Aadhya, Shruthi and Anuj are cut from the same cloth - Page 4

Originally posted by: Radhiii

Anuj did defend anupama and told shruti that her demand was unreasonable but makers have made up their mind to change the character of shruti totally.

Also, there was no need for anupama to agree to unreasonable demand of shruti and act mahaan. She has God syndrome which makes her fall everytime yet she doesn't know when to stop. All her sufferings are self induced and only she can help herself no one else...

Agreed Anuj did tell Shrew her demand was not reasonable yesterday but I am talking about him putting his foot down when Shrew gave out the wedding invitation on Anupama’s bday and kind of demanded Anupama cook for the wedding. And he should have had the guts to chastise Shrew for the pic incident. He is acting spineless with Shrew and at the same time behaves like a simpering idiot when it comes to Anupama. He needs to make up his mind, that’s all, one woman only cannot hang on to both.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

True aadhya is nihayati batameej and egoistic person aadhya is too irritating just like pakhi

Pakhi and aadhya ko.ki common heej hai both are aggressive ungrateful and has over hatred for her mother both are very cruel to their mother

In dono ko agar inke man mutabic cheej nahi milti to yeh nayi mummy dhoodne lagti hai

Both pakhi and aadya are selfish

And don’t forget Paritosh.

Originally posted by: HoneyBee7312

Exactly. Just say no. There is no need to cater in the wedding. There are other restaurants and caterers let them go there.

Ha bolna bhi hai phir hai me bechari bhi karna hai.

Toh mat karna Jagat Mata. Thekka lene ke liye bola kisne isko?

Agreed. Anupama is not saving the world by giving into unreasonable demands and no need to play martyr, it is pukeworthy.

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

And what is her father’s happiness? Anupama?

The same woman with whom he couldn’t spend a single peaceful day in 3 yrs of marriage? Who couldn’t prioritise her new husband and the daughter she willingly adopted and chose Shahs’ happiness at the cost of her immediate family? Just like every parent has a right to think of their child’s well being and happiness, same way a child has equal rights to decide what’s good or bad for their parents.

Aadhya is selfish? Right! She has borrowed Crores or Rupees from Anupama or taken tonnes of favors from her just like Shahs took from Anuj and keep taking from Anupama all the time? Aadhya is selfish because she is thinking about and wanting a peaceful happy life and family which is impossible with a woman like Anupama and Shahs around. I think if that’s the case, everyone should become selfish.

Aadhya is mannerless because she atleast cared to say Sorry to her so called adoptive mother, or maybe mannerless because she didn’t have a Mother to give her right Sanskaars and Parvarish like Anupama gave her bio kids, forget saying sorry, they won’t leave the slightest opportunity to humiliate and ridicule their birth mother.

Better to be mannerless like Aadhya than be shameless gold diggers like Anupamaa’s bio kids!

A spouse is no one to allow or not allow the other one. They are not each other’s slave like Anupama is to Vanraj. It’s a relation of mutual trust and understanding. If allowing was the case, he should have never allowed Anupama to visit Shah house multiple times a day and serve them like a Maid every single day or meet her ex husband middle of the night and keep secrets from her current husband or banned her Shah house entry when they humiliated Anuj multiple times, held his collar, abused him, threw him out and a lot more, and Anupama didn’t utter a word.
He could just request her, explain to her which he tried his best to do but Anupamaa is Anupamaa, the Devi Maa who decides for others and herself.

Likewise, he explained to Shruti, he went to Anupamaa to decline the catering offer, again tried his best to make Anupamaa not accept the changes in menu last min, he opposed Shruti, what else can a person do? Anupama didn’t listen to her client and boss both, wanted to act God to Shruti, its Anupamaa’s problem no one else’s! She doesn’t know how to just mind her own business and life!

Her father’s happiness is in whatever and whoever he chooses, be it Anupama or not. Anuj might want to stay unmarried all his life, his prerogative.

Anuj can tell Shrew, he does not want Anupama catering at his wedding, period. Cat didn’t get his tongue.

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

I have always said, both Anuj and Anupamaa are messed up people and Aadhya deserved a much happy family and sensible parents.

And I disagree that Anupama gave any time to CA when she was young to instil any values in her or just guide her on the right path so the question of correcting her bad parenting doesn’t even arise!

CA was a self dependent and much happy child when she was adopted. Her panic attacks started due to insecurity of her mother/parents leaving her and dropping her back to the Ashram.

Anuj was possibly going thru a lot of his own stuff to give right parenting to Aadhya. But, Aadhya is not a bad or spoilt child like Anupama’s bio kids, the only person who triggers her is Anupama and anything or anyone related to her/Shahs and Anuj is completely at fault for bringing Anupama again and again in front of Aadhya.

The show’s name is Anupama and she is hailed as the best mother, for giving best upbringing and best values to her children which is very well visible in her own kids, and I don’t say that Anuj has done nothing to show Aadhya the right path or give give her any values at all. He scolded her on Holi Dahan night, said quite much irrelevant stuff in favor of Anupama to make Aadhya feel guilty, she said sorry to her adoptive mother and even in hospital spoke to her quite nicely, that’s also upbringing.

She is a self dependent child and often seen taking care of herself at home, that’s also parenting and a good upbringing.

