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ankit111

@ankit111

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Posted: 14 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: annika20
Is it? I don't think he even wanted to do maska. He was only feeling awkward and didn't know how to end the convo! Rather I feel she made things easier for him by ending the convo. Still her pause and expressions on her face upon hearing his voice...didn't give the impression that she'd moved on!

BTW, Ankit if you have noticed, yesterday there was big time public demand (in 2-3 different threads) for you to write a De Danadhan series on J's thrashing by lawyer as well his college principal. When are you going to address the public demand?

OK will try 😊

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 14 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: ankit111
OK will try 😊

No trying. You MUST write. 👏👏

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vasuja

@vasuja

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Posted: 14 years ago

#13

i agree with tinoo and annika...but that is anandi right...she has not yet moved on...she is just trying to...that is the reason i feel that Jagya will get the divorce too easily without any punishment...Anandi will just shake her head for mutual consent and every thing will be over...I hope Bhairon or basanth just go and present the case of bigamy and do something...there is no hope from Anandi to punish Jagya...

I wish during her samaj seva, when she urges people to fight for their rights, i hope someone in the crowd point out how she left her husband scott free and she cannot preach other...Anandi gets on my nerves when she does this...Her logic is 😡

That is why I was not excited when Bapusa said that I will give money to Anandi, she can give anyone...because anandi is not gonna wait till jagya asks...she proactively deposits and then inform...a thick skinned person like Jagya cannot get ashamed becoz of that...I wish Bhairon has totally refused giving money...Jaggu dada ki saccha pyaar do din mein pata chal jaata...I was not even happy with loss of stipend becoz I knew Anandi will send money.

I magine the situation of Jagya with no money, bade paapa funding both of them...even the smallest thing gauri says he would have taken it other way and shown his sacha pyaar😡

Edited by vasuja - 14 years ago

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vivacious_priya

@vivacious_priya

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Posted: 14 years ago

#14

anandi looked damn cute when she called Jagya her expressions were 2 gud...😃

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642126

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Posted: 14 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: tinoo
Agree with pjyo and annika 100%.

First, the whole sequence was shot in a way that totally nullified their parting conversation in the cowshed. Here again, it seemed like she was falling in love with him. To me it seemed like an excuse to again talk to him and to hear his voice.

Second, there was no need to call him to indirectly or directly slap him if she has truly moved on.

Just put the money in his account and ask the bank to send him an sms/email notification that his account has a new deposit in it.

Third and finally, anandi really needs to make up her mind as to whether what Jagya did was wrong or not.

Supposedly this entire girls education mission and social work mission is to ensure that what happened to her does not happen to other girls/women. Which means that she has identified what happened to her as "wrong". On top of that, she has told Jagya "mein tumhe kabhi maaf nahin karoongi"... in such a case, then, there is no need to be nice to him and extend him courtesies.

When a man whom you loved has not even answered your emails and phone calls at one point in time, why call him to tell him you deposited money for his haath kharcha?

Just be clinical about the whole thing and dont emotionally attach yourself.

One word for your post - BINGO!! 👏

You're so right! She still seemed to be in love with him or attached to him. It seemed as if she had called him to listen to his voice or to someway keep him connected to the family by informing him about their condition and getting info about how he was doing.🤢

Her pause upon hearing his voice was the biggest let down!!!😡

Is this what you call moving on? This negated her cowshed convo with him! What's the point of saying main kabhi maaf nahin karungi? Phir uss waqt bhi keh deti ki jao maaf kar diya!😲

I don't understand Anandi!

I also wonder, is her social work her way of trying to correct a wrong in the society or is it her way of taking off her mind from the rejection she's faced from J and failure of her marriage??!! Is it her mission or calling in life or is it actually a way of busying herself and trying to forget an ugly part of her life??!!

Her emotional attachment is very much visible in this scene!

Earlier she was telling DS that there was no use sending emails to J (when DS had asked her to). Now she goes ahead and even calls him! Indirectly keeping him connected to family by exchanging info on each party's well-being!

So all her firmness with J when he came to house with G and all her repartees or her piercing questions to him - was it all sham?

There's no hope for women like Anandi. And sorry to say, men like Jagya exist only because there are women like Anandi - happily serving them and their interests even after being exploited.

If she just deposits money and lets him see it for himself or sends an SMS or email or lets the bank do the job of informing him, it won't make her heartless or ruin her character!

Go and drink Jagya's charnamrit Anandi!🤢

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charminggenie

@charminggenie

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Posted: 14 years ago

#16

Well for Anandi , Jagat will alayz be part of her life, no a bad trauma , hs family is her biggest supporters, so it shouldn't matter if shecalls or not , what was significant was how she alled, it was cold, two the point and a polite conversation with no venom from her side , it was like hshe is mmune to him. Am glad she was neither two pissed coz that wold have been a sure shot of having resentment feelings nor was she docile , filled with hope.

