Is Gouri rit to search job for Jogia? - Page 5

@ashbendre and payal: I liked both your response, ashbendre I feel that men like to be bread winners. I have come across many marriages and found it to be a very sensitive issue. I remember once my mother had enquired something to a working couple. The man became sensitive and asserted that he is the bread winner. My mother quickly diffused the situation by replying," Yes you earn for the family while she earns for herself". Both started laughing. So in such a situation if a man sits at home, and woman tries to find the job for him. it may hurt his ego. The other way out is good communication between husband and wife, like in your case. If a wife is like Anandi she will know how to talk and when to talk. But if like G, I am sure she will blow up the situation. Imagine telling her husband, " I am more qualified than you". 😆

ido rally agree to ur point that gauri mayaa always filled with negativity for others but the negative vibrations are falling right now to her so called sacha pyar or pati that now he has become negative jealous ,she was jealous of anandi that she had label of BV and good ghaagras ,so in vain now she got money she bought ghagra western wala for herself but her jealousy vibration struck jagga now he is jealousy of her ,she was selfish stole anandi's husband ,she gave selfish vibration to jogia and same she got ,what u sow u reap madam gawa ri ,u desrve u gave to others

A lot has been said about the help provided by Bhairon and Gauri.

well my response is based what i read in saluni s reply ,dint have the time to read other pages ,now she said that gauri thinks that she is doing ehsaan on jagya ,now i would like to say that in my opinion ,she just fell bad that she is so much worried about his job,career ,he isnt bothered about anything but shoping.

jogia u know is a snob not with male ego but gawar ego ,living in mumbai has made him just to speak english and a liar nothing else his narrow attiude and gawari's deeds are now giving back what she had sown that is jealousy and selfishness so u get it madam ,now don't cry anandi told u this is 5yr frndship not pyar not shadi ull repent and u got gawari

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

A very huge difference is there between throwing money and helping to find a job. Especially considering the circumstances. As wife Gauri is right to help Jogia as thats what husband and wife relation is all about being with each other in sukh and dukh but Bhairav brought up the girl for years on his own money after his family became the reason for the other's grief. Im not sure where you see the connection between the two😆 Both are vastly different cases. Jogia will be earning his own money through his own hard work if he does the job.

i have got out of this gaga anandi singh discussion these days but the repeated red highlightrd point irks me...what should have bhairon done???

kill his mother?
kicked young anandi out becoz gudiya was new beendini?
kept both anandi and gudiya as his bahus?
kicked gudiya out when her parents mercilessly left her in his house?
not to have funded her education and leftt her to struggle becoz he was not directly responsible for her fate?
accepted Gauri illegal marriage with his son and kick out anandi becoz his mother and gauri's parents were selfish?

i am tired hearing accusations abt bhairon the most sane character in BV.
he did the biggestcrime helping a girl who was wronged by his family...it would have been better if he had left her on her own mercy becoz legally as per panchayat he was not wrong... he was foolish to have listened to his conscience and help gauri...

bhairon is the biggest villain in BV. how dare he helps the girl his family wronged, he should have left her to her fate or killed his mother or better should have killed himself than doing this paap of correcting his family mistake and helping the girl...I think Bhairon should have been a bigger man and helped gauri's parents in finding a rich child damaad and helped them get her married soon so that the society would not have taunted them...he was stupid to have secretly funded her education and not her marriage in childhood.


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vasuja: The best part is it was afterall not that secret. Gauri's mummy and papa kept silent in consent when Bhairon declared his intentions in front of the whole village and even the Maha Panchayat praised him.

So the problem is not Bhairon gave money--everybody knew he will give money. The crux of the problem seems to be Bhairon not beating his trumpet as the financier. He just wanted it to be a low key process without much fanfare so that Gauri's family would not feel he is rubbing it on them.

But seems like G's family would have been happy if it were an open deal instead, so that they could also dictate their demands. Bhairon's only fault was that he did not discuss it with G and her parents how much is the charity worth, and the poor, tortured, wronged against, hapless, victimized, naive people had to settle with much less than they would have demanded if they were told about it.🤣

I think it's fine for spouses to help each other, even if it means that the wife (or fake wife) in the relationship is trying to find a job for her husband (or fake husband).

Originally posted by: tanvismile

well my response is based what i read in saluni s reply ,dint have the time to read other pages ,now she said that gauri thinks that she is doing ehsaan on jagya ,now i would like to say that in my opinion ,she just fell bad that she is so much worried about his job,career ,he isnt bothered about anything but shoping.

There is nothing like ehsan word coming here.As i said earlier gauri is always courteous with jagya,today also she tried to explain him how the money isnt enough for a month keeping his emotions in mind so that he doesnt get hurt ,like how parents explain children.

regarding this main title of this thread

What should i say ?before people would say gauri is working SNS cant she find a job for jagat ,all the time she is taunting him ,useless when she is finding a job ,she must be doing because she is fed up of jagat,feels that she is doing ehsaan on him,watever she does taken in negitive POV.

In my opinion,yes man like to earn money on their own ,and women never even interfere in their business.but when situation comes man dont have the capacity to find job and with time mental condition is becoming worse and also taking into consideration that women have that much power and position .Thats when you have to take that step.

Tanvi first u read and understand, Wht I mean to say and not just blame tht people always think negative abt Gouri, without understanding. Where I told tht she deed wrong. I just told tht she was not wrong but as both this love bird take everything negative, Gouri took Bhairaw help as negative and Jogia will take her help negative, although neither Bhairaw was wrong nor Gouri is wrong. It's u people trying to Bhairaw wrong and Gouri rit, not me. My issue is apply the logic same for every person and not different for different character. And yes today Goury showed tht she is doing Ahsaan, if u can't see it thn, I can't explain u. And there was no need to remind Jogia type people everyday tht u r sitting at home so u don't need any dresses. She cd just say tht rit now she hs no balance so may be he will buy next month. Her thinking was absolutely as if she is doing Ahsaan. Bhairaw never told her even after doing show much, she is such a Ahsaan faramosh. But she is thinking abt her own husband tht even after doing so much, she is not getting anything in return. This is difference between Bhairaw help and Gouri help.

Originally posted by: woman11

vasuja: The best part is it was afterall not that secret. Gauri's mummy and papa kept silent in consent when Bhairon declared his intentions in front of the whole village and even the Maha Panchayat praised him.

So the problem is not Bhairon gave money--everybody knew he will give money. The crux of the problem seems to be Bhairon not beating his trumpet as the financier. He just wanted it to be a low key process without much fanfare so that Gauri's family would not feel he is rubbing it on them.

But seems like G's family would have been happy if it were an open deal instead, so that they could also dictate their demands. Bhairon's only fault was that he did not discuss it with G and her parents how much is the charity worth, and the poor, tortured, wronged against, hapless, victimized, naive people had to settle with much less than they would have demanded if they were told about it.🤣

Antara bhairon is my favourite character in BV...not becoz he is noble, but becoz he learns from his mistakes and tries to correct them...he does not throw the blame on the society or his mother but tries to do right things as much as he can...I commend his behaviour becoz it is not easy for a son of such a traditional family to go against customs and still remain bonded to the family...