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when I talked about controling what we say and about dressing our words, doesn't in anyway mean that we should not be ourselves or for that matter be dishonest in our opinion. I have commented on the forum at large. When I said that I tried to imply on derogatory terms or foul language being used which may be found offensive by some. Anyway what one person finds offensive may not be true for another so its better to use your own discretion. I have not found any of your posts that I have read offensive or using foul language and hence I was no pointing to your posts. I have in the past and also till today been very honest in my opinions

Dear we can only do the best from our side in what and how we write but if the opposite person wants to take offense we cannot stop them. Ultimately it is upon us weather we want their comments to adversely affect us or not right?

@Annika: I am all for freedom of speech. Feel free to write your thoughts. Regarding hurting people it is very hard to gauge who gets hurt for what reason and why. Each person's tolerance level is different. That doesn't mean we should keep silent. Put across your points. Members who get affected should post their views.
The main reason I don't post much these days is I hardly watch this serial. I cannot stand a woman portrayed this way that too an educated woman. What are they trying to show, that educated woman are cruel and don't care about people. Being educated means you don't have any morals in your life. You will still sleep with the man who is married to another woman. What nonsense is that? I was so happy to see Anandi moving forward in her life and was hoping for her to take the next big step. The story is going nowhere. It is a noble cause to teach the elders, but it won't hurt to show her pursuing studies as well. I am not a feminist, but I want the serial to portray some strong woman. Gauri's character is another let down. If the storyline is affecting me then what is the point in continuing to watch it? No matter what Jagya does he is not punished in any way or form. I was hoping he has to struggle with finance, but conveniently Anandi is giving charity. I thought Gowri will teach him a lesson; she conveniently forgives all his mistakes. So basically this guy is having a ball. When I read the world statistics and how the disparity male to female ratio is in India, I feel the serial at least should show girls strong and alert the mass. There is no need for a useless male in a girl's life. She is better off to be single. If she is working she can adopt an orphan and raise him/her. I was hoping to see some kind of social message. But all in all it is about Jagya, a jealous individual his needs and his choices. Where is the choice or needs of female leads? Now he is coming home drunk wow. Why not drive under influence and hit someone and show him in the jail for drunk driving. No it is Gowri who has to put up with him.

@Antara

@Anita

Vasuja

More to Antara:

Originally posted by: vasuja

It was more of self realisation for me.

I understood that the problem I had was that I was carrying the disagreement I had in one post in the other one too...which made me very rebellious and unnecessarily sarcastic.I have curtailed myself from doing it. I don't actively participate, becoz as of now the serial has lost its direction. If the serial improves may be I will be more active. For me it was no signals that made me quiet. i made some stupid comments, people got hurt, and expressed it. I realised it and decided to be quiet. thats all

Originally posted by: annika20

@parri

I have more problems about talking behind someone's back and not confronting them. Why talk in other threads? And sometimes, without even reading someone's post, why mock them and declare I did not bother to read your post?

And more so why make assumptions about a person's thinking or attitude?

HEHEHE.. So this whole thread is about the frustrations against me!
wow I feel soo special.

Anika yaar I told you. I love Anandi. You say something against her, criticize her etc. etc. etc. My BP will rise. So I stopped reading : ) many of those posts that criticize her. [yours and others]

for my own betterment.

But honestly, chill its not that serious. Ofcourse I get upset when someone writes against Anandi, but thats the point of a forum right. We have our clashes. We scream we yell and then we all have our coffee and get back to work : )


Ithna serious nahi liya karo.

ofcourse if you write something against Gauri , I come right away and LIKE your post cause I agree with that. but once you or anyone else talk about Anandi, about how she didn't do this, she didn't do that, yada yada yada I don't read or I don't click the LIKE button or I just move on and if its too much

I start a thread saying,


'is it just me...or the entire forum is turning negative ' lol


So ithna math socho. This is normal in a forum.

When you talk goody goody things about Anandi , honestly believe me I will be the FIRST person to like your post.

except that, what can I say. Thats how I am about Anandi. I cannot change that sorry : )

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@ Suchi, you have every right to feel how you do and express it how you want.

Annika, you are a smart girl, please do not misconstrue what I have just stated to Suchi as a snide or indirect remark to yourself. Just as you stated to Tiny 15 the following on page 4 of this thread.

"It makes me feel relieved. At least it is better than others laughing it off as an attempt to crib about not getting attention or having people agree with me all the time.

Thanks a lot for being so open, direct, forthright and understanding."

How does it make you different regarding an indirect stab at some. Be direct and state to tiny who is "laughing it off".

We all may not have the gift of the gab like you do but when you ask for our thoughts we do try to respond as best we can. From the vein of your responses, it seems like you are not satisfied with some of our responses if they are not in keeping with your line of thinking. And it also SEEMS like you already have an idea of what the solution should be. Please don't get into Psycho babble about how we cannot analyze you personally and all that but the TONE of your posts here sound frustrated, admonishing and attacking. That's my perception anyway.

I am so sorry I even attempted to respond my take on things and give my two cents because no matter what I say you have already decided to be upset (I see this from the tone of your posts) and perhaps my telling you that I look forward to and 'like' your posts provoked you further since you were already upset by Antaras post.
In fact, let me confirm directly to you. It absolutely never occurred to me to tell you I like your posts because I thought that's what you wanted to hear. I stated it because it was true and I wanted you to know. Perhaps my timing sucked.

Again, let me clarify, I am not taking a point or term out of context and responding. ONE of your issues was, why are some members opening alternate threads wherein they make snide/mocking remarks to others.? Why don't they state things directly in the same thread? Again I say to to you that you were the one who verily gave this idea to everyone when you said, don't create a fight with anyone in their thread just open up your own thread with your opposing view. If I am wrong, can you explain to me what I misinterpreted? Also let me hasten to add that I picked the salient points from your post that I felt I could adequately respond to. Woe is me , that unlike Tiny15, I did not have the time nor the fortitude to go through every point you raised and respond point by point.

Anyway, you ask for our opinion and take great umbrage when it's not what you want to hear. As this is a virtual world, my POV is not everyone has loads of time to write lengthy, clear responses and some if not all are multitasking, so a little leniency goes a long way.

@Suchi