Do kids really hate their working mom why?

Kinjal hates her working mom because she was left with maids

Whoever is born after 1990s is mostly had a working mother only if born in a big city especially

Because single parent money may not be enough to sustain a big famiy of 2 parents and 2 to 3 kids in a big city

School fee in india good school only goes into 5 lakh per year in metro cities

And college will be like 30-40 lakh for BE and MBBS is 2 to 3 crores n india only on par with USA/UK fees

So do kids really hate their moms who go to work and are educated?

I mean if i have a kids and if it hates me for working i may beat the shit out of it

Because first i am working my ass off for it sake and it has no gratitude

I hardly see 10% at home with baby or kids n city from illiterate to most educated are working in india cities or USA

90% leave baby in some day care and run off to work from 8am to night 7pm

If in IT industry you work from 8am to night 9pm or more and baby is in day care

Kinjal had better life many maids brought her up at her own home not in day care with 30 other kids from 3 month or 6 month baby

Thanks to such working mothers their kids do BE MBA in USA UK university get cars bikes in 11th STD and party and enjoy pizzas in biggest hotels of biggest cities

Thanks to working mothers kids get computer, I phones and laptops and tours all over india and world because moms work their as off

These kids get braded best clothes like kinjal wore or cars before

I do not understand how pakhi can afford such clothes when only dad working or step mom working its anuj kapadia wealth only may be

Instead of being grateful and proud if a child like kinjal is born better its not born

I have never seen children behave like kinjal in anywhere

Yes as a kid you may get angry on mom but as they grow they understand diff and what their mom doing

Most are happy their moms work like 9 hours or 12 hours but give them luxury life that an anupama can never give

Neither do those kids become brats like toshu pakhi and samar they are highly responsible from young ages

So message to mothers is do not go working child will hate you

Instead of woman empowerment this s woman cheer haran going on in show shaming and abusing them for working

Kinjal should be washing her mom feet and thanking her million times for sacrificing her life for kinjals growth and luxxury but shes abusing her taunting her

Rakhi fail to understand that kinjal ko non living being things se jyaada living being ki jyaada jaroorat thi Matlab kinjal ko insaan ki jyada jaroorat thi

Rakhi may have work hard to hardest to provide all non living things luxury to make her daughter happiest but yeh non living things kinjal se na baatein kar sakte they na yeh kinjal sukh dukh Samaja sakte they aur kinjal ke saath khana kha sake they

When working moms go to work, kids also go to school. Problem is not with Rakhi being a working mom or Anupama being a stay at home mom. Coz u know both moms are hated by their kids.

Can not really figure out what Kinjal's problem is, coz noone talks normally in shah house. They do not live like a normal family at all. So her going gaga over my family my family, sounds so weird coz that house can not be anyone's comfort place!

I have not seen Kinjal at her maternal house ever but maybe I can guess that maybe Rakhi worked late hours and also on weekends? Coz that is the only way she won't be around. Coz for any other normal working moms, kids are at school at the time mom is at work.

Now Anupama is also not loved or respected by her kids. In fact, she isn't respected by anyone in that family, new Samar included.

Well, how did that happen? She was not a working mom, right? And she spent all of her time with her kids coz remember she wasn't even allowed to meet her college friends.

In fact Anupama is hated/disrespected/cursed/kicked out more than Rakhi. Looking at both moms and how they are treated, I would prefer to be Rakhi any given day!

As person who has a working mom, this is my experience. Let's start with the beginning.

Starting from infancy to toddler, the child doesn't care if the mother is working or not. All they care about is their parents' attention. And really it's not their fault. It's their basic survival instinct. The luxuries are of no use to kids, they don't need it. They literally only recognise their parents and naturally feel comfortable with them only.

So what should working parents do? The most common and best way (in my opinion) is to take help of grandparents. They genuinely love the kids, kids recognise them and easier on kid. When it comes to babysitting, it is parents responsibility to check on their child regularly, carry out a background on the maids/sitters etc. There are rising cases of abuse on infants and toddlers by sitters, and child is too small to speak and parents sometimes never know about it.