You may feel he is entitled, and I find Anupama and Shahs the most entitled yet thankless people on this show with zero self respect, we can agree to disagree rather than going in circles.

Respect your take on it and don’t disagree with most of what you have written. I do not say Aadhya does not have an excuse to feel the way she does but at 15, she needs to learn some self control and not behave the way she does. Yes, she craves for her mother’s love, Anupama did not do right in leaving when she did. Anuj was wrong in questioning Anupama but to cut ties with a kid, was not logical. Anuj probably indulges Aadhya cos he feels guilty she is deprived of a mother’s love and because of his own shortcomings as a parent. All that is a given. But that still does not sit well when Aadhya throws tantrums at every turn. She is not 6 or 7, she is 15, and Anuj should get her the help of a therapist and attend joint therapy sessions with her. The problem has to be addressed not shoved under the carpet like Anuj habitually does.

I don’t like Anupama’s baashans and she is not the perfect mother, far from it. But she tries and for that I will give her credit except when she left choti with no explanation.

Originally posted by: Harish111

Because Anupama's kids have done a million things worse yet you guys don't say the same thing about them. Pakhi has thrown way worse tantrums and has been way worse rude but I don't see such posts about her.

Trauma and PTSD is 100% an excuse for such behavior, any psychiatrist will tell you that throwing tantrums is an attention seeking behavior which kids who feel abandoned always show. It's a natural behavior of abandoned kids and can only be cured by love, understanding and time.

This is not a comparison. And each time a viewer chews out one character, the viewer does not have to delineate the rights and wrongs of other characters in the show.

Agree 100% Toshu and Paakhi are way worse than Aadhya in my opinion. But that doesn’t make Aadhya pure as driven snow either. Each of them has flaws and while expounding on one or two or three characters in this post, one cannot be expected to compare all others in the show as well.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Anuj and Adhya are literally entering a loveless marriage rather than telling this kid not to interfere in their adult, romantic matters. Anuj wanted to clear things with Shruti, she purposefully didn't let him. Shruti wanted to leave, Anuj stopped her because Adhya threw a tantrum. Divorce is not a bad thing. If Shruti chose to dunp his ass, his daughter would get traumatised and hate Shruti for "abandoning" her and popsy of the year would catfish another woman.

If you think that a tiny little child should discuss ex-ko-jealous-kar-rahi-ho mind games with a parental figure, and that is better than having divorced parents— good for you.

If you think a daughter (implying a platonic relationship based on care and protection) telling her parent that she will only "share" him with an approved wife/fiance (a romantic relationship based on mutual transaction) is something age-appropriate or psychologically healthy—good for you.

If you think a preteen telling a parent that you don't feel safe around their ex is the same as a preteen sneaking out of their school, going to the parent's ex's workplace to accost them and emotionally hurt them by lying about their parent's supposed wedding— GOOD FOR YOU.

I just hope no real kid ever grows up with so many complexes and has someone lookjng out for their mental health

Exactly! You hit the nail on the head, several times with your post.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

I can bring in five different situations where Adhya did not let Anuj come clean with Shruti hefore her birthday, and you can stop the deflection that I am blaming a kid for an adult's actions when I have been calling Anuj a bad parent for not taking her to therapy and drawing boundaries with her.

And what horifying thing did happen to Adhya, apart from her father moving to a first world country for her, paying no alimony to his ex, not taking her to therapy, and catfishing an adult, that caused her to be in a weird sort of emotional competition with her father's romantic prospects? How is poor, unsophisticated Upmaa more responsible for the lack of Adhya's mental healthcare than a billionaire Anuj?

You know bad things can happen to kids even if parents try to prioritise them in every decision. If your ideal parenting is to prevent them from ever dealing with any unpleasantness, that is simply not how the world works.

Anupamaa was allegedly an abusive mother, she removed herself, if the angel parent that stayed back did not help the child to overcome the supposed PTSD— he is the one setting her up for a lifetime of hurt.

This "woman evil for divorcing guy" shitck while the story is based in US — a country with the tenth highest divorce rate is hilarous. Realistically, Adhya probably has 5 classmates who have single parents/shared families lol.

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 wow! You said it all and so aptly too.

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

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Response: Yes, you are right. They indeed!

They are ALL living in an illusion and expecting too much.

Aadhya is living under the illusion that the only parent who stood by her when the (adoptive) mother first neglected, let her be abused by her pseudo Maykewale and then abandoned her will understand her trauma and come to terms with his own reality. She is hanging on to the hope of a normal, happy family and in her own way striving self-preservation only to be broken, eventually.

Shruti is living under the illusion that Anuj will eventually move on from the past and come to loving her. She is choosing to turn a blind eye to Anuj's obsessive love for Anupama. She is hanging on to straws that lay with the hope of building her family.

Anuj is living under the illusion that he ever mattered, matters in Anupama's life despite the crystal writing on the wall. He is hopeful of being loved back by the only love of his life and after coming infront of her after 5 years, he is willing to go to any lengths of self-destruction for the same.

Wonder which of their illusions will be realized?

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Wonder which of their illusions will be realized?

Painfully, none. They are illusions fir a reason.

But hey, you never know.