Applauding phooli - Page 6

Originally posted by: sumreen

completely agree with u . i am just fed up of this nonstop crying by anandi . i think phooli has suffered far more than anandi .she lost her husband at a very young age then betrayed by her in laws but still her positive attitude towards life never changed . i think anandi has got so many things in life compared to phooli .but then phooli never complains about what she has lost .i think phooli knows what she really wants in her life .

Originally posted by: akvats01

I am sure, If she would have just told what happened in Mumbai that night, DS would have understood more then what had happened. She shared with her teacher, she could have told it generally with Sumi, or DS, situation would have changed..

Originally posted by: katts

But I dont think she can fortell her future😉 What happens next, who knows? She didn't do anything purposefully. Its her nature. Some speak out, some keep it to themselves.

AND its not Anandi's secret keeping that impacted the rest, its Jagya's actions that impacted! It would have made no difference if Anandi was sent to stay with him then / if he was asked to come back. He would simply keep blaming her and that would have called for more verbal abuses.

Originally posted by: katts

I'm sure too that if she shared that incident, DS would have immediately called him back. Result? His dreams shattered...so the final result? Anandi suffers

Originally posted by: katts

But I dont think she can fortell her future😉 What happens next, who knows? She didn't do anything purposefully. Its her nature. Some speak out, some keep it to themselves.

AND its not Anandi's secret keeping that impacted the rest, its Jagya's actions that impacted! It would have made no difference if Anandi was sent to stay with him then / if he was asked to come back. He would simply keep blaming her and that would have called for more verbal abuses.

Originally posted by: sumreen

completely agree with u . i am just fed up of this nonstop crying by anandi . i think phooli has suffered far more than anandi .she lost her husband at a very young age then betrayed by her in laws but still her positive attitude towards life never changed . i think anandi has got so many things in life compared to phooli .but then phooli never complains about what she has lost .i think phooli knows what she really wants in her life .

Originally posted by: tinoo

katts - fair enough nobody has seen the future and it is just speculation what could have happened as an alternative course of action -- but i think that one has a responsibility to tell the truth from one's end -- particularly to people who need to know -- I am not saying that she had to broadcast it to the whole of jayetsar -- but three people needed to know that jagya had told her clearly that he did not love her, that there was someone else, that he had said "mai yeh rishta nibha nahi paaoonga"... those three people were dadisa, bapusa and sumitra. Because if he has already clearly told her ... then there are some serious implications of his words that need to be worked out jointly as a family ... it is not just an impact in her own personal interpersonal orbit.

would the scenario have been any different if she had told them jagya's decision which he had conveyed to her ? we dont know ... but atleast the family might have had some time to figure something out.

we cannot hide the truth thinking that 'whats the point?' we have to do her part.

even with jagya's actions being abominable, anandi had a responsibility from her end to do her part.

Originally posted by: akvats01

Agree with you..

But where I see a solution to such a problem is :

If Sumitra, and Aanandi would have gone to Mumbai , and stayed with Jagya, then J and G's meeting would become less during his MBBS.

Now that time it was easy for family to control him as he was completely dependent on them for money and his MBBS expenditure. Closeness between A and J would increase. A would be changing and Sumi would take live decision that A need to change. J will see A changing .

A forced togetherness, which DS tried after J brought G in haveli, For which DS made them stayed at haveli, could have worked. If you remember , this togetherness started working after J-G marriage also, when DS made them stayed at Haveli. G got horrified by seeing increasing closeness between J and A. and thats why she decided to return to mumbai immediately.

whne this can work after marriage, Why this would not work at teh start of extra marrital relation..

These examples are not new in India. We have seen, when husband and wife go through some tensions in their relation , many time parent interfere and sattle down the problem..My friend faced issues in marriage, and they started living seperate. Then his mother came, stayed with them for 6 months, When she had assurance that these two are firmed now, then she left . Still she visit them.

Such solution works

Originally posted by: tinoo

katts - fair enough nobody has seen the future and it is just speculation what could have happened as an alternative course of action -- but i think that one has a responsibility to tell the truth from one's end -- particularly to people who need to know -- I am not saying that she had to broadcast it to the whole of jayetsar -- but three people needed to know that jagya had told her clearly that he did not love her, that there was someone else, that he had said "mai yeh rishta nibha nahi paaoonga"... those three people were dadisa, bapusa and sumitra. Because if he has already clearly told her ... then there are some serious implications of his words that need to be worked out jointly as a family ... it is not just an impact in her own personal interpersonal orbit.

would the scenario have been any different if she had told them jagya's decision which he had conveyed to her ? we dont know ... but atleast the family might have had some time to figure something out.

we cannot hide the truth thinking that 'whats the point?' we have to do her part.

even with jagya's actions being abominable, anandi had a responsibility from her end to do her part.