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@tiny15

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Posted: 13 years ago

#31

Originally posted by: ankit111
can anyone teach me technic how to pick ur matlab ka things from a long post without reading it 😉 😉 😉

ankit its also a qlty 2 pick up ur matlab ka thing from a long post widout reading it but 4 it either u've 2 do "meditation" spiritually or meditating on the ckt's thinking esply those who r clearly & visibly at fault!!😉😉 so ankit u've 2 do a lot of "mehanat"!!😆😆but still we can't teach u such technique!!😆

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

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Posted: 13 years ago

#32

Wow ! great arguement going on!

@ all -

A) First of all, when does a woman becomes mistress and when does she become wife?

A mistress is someone who is kept by a man for some "extra" fun. A man never leaves his wife or family for sake of mistress. Neither he introduces his mistress as his wife before his friends or anyone else.

Nowadays, we are often seeing that people are breaking their marriages for someone else and are getting married with the new person. Is anyone calling the second wife a mistress?

Even in this forum, almost everyone agreed that if Jagya would have been honest to A and would have separated legally and then married G - it would have been tolerated.Would anyone would have called G a mistress then?

Now, coming to JG relation. JG thought their marriage is legal because J's marriage happened in childhood. J has introduced G as his wife before everyone, even though their marriage is illegal. So, yes technically she is the mistress. But if this would have been 90's or early 2000 then their marriage indeed would have been legal. The new law came only existence in mid 2000.

So, could anyone have called G a mistress then? No.

But why not? Situation basically would have been same. So it's only a sign in paper by the man can turn a "mistress" into wife.

B) Now here comes the question of signature on paper.

When JG got married they thought that their marriage is legal because of their stupidity.

Now the jerk is not filing the case because he is not ready to go to jail. So why is G with him when technically she is the "mistress"? Suppose G left him after knowing her illegality of marriage. But then, wouldn't she have been a selfish woman who leaves J in the middle of deep trouble?

G could have left J only after knowing that J lied to her for 5 years. But at that time, she accepted him. In a way, she did good to A because A could now lead her life on her own terms. A would have been still waiting for J if she knew that J is alone.

J is the real home-breaker, not G. She was not running after him, it was J who was running after her. If G would not have married him, it would not have made much difference to JA relation. He would have been pining for G as he did not get her and may be would have fallen for another city girl.
Right now, J is showing concern because A is not with him. It is the age-old mentality of conquest. A man can leave a woman, but it hurts his ego if the woman moves on without him.

When G accepted J's 5 year lie, how can she just dump him hearing the illegality of their marriage for her own convenience? That would have been completely selfish.

J was already thrown away by his family; even when in Jetsar G emotionally took the decision of leaving J he just pleaded before her to stay with him. When you see that a person is facing the heat for your sake, is it really easy to go away as per your own convenience? I think No.

She however pleaded, fought, quarreled several times with J for this legal/illegal issue. But our Jaggu dada is too scared😉

C) But then why G is fighting with J? She should have accepted him as he is - compulsive liar, chauvinistic etc etc.

But the question is - if anyone doesn't point out the mistake then it means the person will commit more mistake.

G has not tolerated J's tantrums regarding food etc, and hence, it has helped him at least to acknowledge the responsibility of household chores and share it.

In a way, J has gradually turned a little better for those lashings of G - he has understood household responsibility instead of ordering G; he at least now understands that he can't treat his partner as a dirt like he did with A.

What G now wants that J should behave as per his own words - he himself has said no. of times that he doesn't love A and G is his world. So why can't he behave like what he promised? He has compared G with A; he has kept secrets from G; most importantly, he has made G insecure by not signing on the paper.

That is the root cause of all their troubles. So, J is again the real culprit even in this new relationship.

@ tanvi

The biggest flaw of G is that she blames A for everything. She knows J very well but still she tries to console herself by blaming A,

Instead of blaming A or saying bad things about her, G should only concentrate on J and point out his mistakes when necessary.