Once the child enters school full time, it becomes much easier to manage. At this point, the child has his own social circle, friends and classmates. Even now the child needs parental involvement. That includes talking about the day and activities, addressing issues if any, doing homework and studies etc. In primary school, their understanding is still basic, they don't really understand money, they still desire attention. As the child is older, he understands the situation and gets used to it.

Now on the flip side there are several problems, which usually occur due to miscommunication. Child is not feeling well but fails to communicate with parents, they go about their day but child feels that parents left them when they were ill. Parents are stressed and fail to observe and pay attention to the kid. Parents want leaves so they can spend some quality time with kid but their boss disagrees. There are so many points, one post isn't enough

As a parent, it is your sole responsibility to be there for their kids. Kinjal is right when she blames Rakhi for this issue. She isn't being ungrateful for pointing out her mother's mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and that's okay. However one should be open to accepting their mistakes. The parent chose to be have a child, the child didn't ask to be born. It's parental responsibility to keep the child safe and provide basic needs to them. Love and attention are basic emotional needs of a child, if someone can't provide it then they should consider not having children. All a baby does is act on its instincts, it is not their fault.

Originally posted by: Shri_12

As person who has a working mom, this is my experience. Let's start with the beginning.

Starting from infancy to toddler, the child doesn't care if the mother is working or not. All they care about is their parents' attention. And really it's not their fault. It's their basic survival instinct. The luxuries are of no use to kids, they don't need it. They literally only recognise their parents and naturally feel comfortable with them only.

So what should working parents do? The most common and best way (in my opinion) is to take help of grandparents. They genuinely love the kids, kids recognise them and easier on kid. When it comes to babysitting, it is parents responsibility to check on their child regularly, carry out a background on the maids/sitters etc. There are rising cases of abuse on infants and toddlers by sitters, and child is too small to speak and parents sometimes never know about it.

Once the child enters school full time, it becomes much easier to manage. At this point, the child has his own social circle, friends and classmates. Even now the child needs parental involvement. That includes talking about the day and activities, addressing issues if any, doing homework and studies etc. In primary school, their understanding is still basic, they don't really understand money, they still desire attention. As the child is older, he understands the situation and gets used to it.

Now on the flip side there are several problems, which usually occur due to miscommunication. Child is not feeling well but fails to communicate with parents, they go about their day but child feels that parents left them when they were ill. Parents are stressed and fail to observe and pay attention to the kid. Parents want leaves so they can spend some quality time with kid but their boss disagrees. There are so many points, one post isn't enough

As a parent, it is your sole responsibility to be there for their kids. Kinjal is right when she blames Rakhi for this issue. She isn't being ungrateful for pointing out her mother's mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and that's okay. However one should be open to accepting their mistakes. The parent chose to be have a child, the child didn't ask to be born. It's parental responsibility to keep the child safe and provide basic needs to them. Love and attention are basic emotional needs of a child, if someone can't provide it then they should consider not having children. All a baby does is act on its instincts, it is not their fault.

Noone is a good parent in shah house. Anupama, Mr. Shah, Bapuji or Baa. All worst parents in the ITV history. But all of them are hailed as the only sanskari and loving parents. Setting wrong examples.

No, the kids of working moms don't hate them.

My 2 cents ...

Parenting is like steering a boat/ship. Parents are at the wheel while the kids ride them. As passengers, kids feel from their perspective, that the parents are steering the boat too much to the right, while the parents themselves feel that they are going straight.

So, when it is their time to steer the boat/ship, they tend to steer left because they still believe that their parents were going too much to the right. Their children who are now riding with them will feel that the parents are going too much to the left and do the opp when it is their turn.

So, the ship called "parenting" will never appear to go straight/correct direction from other's perspective.

Analogy to ship/boat and parenting was drawn to indicate that the ones in charge will feel they are right & others are wrong. But the truth about parenting is that we all get once chance at it.There is no right or wrong way. Parents do the best they can in a given situation and yet kids may not see it that way.

