Is forgiveness so easy? - Page 2

Very problematic message propagated by the FL of the so called women empowerment show. One hopes that at least because of shows like Anupama, the TRP aunties might learn something or change their mindset but here the same regressive mindset is propagated constantly. That bade can do anything they want and youngsters have to listen because they are like God. You are telling me the vile Baa is equal to God? That's literal blasphemy and pathetic that a so called Kanhaji devotee would say that. And everything is blamed on aaj kal ke bacche and joint families are hailed as superior, so anyone who wants to move out for a better life or opportunities feels guilty and bad. Women, no matter how educated or career oriented are only good if they also do their household work and quietly listen to everything their husbands and in laws say, even if it's entirely wrong. If they only go to office and leave the house work to maids/cooks, they are vamps or terrible people. And the idea of how a "bahu" should be is too problematic in this show. Kavya will never get her haq in this house, I seriously hope she doesn't come back. Anupama is willing to come back from the US for her ex-saas, where does this poor girl have a chance? Hope she stays far far away with her child.

And as for Vanraj, I have no words. How can one feel sympathy for Anupama or her "trauma", where is the trauma? Seems as if it was a mutual amicable divorce that they are able to talk and behave like this with each other. I seriously feel bad for Anuj's character, the way his is being treated vs how Vanraj has been throughout the show. Pathetic DKP.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05v6JdY8LRM

Originally posted by: Shake_d_spear

If Anupama is entitled to forgive husband vanraj then why can't she forgive her 2 nd husband anuj jisne vanraj ke mukable kuch bhi nhi kiya jisse usse maaf na Kiya ja sake , ye ho sakta she never considered anuj as husband

The woman is highly attach to vanraj which make her forgive him always or ye baccho ke baa bapuji ki vajah se nhi hai . No woman with little bit of self respect will see vanraj's face or want to keep any relationship thim when he questioned her character that 2 after divorce, it means she still loves vanraj never really accepted or respected anuj as husband

The mentality and upbringing of a traditional woman like Anupama means that she will always be attached to Vanraj for a lifetime. She was raised with the motive of looking after family and especially the husband. Adjustment, sacrificing and letting go comes to her naturally, regardless of whatever he does because she never visualised a future or life without him, until a couple of years ago. And it will take her a long time for her to change.

It was not just about the cheating, she invested 25 years of her life in the home she built with Vanraj and she was/is still not educated and empowered enough, to take a stand for herself and give that up, unlike an independent, working woman of today. For that matter, even Kinjal who is such a woman, is still shown to be staying with Paritosh though she has ample options not to, and move out herself. And they have barely been together for a while.

Anuj can never be in the same breath as Vanraj for her. Keeping aside that he is a highly fantastical and unrealistic presence, the time she spent with him can't match up to the more than two decades of marital life with Vanraj. This is not to say that her life with Vanraj was great but from her perspective it was bliss. Moreover, there is no particular family to bind her with Anuj, which is crucial for a person like her, for whom family is paramount. So yes, Anuj is similar to a rebound and will never have the same status as Vanraj because the depth of emotions and attachment can't be compared.

But you tell me how can a married women happily take a stroll with her ex husband knowing he still lusts after her being married himself? I think i would maintain my distance with such kind of a person knowing his intention. No women would be comfortable unless the ex husband doesn't have any wrong intention

This can be the only explanation as nothing else makes sense for her to keep going back to her abusers without feeling even an ounce of anger or disrespect

Originally posted by: Radhiii

But you tell me how can a married women happily take a stroll with her ex husband knowing he still lusts after her being married himself? I think i would maintain my distance with such kind of a person knowing his intention. No women would be comfortable unless the ex husband doesn't have any wrong intention

Ideally, that should be the case. Where exes have an equation but are not too close. But if I'm not wrong, she has defended him and his intentions several times, so she does not seem to doubt him. Maybe, she is too invested in the life she shares with him. As the parents of their children and taking care of Hasmukh-Leela. So, the separation as a couple, may not end up mattering beyond a point?

Actually kinjal was never this kind of person if i remember she was always headstrong . I remember her taking stand for anupama couple of times when she got to know about vanraj's Infidelity. she even said to anupama that why she is still tolerating all this. I guess she is walking on the same path as her idol and inspiration now that is anupama hence the change in her ( not a good change surely)

Vanraj himself asked anupama to come back to him when anuj went to picnic with choti anu and maya so she very well knows what his intentions were so there is no question of having a doubt when things are clearly said by him

He asked her to return to shah house as Malkin when anuj left

Originally posted by: Radhiii

Vanraj himself asked anupama to come back to him when anuj went to picnic with choti anu and maya so she very well knows what his intentions were so there is no question of having a doubt when things are clearly said by him

If that's the case, then she could have become indifferent because his presence is more important. The way she tolerated all the wrongs towards herself till a certain point, for the sake of maintaining the marriage. Not really surprised but can't think of another reason as to why she may put up with this.