A has tolerated J's tantrums because that how she was conditioned to behave. Even her love for J is greatly influenced by her upbringing and social conditioning.
Has A ever thought - what kind of life partner she would like to have? NO. For her J is her hubby and she has to accept him as he is.
So when A, despite all the trouble, moved on and tried to concentrate on her career, it shows her strength.

A did not want to put J in jail because she does not want revenge. What's the point in putting J in jail? Would he start loving her again. J has initially once blamed A for taking away his parents from him. She doesn't want J to blame her again for breaking JG relation.

Even I think that putting someone in jail is not a solution if anyone walks out of the marriage. If this is the solution, then why only marriage? what about if one walks out of a 10 years affairs --- can anyone put that person in jail ?

What I really hoped that A would file a divorce case - if she doesn't want to put J in jail, there are other loopholes to get a divorce case. At least, she would have been relieved of the Jagdish Singh tag. But then again, she was given the impression that J will land in jail if she files any case.

P.S - this post is really long! 😆😆 Please read it before answering me back. 😃

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tanvismile

@tanvismile

Sparkler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#33

Hi doyelpakki .u have written everything so perfectly,i totaly agree with u,u have explained very nicely mistres n wife concept ,n man never leaves his family,wife for the mistress.i dnt have hatred for anandi bt when people go blind towards certain characters n then i do the same towards A.so its only a paper a man can turn a mistres into wife?wow i gues this is understanding of relationship of husband n wife,actualy u have said dat i dnt have anything to add to it.Actualy what u have explained everyone can understand but no one wants to accept it.

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Niha_Baishya

@Niha_Baishya

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Posted: 13 years ago

#34

Lets leave regarding the meaning of Mistress and wife. According to me why people hate Gauri's character is just because she tried to do things according to her convinient. Being an educted girl she could have made jagya realised the importance of getting family consent in a marriage, she should asked him not to break his ties with the family and get anandi divorced legally. After that only she should have married him . If she had done all this everyone would have appreciated her character. What is a wife's role---- just to make your husband happy, make him do the household work , make him aware of his relation with her , sirf itna.

Kehte hai na ek galat fasla sari zindagi bhar pastana parta hai. There is nothing wrong in G, the only thing is she never tries to thing from other's point of view. Moreover there is no comparison between both the girl's. They were brought up in different environment but one have to adjust according to the situation. Being the second wife and that too against Jagya family's consent even if she is insulted which i find normal she should have kept quite. She should have reacted infront of J only and when J was insulting his own parents she should have stopped him and asked for forgiveness. thats call maturity . But she didnot do any of those things . This is also one of the quality of a wife to prevent your husband and yoursefl from doing wrong.

Just to be educated and staying in city facing city life problems dont make anyone strong or cultured or matured. Because woman staying in joint family , looking after the family members , at the same time fulfulling ones own desire is much more stronger mentally and physically also.

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whatthelife

@whatthelife

Navigator

+ 3

Posted: 13 years ago

#35

May be it's easy to say that THAT piece of paper that makes a mistress a wife does not matter. then Marriage has no meaning in ones life ... It's easy to say that it does not matter ... If it didn't matter why does anyone have to marry at all at the first place ? but doesn't your heart say you are wrong when you call yourself his wife in front of others ? If she were bound to her values her heart would prick and bleed every time she calls herself his wife.

why did she want to prove A characterless and get J to divorce her. isn't it to call herself a legal wife? if she knew that she was illegal then, she is still illegal but has chosen a convenient way to settle down her life be it in legal or illegal form. She knows she is a mistress to him irrespective of whatever names she wants to call herself with!!!

