Member of the Week - Akshata - Page 8

Originally posted by: Akshata

Oh yes. I have read all the books you mentioned and many more.Sidney Sheldon is amy all time favorite too. Archer too. I had to read "Not a penny less not a penny more twice to understand it.😳( I was in high school)

Jhumpa Lahiri's work sounds interesting.Shall try to get my hands on that one.

What are your views on "love at first sight"?

Some years ago I would have said an emphatic YES. But today I think it's Attraction at first sight.True love happens and gets stronger over the passage of time.But that whole feeling of being in love after the first meeting is heady....no doubt about that.

These are just my thoughts.

Jhumpa Lahiri is OK - I mean she writes well, her observations are interesting but I did not find her books a complete page turner only because the fictional storeies were not stories - just narratives! But then I know some who thought her books were absolute page turners so I guess it completely depends on the individual.

I like PG Wodehouse too and I like the "William" Series by Richmal Crompton. Hilarious!! Have you read those? Also, Enid Blyton's.. Ooh..

I agree with you completely on "Love at first Sight". I too believe attraction at first sight is more common than love at first sight..

What in your opinion are the pros and cons of a love and arranged marriage?

What kind of clothes do you usually wear everyday? Western or Indian? Which ones? Do you like Salwars?

Jhumpa Lahiri is OK - I mean she writes well, her observations are interesting but I did not find her books a complete page turner only because the fictional storeies were not stories - just narratives! But then I know some who thought her books were absolute page turners so I guess it completely depends on the individual.

I like PG Wodehouse too and I like the "William" Series by Richmal Crompton. Hilarious!! Have you read those? Also, Enid Blyton's.. Ooh..

I know what you mean.Like "God of small things",Roy won an award and it became fashionable to say one had read her book.But I found it quite boring.I don't enjoy very serious stuff.

I agree with you completely on "Love at first Sight". I too believe attraction at first sight is more common than love at first sight..

What in your opinion are the pros and cons of a love and arranged marriage?

I'm not sure if you can call them pros and cons,but the obvious differences I see are these:

In a love marriage the girl and boy know each other well and and if they have courted long enough,they are aware of eachother's strengths and weaknesses. They enjoy the thrill and romance even before the marriage.They marry because they want to be wth eachother for the rest of their life,so a lot of things will be accepted.

In an arranged match,everyone plays safe.A lot is known about the whole clan before the match is fixed.Two strangers start a life to gether and discover each other in course of time.A lot is expected.

But frankly,I wonder what I have written holds true in today's love or arranged marriages. The concept of arranged marriage has undergone such a change.Only meetings are arranged.If it's done without the involvement of elders or parents we call it a love match.

I think what is happening to day is ideal.Reliable friends or sometimes parents arrange the meeting and the boy and girl meet and decide for themselves.I know people who were given e-mail ids of eligible boys/girls,they corresponded,found compatibility,met,liked/loved each other and are happily married. In what category would one put such marriages?

What kind of clothes do you usually wear everyday? Western or Indian? Which ones? Do you like Salwars?

It depends on the weather/season. In HKG it's quite common to wear Indian clothes,so one does not feel out of place. Trousers are ideal in cold weather.

I wear Western and Indian depending on the occasion.On special occasions like Pujas I wear Sarees.I prefer churidaars to salwaars.

Originally posted by: innocentindian

hey aksh - your answers are just fine.. my last question was not cos I was "questioning" 😉 your "short" answers...

the last question just occurred to me, so i asked...that's all...

...but chances are, it probably wont be my last question.. 😆

Hey II so where are your questions? Got busy,eh? Everyone has asked me questions that required some serious thinking and answers;I was depending on you to ask me questions that brought out replies showing the humoros side of Akshata.😃

Just kidding.It's my last day and I have a surprise for all of you.I shall post it at midnight in this thread.

But first let me reply to your previous question in a not so cryptic manner.😉

"Life begins at 40" . I think the statement was made by some woman in an age when she was kind of free from household responsibilities because the kids were grown and settled maybe even married, and she felt now at 40,she could live for herself.Many women begin to feel worthless and and unwanted, so the statement was to make them realize that it's not so.

Today,women get married later,have kids when they are settled in a career and at 40 are at the peak of their career and motherhood.Some even have babies at that age. The same things that a woman felt at 40 is now felt at 60. If she has taken care of herself,she can sit back and enjoy a retired life at 60+. She can persue her hobbies and have a fun filled life. Life does not become a burden just because the biological clock is ticking away.

My mother is a living example of this.

That's my interpretation.

Originally posted by: RikNik

Fully agree with you -- I personally know some women in their early 60's and some in their 70's too whom I can relate to on a one-to-one basis and are a whole load of fun! In fact, my closest friend is a woman who is 62 and when I vacationed with her last year in June -- we had a blast and she was the one with the maximum energy and full of gusto -- let's do this and this also! She was the life of all parties that we attended and seeing her I would have to say that age is only a number and the age factor has no meaning at all. One is as old as one feels! My own mother is in her 70's and is very active -- does everything herself and is so full of life. On a more personal note was why I said that Life begins at 40 as that is when my priorities in life changed and things which were so important some time ago -- had no meaning anymore. Besides, since the day-to-day responsibilities are now different, I definitely feel more free and less bogged down esp. when I need to just get up and go or do something for myself, etc. etc. (I think I could go on forever on this issue!!)

Cheers

Quite right! This topic can go on and on. Needs,wants and naturally priorities change. and infact should change.Absolutely my thoughts,Riknik

Originally posted by: Akshata

hello there aksh....oh dear,...ya did get a bit busy....and now i don't know what to ask to bring out the humourous side of u that i already have come acrosss.....hmmm...wait till i get my thinking cap on....

in the meantime, i must say, u r answering jsut great 👏

regarding the above...i didn't know the quote was related to women...i was asking more cos u have just turned 40, and i will in a few months as well...man! i really do hope the adage applies to me as well!!!😕😉

ok, here's a few more to try to get u to burn the midnight oil!😆

do u play any sports? any badminton? how good are u at it?

have u read the alchemist? if not, then why not?😉...and also, do read it if u haven't....l....but if u have then what did u think of it....😛

what kind of films do u like? which genre?

are u a romantic person? if so, then r u a hopeless romantic? or how would u describe yourself? 😆

how has being in HKG developed you? describe any experiences (altho i know u have talked abt this sort of stuff already, but see if u can write any more)

What was the best day of your life apart from the birth of your son (and wedding)

...r u able to tell us the worst day?

What has IF done for u? Why do u come here (and u can't say for time-pass)

what do u not like abt IF?

.....sorry aksh - can't think of anything humourous...😳😛