Do kids really hate their working mom why? - Page 3

Just sati simple Anupama is so mahaan no one is born like her and never will be ,that's why I left this show watch long time ago .

As with anything in life, balance is important. Whether working mom or stay at home mom, having an emotional connection with children and developing a secure attachment with them the first few years of their life is most important. In my personal opinion, there should be one parent at home with children for at least the first year of their life, and if not parents, then at least grandparents or some kind of family member who will genuinely love and care for the child when they’re at the most vulnerable age. No daycare or nanny/maid will love a child like family does. It’s ok to put in daycare once child is around 2 years because they’re a little more independent and can communicate with parents if someone is abusing them. I know this isn’t always feasible, especially when 2 incomes are needed for a household to survive and pay basic expenses, but at least find a job that doesn’t take you away from home for all your child’s waking hours. When will a child form attachment to their parent if they’re gone from 7 AM – 7 PM, sometimes even longer? Parents become literal strangers and nanny is basically raising them. This doesn’t apply to just women but also men. How many of us, who had stay at home moms and working dads, have secure attachments with our fathers who worked long hours and we barely got to see them at home? I’ve been lucky that my dad always made time for us, even while working. He sacrificed many promotions/career advancements because they would require him to work long hours, and he would barely be home. Even though my mom was a stay at home mom, my dad always wanted to support her in raising us. He was always home by 4-5pm and spent time with us in the evenings while my mom got a break. It was a wonderful setup and we were attached to both.

So yes, working women (and men) can have secure attachments with their kids too, and have good relationship with their kids, but only if their child is always the first priority. Work will always be there, but childhood passes by so fast and once your child is grown up, those younger days will never come back. I was so lucky that I was able to be both a stay at home mom for the first 1-2 years of my children’s lives, and now I’m a working mom who’s always home by 4pm because I want to spend time with my kids in the evenings before I sleep. Not just me, my husband also sacrificed his career because he too has stayed in a position that lets him work from home, so that he can pick our kids up from daycare by 3pm, so they’re not there all day. My kids too love daycare because they’re only there from 8 am- 3 pm. They play with their friends, have lunch, nap and come home to relax for the rest of the day. It’s the best of both worlds.

So if you want a good relationship with your child while working, make some sacrifices. Wait until your child is a little older before going for that big promotion that’ll take you away from home for long hours. This applies to both moms and dads. Any dad who wants a close relationship with his child should also follow this principle. Work to pay the bills, but don’t make work your entire life. Your child should be your entire life. They should be first priority. You can really tell the difference, in kids of working parents, who made kids their priority and who didn’t. Objects, toys and the latest technology do not create happiness. No child will be satisfied with these things in the long term, but love and emotional support will.

There is a difference between working and overworking. Kinjal's mom was too busy building a business. She probably had little time for her daughter. As a child it impacts when parents aren't there for them. That's why she doesn't like her mother.

Anupama's kids are different. They hate her because they wanted to see her live only for them. Their father is the hero and their mother the punching ball.

Two different worlds. Don't even understand how Kinjal fell in love with this narrow minded Toshu. 😳

I am sharing link of post which I posted long ago

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/161372240

In todays modern time its tough to get jobs or change jobs

And in work place its not like 9 to 6 like beore most days its 9am to 9pm only

They do not care you have child or pregnant

They will give low appraisal and kick you off if you do nakras

Also a business person has much more responsibility if they do not go to office daily some manager will steal all money and do gapla

Rakhi hubby does not seem to go to work so full money responsibility on rakhi head with a kid

So we cannot blame rakhi saying emotional responsibility of child

If no food and money in hand and all business goes off how will rakhi bring kinjal or provide for house and maids etc or send kinjal to good school or college or trips to USA

This is dilemma of all parents in todays world after 1990s

World is very costly now not like 50 years back school fee per year is in lakhs MBA which kinjal did is 3 to 5 lakhs may be who gave all that money but Rakhi

Did aupama or vanraj or toshu give that money that kinjal going gaga over them

Honestly if i had daughter like kinjal she will get slapped if she dares talk like that behave like that in front of others especially no way i take such nonsense from siblings forget my own kids

Our parents in 90s only went to work from 8am to 7pm or more we never made hungama

We had maids only

Did we misunderstand our parents mom or dad not at all

We understood they are working hard for our sake even as 5 year olds

90% understand that even as small kids we do not go blaming parents or grandparents

Kinjal looks too entitled and misbehaving for treating raki badly after all shes done alone

Kinjal is 28 year old to not understand world and her mothers majbori now that shes continuing her nonsense behaviours with Rakhi while fan girling and kissing anupamas ass for no reason

Has anupama given her anything in life one time that shes acting so slave like towards her

What did anuj say after kinjal left its shah family dave family issue not ours. Record it and show kinjal

Parent is own parent not any others

No one loves or bothers about others kids not even anupama or anuj

You can go and stay 10 days 1 month there not more even your ex mom in law anupama or anuj

After that they will say get out of house

Kinjal doesn't dislike Rakhi. She is close to Anupamaa not cause she was a stay at home mom and Rakhi was a working mom but because Rakhi and her dad provided her with luxury but gave her no time. Her dad didn't even show up to her wedding and in some episode she spoke about her patents not being in a school function or something like that when she was performing. She became close to Anu as she felt Anu understood her emotions and achievements and she also felt bad for how Anu was treated