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tanvismile

@tanvismile

Sparkler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#36

She is nt a mistres n she knows it ,jagat is scared becoz he might to jail ,which is y he doesnt fal in these matters,it very easy to say she cud have done this ,stoped jagya,this that,she herself always suported n always wanted his family to love him,the way they behaved with j n her ,in first place it was wrong,whom wil she stop?frm her pov j n a both r victims of child marriage ,y entire house bashing J ,see it was situation i m nt blaming singh parivar bt we have to see frm al sides bt i know people wil keep arguing try to find lopehooles in her .

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vasuja

@vasuja

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Posted: 13 years ago

#37

anandi and gauri both r fools...jagya is the smart one.

Anandi: i wanted her to file divorce not just to tke revenge but to free herself. what is the point of being attached to wife tag when it has no meaning... the longer the relatioship is the tougher it is to forgive cheating...yes she will think abt jaggu, cry and mourn the breaking of it but she will never be able to forgive that person and help him...if she has not divorced jaggu with the intention of torturing him life long then i would appreciate her stand...but A has no such plans...her future is as bleak as Gauri right now...never know how people change after a child.

Gauri; she had no idea abt the legality during her marriage accepted but she was fully aware of her legal status when she took the relationship forward. i don't agree with "love does not need legality, only heart" is important statements...illegal relationships can screw ur chances for peaceful life in future...her baby will have legal claims but he will always be the illegal wife. instead of wasting time doubting and arguing all she has to do is tell jaggu to beg anandi and get the divorce. she may become a famous doc, be financially secure but will always live in the fear that in future her marital status will be exposed. she does care a lot of what others think and is not all open and bindaas abt her relationship.

only time will tell who is the bigger fool. as of now both r more or less working hard screwing their own life.

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woman11

@woman11

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

#38

Absolutely agree with you vasu. Both Anandi and Gauri are complete fools and it's because of such foolish girls that men like Jagya enjoy all the glories of life, without paying for anything he did🤢

Anandi is a very bad example of abandoned women. When cheated and abused by a husband, it's wise to just move on instead of constantly looking back. Instead, what does Anandi do? She keeps lingering around in the haveli, sends money to her nalayak husband, refuses to fight for her legal rights and pines for Jagya all the time! I can understand her actions as social conditioning--and I have myself witnessed our maid behave in the same way with her abusive husband-----but the point is a stronger, more confident Anandi would have been so much better a character.😕It's Anandi's weakness that gives Jagya a chance to dilly dally and do whatever he feels like. If Jagya is acting like an a**h***, then Anandi is to be blamed equally.

And Gauri is a horrible stereotype of a modern,city woman. I agree with vasu that the logic "a piece of paper does not matter" is a completely baseless argument. Going by that logic, even a property ownership paper is a piece of paper and yet it decides land ownership, a job contract is a piece of paper and yet it decides employee rights, all our academic certificates are nothing but pieces of papers and yet they determine our qualifications, any corporate deal is a piece of paper and yet businesses run on that agreement, international treaties between nations are also pieces of paper and yet international relations depend on that. My US visa is a piece of paper too and yet it defines my status in this country ( Can't imagine arguing with a homeland security guy with the "piece of paper means nothing" logic🤣) !! Similarly, calling legal marriage a piece of paper is preposterous😆😆. Gauri herself knows that she is and can never be the legal wife and her marriage cannot be justified. Whether we call her a mistress or a keep or a live in partner, that's up to us, but the truth is, she is NOT the wife. Now the point is, is Gauri is a social rebel who doesn't care about societal norms and is okay to stay without the wifely status? Interestingly enough, the answer is NO. Gauri is just living in her delusional bubble that she is Jagya's rightful wife and accordingly flaunts her fake wifely status in front of everyone. She has rare moments of realizations of her own status and gets mortified at the thought of her truth being exposed in Mumbai. However, she quickly forgets about them and goes back to her delusional world again. Is that advisable for any woman? NO. Men like Jagya always use the same logic of love and trust to manipulate foolish women like Gauri. What can Gauri do if Jagya decides to leave her? Legally, nothing. She has no legal recourse, no security, and no guarantee for her life. Only the dumbest of women would fall into such a trap!!