CV's just wanted to show , the contrast how Jagat after getting that scoldin was pondering about divorce whereas Anandi on the other hand carried her life n a normal way.

Its both Jagat and Gauri whose lyf will awayz have an Anandi in it with divorce or wthout whereas A will be free from their circle of misery.

The call was necessary for me atleast it shows how dependent and fragile J , it made him qs his divorce again, what it holds for gauri is goin to be interesting to see.

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Suchi-

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Posted: 14 years ago

#17

I think , she is being judged too harshly. We all have to understand here that Anandi has NOT MOVED ON. she has always maintained that she loves Jagya. When ever the topic of ignoring GAGA came or fighting for herself she always said, If I do this will I get my old jagya back?
She always told Jagat even directly that she loves him and will keep loving him.

Now its a different story that she has accepted the fact that GaGa are together and they have their own life. And Anandi is out of the picture from Jagya's life.

I do not think , I have ever understood that she has moved on from Jagya's memories, love etc. but yes she has moved on by accepting the fact taht she is no longer in the picture. And she is the ONLY one who has moved on.

Not Gauri and not Jagya as he keeps remembering her.

Thats where the difference lies.

Her weakness is Jagya and this divorce needs to be done for her to completely leave him and for her to even move on from the very thought of Jagya.

Will she ever stop loving him ...I Don't know. I do not think so because, that soft corner for him will always remain. They did share their entire childhood + some good Adult years together. And she did save his life so the bond is very deep , no matter how much we would like it not to be there.

her calling might be a subconscious part of her wanting to talk to him, or just because she is Anandi , thats what she does being courteous and would do it even for Gauri or because she wants to take revenge subconsciously by telling him that you are still dependent on me. or ... or ... or

No matter what we say, the fact remains , she is in love with Jagya... and has also convinced herself that this person is not the Jagya who she is in love with and he is lost but, perhaps a look alike or someone with resemblance, thus the soft corner.

my 2 cents.

Edited by Suchi-NivReniac - 14 years ago

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charminggenie

@charminggenie

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Posted: 14 years ago

#18

@annika20

I disagree on few pts with you, 1st for the pause, well it is going to be a very awkard conversation., just to speak to hm withouht ny feelings is a big deal for her, she composed herself and handled it pretty well.

well when she said no to Dadisa about emails , it was about giving that second chance to him, she realized it way b4 ny1 that her Jagat is lost. Since her marriage , she hasnt begged or pleaded ny1 about J taking her back. For a woman who has been taught that her husband is God , thats a big deal.

The call would numb her, the best indication of moving on is even when u can look at a person and be polte and cordial lyk ts no big deal. if she hadnt called , it could have left a door open for Jagat's voice sumday startling her. They may face each other at some pt, so this just prepared her 4 that stage. Best way to move on is ndifference , which this call proved. She didnt mopped, she didnt remember her tyms with him rather it was he who was qsing his divorce.

I agree that Jagat type guys exist cause of docile wives but at the same tym we do have examples of women lyk Anandi for whom more than vengence it is their integrity that pushes them ahead.

As far as she taking up social causes, well that is her calling, her lyf suffering, her lack of education now that unjust to poor these are issues closer to her nature, i consider it a bg step but at the same tym i would luv to see take an offical position lyk IAS or something, which makes her fnancially independent. SHe should be free of every support that is her ultimate goal

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642126

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Posted: 14 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: vasuja
i agree with tinoo and annika...but that is anandi right...she has not yet moved on...she is just trying to...that is the reason i feel that Jagya will get the divorce too easily without any punishment...Anandi will just shake her head for mutual consent and every thing will be over...I hope Bhairon or basanth just go and present the case of bigamy and do something...there is no hope from Anandi to punish Jagya...

I wish during her samaj seva, when she urges people to fight for their rights, i hope someone in the crowd point out how she left her husband scott free and she cannot preach other...Anandi gets on my nerves when she does this...Her logic is 😡

That is why I was not excited when Bapusa said that I will give money to Anandi, she can give anyone...because anandi is not gonna wait till jagya asks...she proactively deposits and then inform...a thick skinned person like Jagya cannot get ashamed becoz of that...I wish Bhairon has totally refused giving money...Jaggu dada ki saccha pyaar do din mein pata chal jaata...I was not even happy with loss of stipend becoz I knew Anandi will send money.

I magine the situation of Jagya with no money, bade paapa funding both of them...even the smallest thing gauri says he would have taken it other way and shown his sacha pyaar😡

So true!! She's lying to herself and merely making a show of moving on - if they show her like this!

