Jagya and Gauri reminds my husband's infidelity - Page 7

Maybe I'd be called insensitive to say this--but I think its ok and natural for a lot of people to love their partner more than anyone else...anyone else!!...

I agree parents are the one who have given us life...when you marry a person that person has practically done nothing for you...but love doesn't exactly work as a business deal, I mean to some extent it does and should..but it cannot be entirely on that basis(or else why would anyone love their children who do nothing for parents)...you don't give love exactly in the proportion of what the other has done for you---you also reason out and rationalize your life's current situations...obligations...needs and priorities, and irrational feelings too !! And no matter what---nobody is there in your life in your current situation as much as your life partner is to you. When you'll be old and sick ...only your life partner will care...and be there.

No matter what people say..the hard fact is---I have seen adult, family people mourn their old parents death for some time, and move on...those same people get completely devastated, and shattered if their life partner dies. Its hard to deny the importance of your life partner in adult life.

My old grandfather died few months back...he had forgotten half of his children, but recalled some, he mentioned his parents once maybe...but the one he remembered most till his last breath was my late grandmother. All the time the one he wished he could be with most...was my late grandmother. They were no Romeo and Juliet...they were simple husband and wife who like a lot of married couples took each other for granted, were rude, and selfish to each other so many times...but at the heart of hearts they loved no one like they loved each other...which probably even they were not aware of ..when both of them were living.

I am only trying to say...its only natural for some people to love their partners more than anyone else, even while they take each other for granted...and I really don't think its unnatural or weird.

I completely agree that nobody can take your parents place, no way one should lessen this gratitude, love and blessing ...but if you have a lasting life partner...no body can take his/her place too. Ultimately you life partner is the one with whom you have shared everything for the maximum amount of time...shared joys and sorrows, and been there for each other...and its a big thing. Its a mature relation in which you have received a lot...and given a lot.

I understand rationally people can give a lot of reasons why they should love their parents more thn their prtners...but life comes in a system where a set of reasons cannot completely explain everything that happens...why do people love their lifetime-spouses so much (or why do they love their little children who don't /can't d anything for parents...) is way beyond plain reasoning.

Yes marriages fail...partners stop loving each other--and your parents never stop loving you no matter what. But that's where the beauty of life lies...people need to work hard to keep the relation and feelings in the closest relation they have. Best things are not free or easy. they require constant effort.

I, in no way...am talking about undermining the sacrifices one's parents make...I know a lady who never married because she wanted to devote her life to taking care of her parents without losing focus or priority..I respect her a lot. Parents have to be loved and respected always...all their sacrifices have to be understood and honored...but I still think loving your life partner more than anyone else is not wrong...if you marry and if your marriage lasts.

I agree...my grandmother suffered from demetia and she talked about my late grandfather many times during her episodes... but her eldest child, my uncle, even while unconscious, she would utter his name and tell him things, discuss things with him... she did not remember my brother or sister, but she remembered me, my mother (pointing to me as my mother and pointing to my niece as me)... she only could recollect that much memory... of me being 6-7 years old...

Hey seema
I will tell you the psycology behind it.
Fight is necessary in marriage. This will intense love. Every successful couple get involved in fight without any reason. Sometime they do not tolerate each other and get separated from each other for sometime but after involvement of others they get mature and back to their normal fight. Their intension are not wrong in involving fighting with their partner. They just do it to protect him/her from outside world. This is called true friendship.
Another reason of fight in true love is if man ego will hurt he would not able to forget her. This will create intensity. Another factor is ignorance. Person appear to be charming if first day he/she become ur best friend and next day completely ignore him/her. This will burn their heart.
As you said you both never involve in fight I suggest you this is not ur true love. It would be extream caring relationship, very understandable relation even both of u appreciate each other though, show gr8 respect to each other but definitely not natural affection/attraction. Ya i know attachment relationship hurts but u can't do anything besides leave him.
sorry...

dont hold ur breath people there is no part two. 😡

hi guys,

Dont worry Seema we r with u and we will pray for u.

how r u seema..keep sharing..we are with you.

Somehow I dont find you realistic...I think u have faked this story just to increase the number of posts to ur thread...(I really hope M wrong though😕)

@seema

i dont think a woman or a man should accept and forgive her/his husband/wife if they have cheated on them. they should take this as an opportunity to stand on their own feet and start a new life. but the victim should never ever blame the other woman or the other man bcoz they are not the ones who have betrayed u. they just fell in love. and love is never wrong. but thats my opinion, to each his own.