The point is if Jagya has behaved like a jerk, Gauri has not only played to his tunes but has also been equal partners in his crime. Agreed she did not seduce Jagya from Anandi, but she has happily played a role in breaking a marriage. She has not only actively participated in Jagya's crime but what is more, she has actually flaunted it most cruelly---rejoicing her win in front of Anandi and the family as if to avenge her rejection as a child bride. What is more, she never confronts her own husband for his jerky actions and screams her lungs out only at Anandi. What has Gauri done after finding out Jagya's multiple lies? Nothing. Has she done anything to stop Jagya from taking money to Anandi? Nothing. Has she done anything to really stop Jagya's phone calls to Jetsar and Anandi? Nothing. Has she been serious in her demands and put her foot down regarding anything? NO. All she does is shout and cry for a few moments and then get back to romance with Jagya. As long as Jagya has a back up option in Jetsar---serving his family and waiting for him eternally with teary eyes-----and has a so called modern woman in Mumbai who is willing to stay with him even without legal marriage and will never take any serious actions no matter how much an a**ho** he decides to be, it is a complete win-win situation for Jagya and Jagya only🤢.

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dolly

@tiny15

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: doyelpakhi
Wow ! great arguement going on!

@ all -

A) First of all, when does a woman becomes mistress and when does she become wife?

A mistress is someone who is kept by a man for some "extra" fun. A man never leaves his wife or family for sake of mistress. Neither he introduces his mistress as his wife before his friends or anyone else.

this meaning was applied 4 the times wen men don't wnat 2 bring keeps as wife under societal pressure but wanted 2've fun & even don't want 2 malign their own honour(though ppl knew abt their affairs) but society how much was averse 2 woman's rt but 4 rightous wife(acc. 2 them) they never accepted oder women widout marriage!!

and marrying naoder woman widout divorcing 1st one makes 2nd wife as illeagl acc. 2 law & a Keep in the eyes of society. they can't force society 2 accept them as wife until divorce has happened!!

Nowadays, we are often seeing that people are breaking their marriages for someone else and are getting married with the new person. Is anyone calling the second wife a mistress?

no1 is calling 2nd wives as keep who gets married 2 a divorcee or a widower. an dif G'dn't accepted this marriage widout J divorcing A then shes not just illigal wife but also a keep!!u r mixing the two condns just on the basis of 2nd marriage/2nd wife status!!

Even in this forum, almost everyone agreed that if Jagya would have been honest to A and would have separated legally and then married G - it would have been tolerated.Would anyone would have called G a mistress then?

i'd already replied this!! and no1 wud'd called G as mistress or keep if she'd married J after asking him 2 divorce A & got the divorce also which is not the case. then she might'dn't called as keep but still called a home breaker!! e.g sridevi!!
Now, coming to JG relation. JG thought their marriage is legal because J's marriage happened in childhood. J has introduced G as his wife before everyone, even though their marriage is illegal. So, yes technically she is the mistress. But if this would have been 90's or early 2000 then their marriage indeed would have been legal. The new law came only existence in mid 2000.

So, could anyone have called G a mistress then? No.
yes!! bcoz her marriage wud'd been legal in the eyes of law but in the eyes of society she wud'd been a home-breaker & a keep!!

and law came in2 force bcoz of the plight of A kind of childbrides & not 4 the protection of G kind of "oder woman"!!

But why not? Situation basically would have been same. So it's only a sign in paper by the man can turn a "mistress" into wife.

no need 2 say it as its well said by antara. just a piece of paper then if 2marrow J leaves G then its also a piece of paper!!and theres no need of G's certificates of MBBS. they r also just a piece of paper!!
B) Now here comes the question of signature on paper.

