I think with shiv's help she will at least try to learn that , she can say .. no. She can ask him to wait.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

Not to mention that A has been brought with the mindset that the men can do what ever they want and they have the right to do so. So she is feeling guilty to even say anything.

She does not think its her right to so do. She thinks if she says then she is betraying him...but she is sooo not ready. Her body physically and mentally is just not prepared to have sex. I do not understand why people blame her!?

as a village girl... she does not know how to say no. But I think with shiv's help she will at least try to learn that , she can say .. no. She can ask him to wait.

Anandi has to learn to love herself. When she starts to love herself, she will be able to love Shiv as an equal and connects with him emotionally. Then she will be ready for sex. As long as Anandi doesn't love herself, she won't be able to share the delicate, intimate, love with Shiv. I think Shiv will guide Anandi to discover her true self which was taken away from her by the child marriage.

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