Please do not dissect the examples quoted here,it was only used to draw a parallel. Sorry for the poor choice of metaphor :)

Originally posted by: Koms9

I understand your point of view but they are generalizing working moms here. And we can see how Anupama has a bad parenting style and still she is being hailed as the bestest mother on planet earth, as per her bhaashans and twitter.

Noone is a good parent in shah house. Anupama, Mr. Shah, Bapuji or Baa. All worst parents in the ITV history. But all of them are hailed as the only sanskari and loving parents. Setting wrong examples.

Yes, Shah's aren't good parents. But that doesn't nullify Rakhi's mistake. People hailing Rakhi as the best is incorrect too.

Originally posted by: Shri_12

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As a parent, it is your sole responsibility to be there for their kids. Kinjal is right when she blames Rakhi for this issue. She isn't being ungrateful for pointing out her mother's mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and that's okay. However one should be open to accepting their mistakes. The parent chose to be have a child, the child didn't ask to be born. It's parental responsibility to keep the child safe and provide basic needs to them. Love and attention are basic emotional needs of a child, if someone can't provide it then they should consider not having children. All a baby does is act on its instincts, it is not their fault.

Very well put..I think parents can still be involved with their children by spending whatever quality time they could manage . asking them about their day activities and having the knowledge of what they are doing , where they are going....then it depends on children and parents too..some children are more needy than others, some parents don't take interest in their children's lives at all, not even 1 of them ..some parents have issues of their own bec of which children suffer. Some parents r there for their children physically yet they are not there . Some r overbearing and overindulging like anupama .. some children who grow up in boarding schoold turn out be independent and confident , not complain to their parents for separating them, some do.

Having said that , parents can't be blamed alone but yes , they do play a big role in shaping up their kids life..the first influence is of the parents..

Kinjal has problem with rakhi not giving her time n not understanding her forcing her decisions on Kinjal.

Working mom try to make sure they spend quality time with their children. It seems rakhi didn't do that.

Originally posted by: Shri_12

As person who has a working mom, this is my experience. Let's start with the beginning.

Starting from infancy to toddler, the child doesn't care if the mother is working or not. All they care about is their parents' attention. And really it's not their fault. It's their basic survival instinct. The luxuries are of no use to kids, they don't need it. They literally only recognise their parents and naturally feel comfortable with them only.

So what should working parents do? The most common and best way (in my opinion) is to take help of grandparents. They genuinely love the kids, kids recognise them and easier on kid. When it comes to babysitting, it is parents responsibility to check on their child regularly, carry out a background on the maids/sitters etc. There are rising cases of abuse on infants and toddlers by sitters, and child is too small to speak and parents sometimes never know about it.

Once the child enters school full time, it becomes much easier to manage. At this point, the child has his own social circle, friends and classmates. Even now the child needs parental involvement. That includes talking about the day and activities, addressing issues if any, doing homework and studies etc. In primary school, their understanding is still basic, they don't really understand money, they still desire attention. As the child is older, he understands the situation and gets used to it.

Now on the flip side there are several problems, which usually occur due to miscommunication. Child is not feeling well but fails to communicate with parents, they go about their day but child feels that parents left them when they were ill. Parents are stressed and fail to observe and pay attention to the kid. Parents want leaves so they can spend some quality time with kid but their boss disagrees. There are so many points, one post isn't enough

As a parent, it is your sole responsibility to be there for their kids. Kinjal is right when she blames Rakhi for this issue. She isn't being ungrateful for pointing out her mother's mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and that's okay. However one should be open to accepting their mistakes. The parent chose to be have a child, the child didn't ask to be born. It's parental responsibility to keep the child safe and provide basic needs to them. Love and attention are basic emotional needs of a child, if someone can't provide it then they should consider not having children. All a baby does is act on its instincts, it is not their fault.

You Have missed the entire point of OP. Its not whether this one character is good or bad. Its that ITV constantly villanizes ALL working mother and glorifies bad mothers like Anupama just because she is not working