When JG got married they thought that their marriage is legal because of their stupidity.

yes they did it in stupidity & may b ignoranceof law. but as sum1'd said that law doesn't let a prsn go scot free 4 his crimes just bcoz they r ignorant of the law!! if 2day their case cums in a court of law judge won't let them go free & says oh! i m not giving u any punishment bcoz u didn't know that J's marriage'd bcum legal & married widout knowing abt it. go & enjoy ur married life!!😆😆
Now the jerk is not filing the case because he is not ready to go to jail. So why is G with him when technically she is the "mistress"? Suppose G left him after knowing her illegality of marriage. But then, wouldn't she have been a selfish woman who leaves J in the middle of deep trouble?

if G'd left him after knowing the illegality of her marriage then no1 wud'd called her selfish but rather an empowered & humane woman!!!
G could have left J only after knowing that J lied to her for 5 years. But at that time, she accepted him. In a way, she did good to A because A could now lead her life on her own terms. A would have been still waiting for J if she knew that J is alone.

yeah i agree that she did gud 2 A but in actual her intention wasn't of doing gud 4 A. her intention was 4 her selfishness & 2 degrade A as its clear from her past actions after getting married 2 J after she came 2 know abt J being married!!

J is the real home-breaker, not G. She was not running after him, it was J who was running after her. If G would not have married him, it would not have made much difference to JA relation. He would have been pining for G as he did not get her and may be would have fallen for another city girl.
Right now, J is showing concern because A is not with him. It is the age-old mentality of conquest. A man can leave a woman, but it hurts his ego if the woman moves on without him.

yes J is also a hom e-breaker but u can't say G is not a home breaker> its true J was running after G but i think 4 clapping u need 2 hands & only slapping needs one hand. if she'd rejected him rt oder there 4 cheating not just her but even 4 A & showed sum humanity she wudn't'd called a home-breaker!! if she'd refused 2get married wud J'd forced her 2 marry him. if J'd married her forcefully using physical force or intoxicating her then she wudn't''d called a home -breaker & forced 2 live wid J by pressuring her 4 sum"majboori"(like harmng her family ordisgracing her etc)

When G accepted J's 5 year lie, how can she just dump him hearing the illegality of their marriage for her own convenience? That would have been completely selfish.
replied already!!

J was already thrown away by his family; even when in Jetsar G emotionally took the decision of leaving J he just pleaded before her to stay with him. When you see that a person is facing the heat for your sake, is it really easy to go away as per your own convenience? I think No.

she didn't leave her under emotional feelings but she'd done wid us eof her brain cells but wen she "pighalofying" by one nigt rain-bath of J thats called getting emotional!!
She however pleaded, fought, quarreled several times with J for this legal/illegal issue. But our Jaggu dada is too scared😉

if J is scared then does it mean she shudn't'd asked him or pressurised him 4 divorce?? Not just J but shes also scared that if she force him 4 divorce then her getting married 2 J who was already married will cum out in front of her frnds, college & even kunda tai!! an dshe doesn't want 2 loose her goody-2 image!!
C) But then why G is fighting with J? She should have accepted him as he is - compulsive liar, chauvinistic etc etc.

But the question is - if anyone doesn't point out the mistake then it means the person will commit more mistake.

G has not tolerated J's tantrums regarding food etc, and hence, it has helped him at least to acknowledge the responsibility of household chores and share it.

In a way, J has gradually turned a little better for those lashings of G - he has understood household responsibility instead of ordering G; he at least now understands that he can't treat his partner as a dirt like he did with A.
not tolerating J's tantarums & J turning a bit better doesn't absolve her of misdeeds . he hasn't understood household responsibility & i wonder if it"ll b permanent. hes putting up wid g bcoz in his subconscious mind he also wants 2 prove 2 his family that his decision of getting married 2 G wasn't wrong!! and the change wen cums from ur inner self widout any obligations then only its permanent!!