She knows she can't get her Jagya back. But I think she is yet to detach herself from him! She is still the paanch saal pehle wali Anandi!

Vasu Bhairon and Basant cannot do anything unless Anandi - the wronged party agrees to open her mouth! Lawyers will also be helpless!

Anandi will not do anything at all! She talks of family's izzat! Arrey in reality it's also about Jagya's izzat and reputation!!

Thinking of others is good. But it's foolish when you're only thinking of others and not at all about yourself!

It's true. I hope others point out to her that she chose to keep silent and did not even want to let her husband know of his illegal marriage. She let her husband go scot-free, so with what face and in what capacity is she trying to give margdarshan to others??!!

When she undertakes her social work, she will not just have to educate people but also inform them about laws! She will come across women like her who were cheated, but who want to live with their husband only and not want to move on. With what face will she tell them about laws?!

You don't practice what you preach so what's the point of preaching?! How is this stance different from Gauri's preaching about rights of child brides but actually trampling on the rights and life of another child bride? One woman got exploited and let others exploit her, another exploited someone for her own gain. What's the difference?

Anyay sehne wala anyay karne wale se bada paapi hota hai! Isn't this what Bhagwad Gita says?

Like I said yesterday, Vasu, to me, Anandi's support to J and her inaction against him or not even exactly moving away from him is very much like King Dhritrashtra not doing anything against Duryodhan due to his emotional attachment to his son and feeling of helplessness or guilt in doing anything against him or refusing anything to him!🤢

Bhairon should not have given any rights to Anandi if he wanted to teach a lesson to J. He should not have allowed Anandi to interfere in his decision in dealing with J. J's eyes would have opened and he'd have known atte-daal ka bhaav when his funding would've stopped!!😡

The biggest thing Bhairon needed to do was to stop Jagya communicating with Anandi and seeing to it that he's never able to talk to her or emotionally blackmail her, use her to get his things done!

I always say, this so-called ostracism of Jagya or so-called family cutting off ties with Jagya - it's all a big sham! Dhakonsla hai yeh!

Arrey1 He's not even having to ask Anandi. Bina kahey sab ho raha hai and she's also updating him about family well-being. Kya khaak sazaa hai yeh?!!

A thick-skinned guy like him needs something really solid to teach him a lesson.

I don't even call it Gandhigiri. That's like announcing Civil Disobedience first, but obeying all government rules and orders the very next day! Gandhi ji used to TAKE A SOLID STAND. Gandhigiri doesn't mean letting others walk all over you like a doormat!

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642126

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Posted: 14 years ago

#20

@Suchi

But I don't understand! Why then, did she say she will never forgive him when he talked to her in cowshed?? Shouldn't she have told him she's forgiven him?

Why?

They are presenting a very confused picture here. She realises that he has moved out or away from her life. But why say she can never stop loving him or he will always be a part of her life?

@charminggenie

No bad trauma? If this is so, then why did she tell him she will NEVER forgive him, when he talked to her in the cowshed? Why did she tell him never to do that with another woman what he did to her? Is this what you call ''no bad trauma''?

I don't say she ought to have sounded pissed! No! But she did NOT talk in a no-nonsense manner.

Why did she pause upon hearing his voice? And for a moment she was about to get emotional? Her face made it seem ki uska dil bhar aaya...

It was not at all a cold conversation. True it was not sugary sweet either. But the pause and basically mutual pause was hinting at attachment...

It was not a to-the-point conversation. She should have informed about money deposit only. Why ask him of his well being or inform him of others' well being?

And if his family supporting her, is something that makes her feel obligated to him, then as I always maintain, the Singh family's support to her is a sham and is basically doing little good to her! It's keeping her emotionally tied and making her feel indebted!

It will leave door open for Jagya's re-entry or his and G's acceptance in family. Perhaps Anandi will call J her brother and G her bhabhi! Who knows? Or she might even leave the house once she gets educated and is able to stand on her feet. She might tell them to accept J-G, thank them for their ehsaan and move out of house!

Don't talk about contrast between J and A. The CVs have shown it more than enough. We can also sense contrast when we see Anandi feeling hopeful and looking forward to a new future, while J and G rot in insecurity and doubts all alone in Mumbai!

I don't say Anandi should take revenge! I did not feel she was being indifferent to Jagya. She did go numb for a while and indirectly kept him connected to family, giving him a sense of connection towards his family, apart from the money of course!

Integrity would have also come through if she had truly talked in a casual manner, in a proper tone, without any awkward pause and not dragged the conversation talking about family or his well being!

I don't know if social work is really her calling. Her actions make me doubtful. I wanted to see it as her mission in life and not as a way of taking her mind off her pain. I hope she's actually serious about standing on her feet and it's more to her, than just a way to resolve pain!

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