Originally posted by: avantikasharma1
akvats01: But honestly tell me is dating and marriage same. I think intimacy in todays relationships have increased. The difference in marriage and dating is that marriage is commitment, dating is a risk. You are trying to know and find out about other person. I realize that in the west and in India, intimacy before marriage is increasing. But does dating necessarily lead to marriage? What is wrong if Shiv decides to choose Anandi over Ashi. A marriage cannot be broken because its commitment but putting dating on the same footing. many people break up after 3-4 years of being together. I am not sure. I wouldn't mind if Shiv falls in love with Anandi. but I will prefer one sided crush of Ashi.
Yes I understood the point.
Now I would ask following questions, you decide what is wrong or right for you. It may differ person to person.
How an extra marrital affair is different then dating?
If dating happenes after marriage, it is extra marital affair
if in a dating after marriage , you find that you do not get along with your spouce and the new one is better ; then
1 on a mutual agreement with the first partner you perform formality of divorce, leave the first partner, marry new one, is it wrong or right?
2 You decide to leave first partner, tell the first partner without formal divorce and marry new one , Then is it right or wrong?
If dating happenes before marriage , and later the partners marry a different people, Then dating becomes a trend .. ( No matter if the seperation is on mutual agreement)
If dating happenes before marriage , and then the partners marry each other : it is true love.
Now my personnel views:
I do not see any difference when it comes to seperation between two. Pain is same , either the partners are married or not. In marriage , a partner can claim, but before marriage a partner can not claim. But for this it is essential that atleast one of the partner is seriously engaged in the relation ship. On the basis of same, I have writen , that A wil see the pain of Ashi, and probably may think that she has come in between. While your POV is also very decent, If A asks him to leave, and if he in love with A , he can wait for A to come.
When I merge yours and my POV, this is how I see it..
The same may be termed as right or wrong after seeing if Ashi is a one sided love or this guy has encouraged her in these thoughts.
If Ashi is pure one sided love and has come here just to figure out the possibilities, eventually she finds that there are no possibilities, then Shiv have no role to play in this. But if shiv has given hopes to her then it definetly makes a point of question.
My concern for the Track :
I am also unhappy because, Shiv is allowing her to touch and hug. Though hug was all of a sudden, but it need courage and confident to hug some one like this. This confidence would have been provided by Shiv only, .. But He may definetly communicate to maintain distance by his gestures, He is not doing the same. As opposite he is comfertable on all these.
In today's promo he was shown lil shocked but , not for the hug. only for she hugged him Infront of the team in village. Where he is the top most officer in the office. So his gestures are not against what she is doing, its is just that things are happening in front of his team.
That is why I am so unhappy. He could have stoped her by his gestures, if he was not involved.
D.C. The word "you" is to imply a general being, as a noun, Not as pronuon , for the person who is reading.
Edited by akvats01 - 13 years ago
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