I don't see anything wrong with Bhairon helping Gauri out. He did it discreetly and in a way that would not hurt her or make her feel like she was in his debt. Had he done it in a way that showcased how mahaan he is, or asked for something from her in return, that would have been wrong. But he did it because he wanted to make amends for his familly's error, and he did as much as he needed to. Had Gauri never re-entered heir lives after leaving the haveli as a child, perhaps her Bade Papa would have contacted Bhairon once she had graduated, or got married, or was for whatever reason no longer in need of financial support, and then the money would have stopped. As it happened, she did re-enter their lives through Jagya, and therefore Bhairon knew that she was no longer in need of financial assistance without needing to be informed by Bade Papa, and so stopped it accordingly. So I really don't get the kolaveri, lol. xD
As for Gauri and Jagya... well, I think that's a move by the CVs meant to highlight Jagya's ego and chauvinism, and by extension the sort of "husband must be more successful than wife" mentality that's traditionally been the case in India. Had it been her who desperately needed a job and he who had the high-flying SNG job, he would have told her something like, "Kyun kaam karna chahti ho? Main hoon naa? Main jitna earn kar rahi hoon, woh hum dono ke liye kaafi hai". Or alternatively, if he had tried to help her find a job, a) he'd've definitely found her a job somewhere less awesome than SNG so that there would be no chance of her upstaging him in future, and b) the majority of people would applaud him for being understanding and trying to help his wife out despite earning enough to meet their needs, and relatively few people would be asking, "Is he doing the right thing in looking for a job for her? Is it not injurious to her self-respect?". Whereas in this case, because she's a woman and he's a man, it's hard for a lot of people (including me, and I consider myself to be modern and all for women's rights and equality) to shake off niggling thoughts of, "He should be the primary breadwinner" and a feeling of imbalance in being faced with a wife who's more successful than her husband. Maybe that's just me, though! Anyway, my point is, genuinely trying to help one's spouse out should be applauded regardless of whether it's the husband helping the wife or vice versa. In this case, Gauri knows that this situation is really affecting him and doesn't like seeing him slobbing around the house and getting all depressed. So she's trying to help, and, like Bhairon, she's trying to do it in a way that doesn't show herself up as mahaan or better than him. Her mother, who I normally can't stand, but agreed with on this, made a very valid point in saying to Gauri on the phone that time that men don't like accepting favours, especially financially/career-wise, from their wives. I think the CVs, in raising this issue, are trying to get us to question this very grey area and ask, "Why should it be OK for a husband to help out his wife, but not for a wife to help out her husband?". While I find Gauri to be an extremely objectionable character in a lot of ways (insecure, jealous, immature, somewhat petty, etc), she also represents a strong, modern career woman who is trying to use her education and resources to help her husband. This should not be seen as a bad thing just because she happens to be a woman, and I think that's what the CVs are trying to get us to reflect on through this track.
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