Jagya and Gauri reminds my husband's infidelity

Tani

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Posted: 13 years ago

#31

I think u shud tell ur kids and ur parents and ur in-laws abt what he did.. and I agree with Lotus

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tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

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seema,

i agree with the others that it would be helpful to have your whole story written at one stretch.

that being said, from what you have already written,

I find it very hard to conceive that your husband would fall in love with a woman within two weeks of his moving to another state, after having lived with you for twenty years.

From your husband's side -- I can understand if it happened gradually over a course of a longer duration of his being away-- and he fell in love with someone else over time. Most if not all men would really struggle with the thought of having an affair with someone, and it would take some time for them to brush aside their moral warning bells. People dont just jump into something like that.

From the other woman's side also, it seems really odd that some woman would get close to him within two weeks of his arriving in a different state. Even she would take some time to know him and understand him... and particularly for a man that age, any woman would do some background investigation. (Jagat's and gauri's is a little unique in that respect because people wouldnt necessarily conceive of someone being already married at the age of 8 when they meet him at the age of 18).

I suspect there was something else going on ... maybe rather than saying you had no idea,

perhaps you knew certain things were "off" subconsciously and you chose to ignore them?

The fact that he became distant within two weeks of his moving to North carolina cannot be attributed solely to the other woman I think ... it is more of a co-incidence ...like a bird sitting on the branch of a tree and the branch suddenly falling down... at best there is a correlation, but it highly unlikely for there to be a causal relationship I think.

Anyway, I am passing judgement on an incomplete story...so will wait for the rest. But it seems very very odd.

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seema2011

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Posted: 13 years ago

#33

Ok guys

First of all I would like to thanks to all the listeners. i understand that I should write my whole story in one strach. But problem is what that I am not that good in English to express my feelings. But i promise that i will try to write whole thing at one.

aur rahee baat fake story ki ... jab tak kisi key saath ey incidnent hota nai hai, usko ess dard ka ehassa nai ho sakta. I also used to think like that others ki " ey husband wife mey itni misunderstanding kiyu hai? essa kaise hota hai. ager mere saath essa ho to mai to esse aadmi ko ghar se baaher kar du. Per practical life me essa hota nai hai.

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Seema

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jhansijhansi

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Posted: 13 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: seema2011
Ok guys

First of all I would like to thanks to all the listeners. i understand that I should write my whole story in one strach. But problem is what that I am not that good in English to express my feelings. But i promise that i will try to write whole thing at one.

aur rahee baat fake story ki ... jab tak kisi key saath ey incidnent hota nai hai, usko ess dard ka ehassa nai ho sakta. I also used to think like that others ki " ey husband wife mey itni misunderstanding kiyu hai? essa kaise hota hai. ager mere saath essa ho to mai to esse aadmi ko ghar se baaher kar du. Per practical life me essa hota nai hai.

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Seema

i agree with you...

please write the whole story...even i am anxious to know what happened and i am scared how can your husband fell in love with other women in such a short time after spending most of his life with you happily and want to know about the other women as well who trusted your husband

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Posted: 13 years ago

#35

When seema first started to tell her story it would have been a difficult experience for her to have to go back and think. When she had enough she left. This is her story she can take as long or as quick time as she needs to express the story the way she wants too. Seema also made it clear she struggles with English.. So she takes exta care.

If you sit with a person who has experienced grief this is normal. And anyway if I had to tell anyone here the worst day of my life from start to finish.. I wouldn't be able to do it in one sitting. I would tell you little bits at a time so you can slowly digest the totality of the situation ..in a similar way to how I received it, thereby hoping you would be able to relate with me and perchance offer more revelvant advice.

It's morbid that someone can write another person off like this accusing them of lieing .. Even if they are lieing and there is a 1% chance they are telling the truth .. Is it really worth openly discrediting and hurting that person? No it's not. Somethings are worth letting slide and this one was one of them.

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ssanjana

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Posted: 13 years ago

#36

seema, i believe u as it had happened to me too and guys some women do forgive their husbands for the sake of their kids and aged parents. I did forgive my husband and touchwood after that he completely changed and loves me and kids so much. So in real life also things happen like serials.

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Pooja

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Posted: 13 years ago

#37

Ok guys

First of all I would like to thanks to all the listeners. i understand that I should write my whole story in one strach. But problem is what that I am not that good in English to express my feelings. But i promise that i will try to write whole thing at one.

aur rahee baat fake story ki ... jab tak kisi key saath ey incidnent hota nai hai, usko ess dard ka ehassa nai ho sakta. I also used to think like that others ki " ey husband wife mey itni misunderstanding kiyu hai? essa kaise hota hai. ager mere saath essa ho to mai to esse aadmi ko ghar se baaher kar du. Per practical life me essa hota nai hai.

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Seema

I will not doubt Seema story its true, it might have happen and only who go through, after reading realize yes I was in this situation, we Indian ladies no matter where we stay we forgive our husband, we always compromise either for kids or for our family. Yes I have forgiven my husband too and I stay in USA. So anything can happen you are lucky it didn't happen to you so don't judge other's they know it more then you.

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tanvismile

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Posted: 13 years ago

#38

i would like share a short story of auntys friend ,first of all let me tell aunts friend is married and also having 20 yrs old daughter and a son who got recently married.her husband got retired and got a chance to go outside india,i dont know y exactly he went there but later on he settled over there only,my aunt s friend always keep telling my aunt she is so lucky to have a husband like him,now her husband comes may be 2 or 4 months to stay with his wife (my aunt frind) and he goes back.but whenever he arrives,he does everything that one caring husband is supose to do.

one day my aunt was trying to call her friend ,she wasnt picking the call so she called on her husbands no ,a lady picked up the call ,my aunt asked may i know whose speaking ,she said she is his wife ,has 2 kids ,i dont know how my aunt also found out that lady knows about his marriege in india ,that she doesnt like his first wife ,insecure bla bla bla , my aunt friend doesnt know anything about all this ,neither my aunt want to hurt her ,but the main point over here that man got married after his retirement to another women who is half his age

so my aunt says mard ka koi bharosa nahi ,then i said all men are not like that,he did it becoz he is a cheater ,my aunt defends him by men are like that only,when they are close to you ,they love u a lot and when they go away ,they forget you .😆i said its better not to discuss with her becoz she seemed to be biased towards men ,how she defended his actions saying men are like that only and put entire blame on that young girl.

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supriya

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Posted: 13 years ago

#39

there are so many real life Jagya's and Gauri's who dont care about others life..

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tanvismile

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Posted: 13 years ago

#40

I wont compare with j g with this story becoz this man case is completely different ,he has spent entire life being loyal husband ,a gud father,married his children ,fulfilled al his responsibities n then firse naya ghar basaya ,actualy he is very foolish ,people get tired of responsibity at that age,they get relaxed when they marry thier children ,bt this man took new responsibity.

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