What G now wants that J should behave as per his own words - he himself has said no. of times that he doesn't love A and G is his world. So why can't he behave like what he promised? He has compared G with A; he has kept secrets from G; most importantly, he has made G insecure by not signing on the paper.

That is the root cause of all their troubles. So, J is again the real culprit even in this new relationship.

then why she wants this. why doesn't she understand him wen he openly praises A but also confesses his luv 4 G. it means their relationship doesn't've trust. if shes insecure then why shes blaming A always & abusing her & always consider her gud deeds a sbeing "mahan" delberately!!
@ tanvi

The biggest flaw of G is that she blames A for everything. She knows J very well but still she tries to console herself by blaming A,

Instead of blaming A or saying bad things about her, G should only concentrate on J and point out his mistakes when necessary.

A has tolerated J's tantrums because that how she was conditioned to behave. Even her love for J is greatly influenced by her upbringing and social conditioning.
Has A ever thought - what kind of life partner she would like to have? NO. For her J is her hubby and she has to accept him as he is.
So when A, despite all the trouble, moved on and tried to concentrate on her career, it shows her strength.

A did not want to put J in jail because she does not want revenge. What's the point in putting J in jail? Would he start loving her again. J has initially once blamed A for taking away his parents from him. She doesn't want J to blame her again for breaking JG relation.

till this pt. reagarding A i agree!!! an ddon't wnat 2 repeat it!!
Even I think that putting someone in jail is not a solution if anyone walks out of the marriage. If this is the solution, then why only marriage? what about if one walks out of a 10 years affairs --- can anyone put that person in jail ?
if sum1 walks out of marriage widout divorcing then he/she shud b put in the jail.we can't justify not sending him 2 jail on the basis of it & saying its not solun. an dmariage & affairs r difft not just in the eyes of society or religion but also in the eyes of law!!thatswhy theres no law 4 it though theres law regarding live-inrelationship where most of the time women bcum a victim after child birth etc.!!

What I really hoped that A would file a divorce case - if she doesn't want to put J in jail, there are other loopholes to get a divorce case. At least, she would have been relieved of the Jagdish Singh tag. But then again, she was given the impression that J will land in jail if she files any case.

i really want this & com-pletely agreed on this!!
P.S - this post is really long! 😆😆 Please read it before answering me back. 😃

hope u won't mind it as i really read it b4 answering!!😃

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: tiny15

As for the tag of "home-breaker" Sridevi is definitely called a home-breaker and this tag is applied to women only. It's sad to see that men often are not at all brought in this scenario and we talk about a woman breaking woman's home. While in reality, it's the man who breaks his own home for a third person.

Surprisingly, if a woman leaves her home for another man, then no one calls the other man "keep" or "home breaker" - the blame is only on the woman. Either way, women are always blamed.

First of all how can a third person break someone's home? If someone is committed to his/her relationship and makes a perfect home, how can a third person breaks it? It's a duty of the members of the home to keep it safe and secure. If the member himself/herself goes to the other person, why the home-breaker tag goes to the third person?

As you said that ek haat se taali nehi bajti, so G is also responsible for breaking J's home. Well - if she would not have married to J and "break" his home, what kind of home would A got? J would continue his negligence and his hatred towards A would have grown more if he had not got G.

We all know in what kind of "home" A would have to spend her life. G's decision not to marry J would have saved herself and would have made her a righteous woman in our eyes, but it would not have helped JA relationship to be better. In fact it would have turned worse.

G has basically helped A to get rid of the selfish Jughead and the "home" where A would have been mentally tortured for more years.

IMO, it's better to stay alone rather than in an unhappy marriage with a selfish partner who doesn't care a damn about spouse,

I have talked about the "piece of paper" because that's what we are talking about. Why are we putting so much emphasis on the fact that G is not legally married to J and is staying with him in spite of knowing her status.

Piece of paper does make things legal and illegal. I am going to be illegal immigrant in US if I don't have proper visa or green card, but everything will be fine once I got the papers right.

