Is it really possible??

Although i know that this show is just a fiction😆.

But is it really possible that a person can survive so much abuse that too for 26 years as shown in this ?? Anyone who has dealt with such abuse that too for a long time becomes mentally unstable and ends in an asylum . But seeing from the first episode itself anupama looked fine and in no time she behaves as if nothing happened. Seems like the makers have done no research. She is literally worshipping them and jhoola jhooling 🤪 with them( Stockholm syndrome may be) . It feels extremely uncomfortable how irresponsible these makers are and how people will be encouraged to emulate what Anupama did. They would think that it's ok to forgive the sinners as they are sort of related in so e way and familial relations should not be broken no matter how toxic .

Anyone who has dealt with abuse would feel devasted when they see this show as I myself did how these characters are being whitewashed nowadays. 💔

The makers should have either not shown such thing but as they had done, there should be legal courtroom drama where anupama could have really shone out . But all they did was stupid family drama , baa jaap , baapuji jaap , family toxic hai to kya hua , meri hai ( Reminded me if that kukure ad slogan Tedha hai par mera hai ).

Anupama could have been a faulty character but she should have been literally corrected by Devika or some other person . They should have taught audience about verbal abuse and mental torture but instead instilled stupid long lectures and made the character that everyone rooted for a literal fool . I don't why no one even sues them for encouraging such stupidity. 😡

Originally posted by: Aarz00_19

Although i know that this show is just a fiction😆.

But is it really possible that a person can survive so much abuse that too for 26 years as shown in this ?? Anyone who has dealt with such abuse that too for a long time becomes mentally unstable and ends in an asylum . But seeing from the first episode itself anupama looked fine and in no time she behaves as if nothing happened. Seems like the makers have done no research. She is literally worshipping them and jhoola jhooling 🤪 with them( Stockholm syndrome may be) . It feels extremely uncomfortable how irresponsible these makers are and how people will be encouraged to emulate what Anupama did. They would think that it's ok to forgive the sinners as they are sort of related in so e way and familial relations should not be broken no matter how toxic .

Anyone who has dealt with abuse would feel devasted when they see this show as I myself did how these characters are being whitewashed nowadays. 💔

The makers should have either not shown such thing but as they had done, there should be legal courtroom drama where anupama could have really shone out . But all they did was stupid family drama , baa jaap , baapuji jaap , family toxic hai to kya hua , meri hai ( Reminded me if that kukure ad slogan Tedha hai par mera hai ).

Anupama could have been a faulty character but she should have been literally corrected by Devika or some other person . They should have taught audience about verbal abuse and mental torture but instead instilled stupid long lectures and made the character that everyone rooted for a literal fool . I don't why no one even sues them for encouraging such stupidity. 😡

You are very right

I remember watching an old movie one on TV

That has similar story as anupama but no anuj

Hubby is having relations with other woman like vanraj but acts good with wife

One day wife catches him with another woman and she loses her sanity and becomes mad

She is admitted in mental asylum for few years than gets better and sent back to hubby home

Now kids are bit big like 10 plus years not 2 or 3 years like when she went mad

They do not treat her as mom only a maid they listen

Hubby obviously does not want her as he has a GF

This lady tries her best to be accepted by hubby and kids just like anupama but no one accept her

One day she goes to neighbor house and neighbouring woman comments on her hubby going to another woman house(GF)

this time this woman goes mad for life and in asylum for life

I cannot understand how anupama behave so normal with her hubby who cheated and in laws because in that movie the heroine attacks her in laws for giving birth to such a cheap son etc before she loses sanity

She even hits her hubby for cheating her and i think this movie was made in 70s or 80s

It is possible,Anu was very very young when she married to vanraj,and the kind of background she came from,she got moulded in that family accordingly. And mental abuse is the kind where you might not even be aware for years that you were being emotionally manipulated and abused.

So,it's not a very new thing to see.

So many women in their respective families face this,and they might either think it as normal,or keep quiet for the sake of relations or family.

According to writers, PTSD stands for - Pooja, Thenku, Speeches and Dance

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

It is possible,Anu was very very young when she married to vanraj,and the kind of background she came from,she got moulded in that family accordingly. And mental abuse is the kind where you might not even be aware for years that you were being emotionally manipulated and abused.

So,it's not a very new thing to see.

So many women in their respective families face this,and they might either think it as normal,or keep quiet for the sake of relations or family.