Similarly, if tomorrow J gets the courage and seeks for divorce and finally marries G, everything will be legally alright. Also if in future, J divorces G and marries another woman, it would be legally alright and can the society raise any question about the new woman?

As for misdeeds of G - her main misdeed is that she can't tolerate A and is jealous of A. Even I have pointed it out in my earlier post. Had she been openly praising A and not jealous of A, i think there won't be so much of hate towards her.

This is one problem of BV - whoever has loved A or is fond of her, his/her misdeeds are easily forgotten and they are glorified like anything in the serial.
Bhairon, Sumitra, DS, Phooli's parents- everyone has committed serious mistakes and has broken laws. But they are portrayed in such a manner that they have easily earned viewer's sympathy. Anyways, that's another topic of discussion.

As far her decision to be with J - I know it's her weakness - but I don't think she should not have married J just for A. It would not have been any solution for A. For her own sake, G should not have agreed to be with J.

If G would have left J only after knowing her illegal wife status, she would have been called selfish. May be you would not have called her selfish and would have praised her, but there are many people who would have called her G a selfish woman because she left J only for her own sake/convenience and did not think about A in the first place. J would have been showered with all the sympathy for doing so much for G and yet receiving such treatment from her.

Majority of the people would have said how mahaan is A who continues to love her husband despite everything and how bad is G who only thinks about herself and not about J. Don't you know our patriarchal society? 🥱

Personally, I would never like to see J getting any kind of sympathy at the cost of G.

For Gauri, J's concern and care is of utmost importance to her as we have seen in Friday's episode. She just forgets that J lies to her, J has not given their relationship a legal status, J talks to the family in the middle of the night. secretly.

But at least G has tried to point out J's mistakes to him no. of times - we have seen no. of times G shouting at J for his mistakes.

But J's fitrat has not changed. G's shouting matches has only made J aware that he can't do anything just like that and cant' treat G like a dirt as he did with A. So he is doing things secretly.

What more G can do to stop J? The only option left is that G leaves J. I would like to see J's reaction if G seriously leaves him if he does not rectify his behavior.
But as I said, G's departure would be applauded by us but not majority of our society. Majority won't understand G's problem and would only call her selfish who did not even support the man who left everything for her.

Everything needs to be done in the right time and G, for her dumbness, has lost that right time.

Btw, J has understood the responsibility of household chores and is sharing them with G. Even if we say that he is doing it under compulsion but thanks to G's lashings,😉 he has at least realized that he can't do/get anything per his wish all the time

I am waiting for the coming track of the new patient. I would love to see J getting jealous because only then he would have a taste of his own medicine. He will know how one feels if the partner does not listen to him and is showing too much affection towards another person. He will then know how he has hurt A and now how he is hurting G by his lies and new-found concern for A.

"f sum1 walks out of marriage widout divorcing then he/she shud b put in the jail.we can't justify not sending him 2 jail on the basis of it & saying its not solun. an dmariage & affairs r difft not just in the eyes of society or religion but also in the eyes of law!!thatswhy theres no law 4 it though theres law regarding live-inrelationship where most of the time women bcum a victim after child birth etc.!!"

Well personally I will never consider my husband as my property and he would have the right to spend life with anyone he wants - of course I would expect him to be honest with me and do the separation in a legal, amicable manner.

But suppose, if he comes to me saying that he has an affair or has got married to any other woman , I will not put him to jail. What's the point in putting him to jail? Our relationship has soured- putting him to jail will be like saying "dude, if you are not with me, I won't let you to be with others". I don't want to say that.

I will just file a divorce case to get rid of the man from my life ASAP.

Of course if he tortures me physically or even mentally, then I would go to the police. He might have the right to spend his life with whoever he wants, but he has no right to beat me or give me pain.

Edited by doyelpakhi - 13 years ago

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