I think the way it is shown in this show is too intense . Even men have to suffer silently in marriage under the garb of fulfilling responsibilities. There are many examples. The abuse in this show is horrific as she suffers mental strains each and every second. She would have died by now or must have been in an asylum.

Originally posted by: Aarz00_19

I think the way it is shown in this show is too intense . Even men have to suffer silently in marriage under the garb of fulfilling responsibilities. There are many examples. The abuse in this show is horrific as she suffers mental strains each and every second. She would have died by now or must have been in an asylum.

I agree men too suffer

In this serial anuj is suffering at hands of anupama and his so called in laws shahs

Anuj loves anupama so much that he takes all humiliation from shahs and ignorance of anupama towards his family with blind eyes

But in reality no man would be like anuj for very long taking his wife gong to 1st hubby house everyday on one or other pertex leaving her responsibility of his house

It looks now like barkha is the lady of house in kapadia house hold not anupama as anupama is never there at home

Indeed ankush and anuj and adhik all men of home are more at home than her

Usually in any house hold you observe the woman of house are more at home althought they may work as after work they rush back home to take care of house and kids

Here its opposite its males of house more at home doing house hold tasks than anupama and taking care of kids and elders and maids or servants

Few men bear with wife tantrums like anupamas favoritism to mayka walaas silently for kids sake

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I agree men too suffer

In this serial anuj is suffering at hands of anupama and his so called in laws shahs .

Anuj loves anupama so much that he takes all humiliation from shahs and ignorance of anupama towards his family with blind eyes

But in reality no man would be like anuj for very long taking his wife gong to 1st hubby house everyday on one or other pertex leaving her responsibility of his house

It looks now like barkha is the lady of house in kapadia house hold not anupama as anupama is never there at home

Indeed ankush and anuj and adhik all men of home are more at home than her

Usually in any house hold you observe the woman of house are more at home althought they may work as after work they rush back home to take care of house and kids

Here its opposite its males of house more at home doing house hold tasks than anupama and taking care of kids and elders and maids or servants

Few men bear with wife tantrums like anupamas favoritism to mayka walaas silently for kids sake

Yes .. anupama ,Anuj and ,CA don't have proper family dynamics. Looks extremely superficial without any chemistry.

CA and anupama don't have that mother daughter chemistry. The latter looks so unattached. She is a stupid woman .

Vanraj abused her so much but it took an EMA revelation for her to against him . She was and is still praising baa . Maa maa ki rat lagaye rakhti hai ..

Apni khud ki maa ka birthday tak yaad nahi isko aur baa bapuji ki anniversary ki tayari karwani hai

Depends from person to person on how they handle stress and trauma..

Anupama was made to believe since young age that dominating husband n inlaws r normal n every woman has same situation.

So she was just adjusting to her situations. Only after she realised that she is tolerating everything from a husband who wasn't even honest with her she broke free.

Being cordial with ex husband n in laws is her nature. N now we too see many ex lovers or married couples too try to do same for sake of children.

Originally posted by: naaznin

Depends from person to person on how they handle stress and trauma..

Anupama was made to believe since young age that dominating husband n inlaws r normal n every woman has same situation.( I completely blame Anupamas mother for this. Don't know why but she is the reason of all this. Instead of Anu's father , Kanta should have died😡. I know it's just a fiction. So no worries.LOL😆)

So she was just adjusting to her situations. Only after she realised that she is tolerating everything from a husband who wasn't even honest with her she broke free.

Being cordial with ex husband n in laws is her nature. N now we too see many ex lovers or married couples too try to do same for sake of children.

I have never seen anything like this, thou. Maybe being raised in the USA and living here now, I was shielded from this time of behavior in Pakistan. The woman, I know, the woman who are abused by their husband and in-laws tend to not want to have anything to do with their exes after divorce. They ask for court appointed designated person to pick and drop off their child for the other parents weekend and visitation. I mentioned my younger cousin and younger sister few post back last week. After their divorces neither my cousin nor my sister dealt with their ex again. they let their lawyers (in my cousin's case) and in my sister's case ( both lawyer for child support issues) and my younger siblings and parents were assigned by judge to take my niece to pick and drop off my niece off to see her father until she was able to take herself. My niece turned 16th last year, got her license and car so she takes herself over to her father's house for his visitation rights. My younger sister hasn't spoken to her ex since she signed their divorce papers in court with her attorney there. So seeing Anupama act this way is not normal to me. It comes off as Stockholm Syndrome type case. She needs help.